It is not that you are not good enough, but that you are "unworthy" in their eyes.

What's it like to have a mother-in-law who loves to make things difficult everywhere?

Colleague Luo Yun said that since she got married, her mother-in-law has never stopped being critical of her. When she came home late and didn't cook, she would say, what's the use of working outside all day and earning less than one-fifth of my son's?

When she got paid, she finally bought herself a bag from 500 yuan. Her mother-in-law will say: I didn't make much money, but I spent a lot of money. What is the use of buying such an expensive bag? At first glance, your temperament doesn't deserve a good bag.

Luo Yun said that she had put up with all this, but her mother-in-law had gone too far. The last time she quarreled with her husband over a trivial matter, her mother-in-law told her to get out of here in front of him.

At that time, Luo Yungang learned the news of her pregnancy, and before she could tell her mother-in-law and husband, she looked at herself and had no position in this family. At that moment, Luo Yun hesitated to keep the child.

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To say that mother-in-law despises daughter-in-law, most of them start with no money. To tell the truth, if the daughter-in-law has money, even if the mother-in-law is not satisfied, she dare not say it directly. After all, whoever lives has the right to speak.

My good friend Rosie is a career-oriented woman. Her husband Tam is her subordinate. She doesn't earn as much money as she does, and her family conditions are not as good as hers. At the beginning, she took a fancy to Tam only because he had a good temper and could tolerate himself.

After marriage, Rosie continued to be her "strong woman", while her husband Tam took on most of the housework. Her mother-in-law didn't know these things at first, but later she visited by chance and saw her son cleaning at home and her daughter-in-law playing computer in the study. When the old lady got angry, she scolded her daughter-in-law directly.

I didn't expect Rosie to be a soft persimmon and went straight back, leaving the old lady speechless in a few words. Rossi said: My monthly salary is 30,000, and your son is only 1 10,000. I bought all the houses and cars at home before marriage. What happened to him? Besides, we are husband and wife, and I am too busy to do housework. As a husband, help me, shouldn't I?

Although the mother-in-law was upset, she didn't dare to say anything. After all, she left her daughter-in-law who could make money and bought a house in a big city with her son's ability.

With regard to family relations, many people think that it is an eternal truth that men are the masters and women are the masters, but with the increasing achievements of women in their careers, this traditional model has been gradually broken.

Therefore, the mode of getting along with each other also needs to change. If you stick to old ideas and concepts, then two people can't understand each other, and eventually the marriage can only break up.

For the mother-in-law, if you want your son's marriage to be happy, remember to participate less, because your excessive participation will eventually embarrass your son and make your daughter-in-law treat you badly.

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Parents don't support getting married?

Many girls have their own answers to this question. They think that marriage is their own business and has nothing to do with their parents, so even if their parents object, many girls will choose to marry the person they love.

My youngest son, Li Mei, is like this. Li Mei married her husband Luo Xu at the age of 34. Luo Xu is four years younger than Li Mei. He is from the countryside, with a modest family and a younger brother.

When they got married, both parents disagreed. Li Mei's parents think that Luo Xu's family is poor and his daughter will suffer with him, while Luo Xu's parents think that Li Mei is too old and Luo Xu will be laughed at by the village if she marries her.

Finally, at the insistence of two people, the marriage ended. When she got married, Li Mei begged her parents to marry her in full with a 90-flat three-bedroom and one-bedroom apartment. Because it is a hard-won marriage, Li Mei is almost responsive to her husband's family.

Last week, her mother-in-law asked her to lend money to her brother-in-law to buy a house. Li Mei gave her mother-in-law a small amount of cash. She thought her mother-in-law would appreciate her, but she told outsiders everywhere that Li Mei was stingy. She only gave 6.5438 million yuan to buy a house with her brother-in-law.

At the thought that she was saving money, her mother-in-law took it away without saying thank you, and said her fault everywhere. Finally, Li Mei couldn't bear it any longer. She called her mother-in-law directly to tell her to stop making trouble, and told her that it was a duty, not a duty, to help.

Who knows, my mother-in-law actually said, "I think you just don't want to help, so what is your duty?" And she also said, "If it weren't for your dowry house, she wouldn't have agreed to let her son marry you."

It was also at that moment that Li Meicai thoroughly understood that her mother-in-law didn't look at her at all. She promised only for the house. The thought that no matter what she does, she will not be recognized in the eyes of her mother-in-law. Li Mei suddenly felt that all her efforts in recent years were worthwhile.

There is a saying, don't cover it if it's not hot.

For some selfish mother-in-law, whether the child is really happy or not doesn't really matter to her. She cares more about money and her own interests. In front of such a mother-in-law, if there is a dispute between husband and wife one day, it is simply a delusion to let her mother-in-law stand on her side.

For Li Mei, she is also very happy to see her mother-in-law and her family through 65,438+10,000 yuan. She thinks it's worth it.

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Finally, talk about Li Juan, who is still looked down upon by her mother-in-law in the TV series Double-sided Adhesive. In the eyes of her mother-in-law, Li Juan, a daughter-in-law in the city, is eager to marry her son, even though she is rich and beautiful. To put it bluntly, she married the house because she was afraid that her son would not marry her.

She believes that in this case, the woman took the initiative to pay back the money, clearly indicating that she was even less valuable, while her son Yaping had no money, but some girls insisted on marrying him, indicating that her son was capable.

Under this erroneous concept, no matter what Li Juan does, she will never be recognized by her mother-in-law, because in her heart, this daughter-in-law is worthless, and her mistake was doomed from the beginning of her marriage.

That's why there was that scene. Yaping and Li Juan argued. He hit Li Juan in front of his mother. The mother-in-law not only didn't stop her, but also praised her son for playing the drummer well.

At the end of the novel, Li Juan was killed by Yaping. Although the TV series has changed, it is really difficult for women to get respect in this disrespected family.

It's not that you're not good enough, but that they think you don't deserve it.

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