It is better not to be illiterate than to be illiterate.

As the saying goes, it is better not to be illiterate than to be ignorant of people. We often see stories or plots in which celebrities and heroes make jokes because they are illiterate. If you are illiterate, you may make some innocuous jokes. These are all trivial matters and do not affect the fundamentals. But if you don’t know people, how can you accomplish anything?

Knowledge of worldly affairs is knowledge, and understanding of human feelings is writing. People have praised and criticized this sentence, but it should be admitted that there is a certain truth in this sentence.

Because it is so important to know people, someone said, lend me a pair of eyes. I hope I have a pair of bright eyes. I am very envious. Sun Wukong’s blazing golden eyes can see through others as soon as he sees them. The actions of others reveal the thoughts of others.

As everyone knows, those who are good at observing others will observe themselves, and those who are good at observing themselves will observe their hearts. Only those with a righteous mind can take good care of themselves. This is what is meant by the saying that if things are flat, they will be clear, and if they are clear, they will be bright.

To know people and things, of course you need to have a mind and method that is good at comparison, but you also need to be self-disciplined. Self-study means self-cultivation, self-correction of wrong thoughts, self-correction of bad habits, etc. Being self-disciplined means making your own rules, keeping your own rules, making your own rules and regulations, and abiding by the rules yourself. If you know whether your heart is righteous, you will know whether your own person is righteous, and you can judge whether others are righteous. If you know how to distinguish things, you will know whether your own things are right, and you will know whether others' things are right. To know the people and things in the world, you must start from your own heart. Your own heart is the starting point, the starting point for being a person and doing things. Yue Fei said that the beauty of application lies in single-mindedness. How many people in the world can control their hearts so freely?

There are two statements, which seem to be contradictory. The first one is that people have the same mind and the same principle. The first time I heard it was said by my Chinese teacher in the first grade of high school. Second, everyone has his or her own mind and opinions. This is what I saw when I was reading at the beginning of the year. When you are in a position of fame and fortune, the first one applies. On a matter-of-fact basis, the second one applies. I also discovered that every time I express an opinion or conclusion, someone will always criticize it. Maybe it’s because I don’t know things well, maybe it’s because I’m soft-spoken, but I still like to hear it. I like to read all kinds of comments from netizens, whether they agree or deny or even open up their minds. It is a good place to expand your horizons and broaden your mind. It is also a good way to learn and cultivate comparative thinking, because listening to both sides will make you wise, and listening to one side will make you wiser. dark.

To be a confidant means to know one’s own strengths and weaknesses, shortcomings and advantages, to know one’s own way of thinking, to know one’s own three views, to know one’s own attitude towards the world, to know one’s own way of doing things, etc. Knowing people is nothing more than these contents. But people's hearts are separated from each other, so we still use the comparative classification method.

Because I am not a genius, and because I am not smart enough, I have developed a method or strategy for myself to know one and keep one from the beginning. When doing something, just grasp one point, grasp what I think is the most important principle or law, and then stick to this point. Of course, there may be adjustments in doing things, but this point remains unchanged, that is, there is Change is also an upgraded version of this point. This point is the key point, the knowledge point, the technical point, the value point, the motivation point, the empowering point, the basic point, the basic point, the starting point, and it should also be the ending point.

When looking at people, you should start from one point. This person has a clean face, neat and serious clothes, and is a well-educated person; this person speaks in an organized manner, and is a rigorous person; this person is open-minded and easy-going, and can discuss things. And so on. I think the most important thing when looking at people is to quickly see a person's advantages and strengths, and remember them for a long time, which can be used as the original intention.

As the saying goes, if you become a monk, you will be as good as before, and you will be more than ready to become a Buddha. So it’s important not to forget your original intention. Many people lamented that if we met each other in life, we would never have any resentment until we grow old. For example, brothers originally supported each other and made progress together. This is the original intention. If we can not forget the original intention and maintain the original intention, that is, harmony when we are young, harmony when we grow up, and harmony as brothers when we grow old. This is how you should make friends with others.

Zeng Guofan said that if a person blindly sees others as wrong, he will be disgusted everywhere and will be angry all the time. This sentence is very insightful. In reality, we often see some people who are annoying everywhere.

Because this kind of person can only see the shortcomings of others, but not the strengths of others. When it comes to speaking, he can't say anything good, hurts others at every turn, and attracts others everywhere. It is not worth it if you offend people just because of what you say, and if you run into obstacles at every turn when doing things, so that things fail. Having talent, but being unable to accomplish something because of some details, is probably the most unfair thing for an individual. This kind of people and this kind of thing are not uncommon in history. We should be vigilant to avoid it.

When getting along with others, you should see more of the benefits of others, see more of the strengths of others, see more of the ways in which others are better than you, and see more of the abilities that others have but you do not have. , as for the shortcomings of others, which are the so-called shortcomings that are taken for granted, we must put ourselves in their shoes and think about the role of others. Perfect, only in this way can we truly respect others, understand others, appreciate others, accept others, and truly trust and help each other.

As the ancients taught, the most foolish thing in life is to be disgusted with one's own faults, and the worst thing in life is to be kind to others.

He also said that if you don’t see your own faults, you will miss the path of saints. If you like to talk about others’ faults, you will harm the harmony of heaven and earth. You must not be jealous and disgusted, and you must avoid using evil words to avoid jealousy.

People have the same heart and the same principles. When you get to know each other, you should cherish each other. Everyone has their own minds and opinions. We should seek common ground while reserving differences in order to cooperate. Don't use small faults to hide someone's great beauty, don't use small complaints to forget someone's great kindness, don't use a partial view to lose sight of the whole picture.

People are divided into good and evil, good and evil, good and bad, virtuous and foolish, diligent and lazy, noble and humble, humble and arrogant. There are honest and treacherous people, strong and cowardly people, etc. However, if you want to know others, you must first correct yourself. If your eyes are crooked, you will also see crooked people. If you don't correct yourself, you won't be able to look at others correctly, and you can't say you know others. If you don't uphold yourself, you won't be able to behave in a right way, and you can't say you know how to behave and do things well. I said that rectifying one’s mind and oneself is the starting point for understanding people and things, right?

I don’t even know what I’m talking about, but I hope someone can understand.