Always laughing at others, and finally becoming a joke.

When I went home in August, I went to my uncle's house to visit my cousin who was pregnant for five months. Dinner was eaten earlier, so everyone enjoyed the cool in my cousin's yard and chatted with neighbors. A neighbor about my cousin's age, because of her fair skin, we all call her Bai Jie. She said to my cousin's six-year-old daughter, "Girl, your mother has a little brother in her belly, and she won't love you anymore." In an instant, my little niece cried, and Bai Jie said, "Oh, why are you crying?" My aunt is joking. You didn't cry when I said it before. " My cousin and I took it home on the pretext of finding something delicious for the children. I asked my cousin, does Sister Bai often say this in front of the children? Cousin said, "Yes, everyone knows that she is joking, so she is embarrassed to say it." I first found some delicious food for my little niece, and then told her that she and her mother's little brother or sister are both her mother's children, and her mother will love them. My little niece immediately went out to play with her friends in tears. Children are so simple that they are easy to cry and laugh. When I was a child, my neighbors joked that I picked it up. At first, I didn't believe it. Then everyone said so, and I took it seriously. I cried and ran to ask my mother. My mother put her in the back when she was pregnant with me. Others gave birth to babies with stomachaches. She gave me a detailed account of the process of giving birth to me before waiting for the hospital bed. From then on, no matter how others joke, I will proudly say, "I don't believe it." This kind of joke is very common, and many people may have heard it when they were young. Joking adults also think that this is just a joke, and the smile will pass, so they often play this joke, but children will take it seriously. Some time ago, it was often reported on the Internet that some children threatened to commit suicide in order to prevent their parents from having a second child. In the child's cognition, mom and dad won't love me so much after having a second child. This kind of cognition of children may come from their own imagination or from unintentional jokes of people around them, so they are very resistant and even protest in an extreme way.

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Friend Xiao Wu and boyfriend Xiao Z broke up. I was surprised when I first heard the news, because in everyone's eyes, Xiao Wu and her boyfriend are simply model couples. They have never seen each other blush and quarrel, and Xiao Wu has officially met Xiao Z's parents. It stands to reason that it is time for them to plan their marriage sweetly. Xiao Wu came to me crying before I called to ask her for details. Xiao Wu said that in everyone's eyes, Xiao Z is a good-looking gentleman. In fact, he is unkempt in private and has a bad temper. He always shouts at her. Most importantly, he always scolds Xiao Wu with jokes that he thinks are irrelevant. Two people are in the same unit, so Xiao Z often comes to her dormitory after work, and both of them are in a hurry to get married, so Xiao Z doesn't have so much scruples in her dormitory. After a long time, some shortcomings are naturally exposed. Xiao Wu said that she can accept all those shortcomings, but the most unbearable thing is that no matter what she says, Xiao Z can say, "Why are you so short and ugly?" In fact, Xiao Wu is about 163 and weighs 92 kg. Although it is not high, it is not very low among girls. If he wears high heels again, he will look particularly slim, and 178 will not be much shorter standing in front of him. Moreover, Xiao Wu is not ugly, and he has two tiger teeth, which are quite cute. They went shopping together. Xiao Wu asked him what do you think of this dress? Xiao Z said that your legs are so short that they certainly don't look good, or that you are short and fat and don't suit you. Xiao Wu thought he was joking once or twice, but he said it many times, so Xiao Wu felt that he just thought he was short and fat. Usually when it comes to a female colleague, either he is uglier than you or you are uglier than her. After a long time, Xiao Wu became suspicious of himself. Am I really that ugly? Xiao Wu said that she could not communicate with Xiao Z normally. Any girl can't stand hearing her boyfriend say that all the time. She can stand it until now and even admire herself.

It is normal for boys and girls to joke, but even if I tell the same joke too many times, I will keep it in mind even if I don't take it seriously. Just like psychological suggestion, I will repeatedly ask myself if I am really short and ugly, and I will gradually feel that I may be like this. Some time ago, the hot legend said that the beautiful woman sent by Wei had the appearance of a beautiful city, but the queen of the South wanted to regain the favor of the king of Chu out of jealousy, so she adopted a trick dedicated to her by Zhang Yi. When she saw Wei's beauty, she first bowed down as a gift and then praised her as a fairy, which made her feel ashamed. Even the maid-in-waiting says that although she is beautiful, she has one or two defects: her nose is crooked. But all the maids around her said so, and she took it seriously. Every time she saw the king of Chu, she covered her nose with a fan, but it happened that the king of Chu had body odor, thinking that Wei disliked him, and sent someone to cut her nose in a rage. This matter can also be found in history. On this matter, Bai Juyi once wrote a poem "Heaven can be measured": "Heaven can be measured, and the earth can be measured. Only the human heart can't prevent it. But seeing Dan Cheng as blood, who knows that false words are like a spring. I advise you to cover your nose so that you and your wife can participate in business. "

Therefore, joking should not only be measured, but also not always repeated. Maybe it's just fun in your eyes, but for people who are joking, it may cause doubts about themselves, thus causing psychological shadows. A joke told by a truly humorous person can not only make others happy, but also make the person who is being joked not only not mind, but also accept it. Finally, to paraphrase Mr. Lu Xun's famous saying, "Nothing is difficult in the world, only if you put your mind to it."