What kind of friends are true friends?

Everyone has close friends more or less. Because of their existence, life becomes more radiant, full of sunshine and flowers.

John Donne once said, "No one is an island, everyone is a part of the mainland." A friend is the group of people who walk hand in hand with you and take you from Xiaojiang to the ocean.

True friends also have the following three characteristics:

1. Maintain you with actions

I saw a pair of lovely little sisters in Zhihu. One of them wrote an article to expand her reading, so she told her good friend. As a result, she almost didn't kill anyone. I saw her good friend leave a message at the bottom of the article:

I liked it more than a hundred times, and I ate Baba live.

with such a lovely friend, why can't there be a hundred praises? Many people are willing to praise this little sister even if they just see this message and see that she has a little sister who protects her so much, praise their friendship and praise them for their mutual support. Who really wants her friends to punish themselves? Even if it doesn't matter if you like it less than 1, just having such a loyal friend is priceless, and nothing can change it.

because the more you grow up, the more lonely you will be, and there will be fewer and fewer true friends, and more friends with interests. The world is bustling, all for profit. The world is bustling, all for profit. These friends come because of profit, and they will also be scattered because of profit.

A true friend doesn't. Whenever you need it, he will be there. He won't let you fight alone. He will inject a light into your dark night, give you faith and make you have the courage to face the complexity of this world.

2. Hold you tight with your hand

A true friend can tease you and hold you tight when you go astray, dragging you back to the right path. They can't talk beautifully, but they can find the bright spot in you. But when your behavior is biased, you would rather offend you than watch you get deeper and deeper. He is a good friend and a good teacher.

Friend Yoshiko used to be a famous poor student in school. At that time, he suffered from supercilious look and satire and had no real friends. Because his parents divorced, he had no father, and no one correctly guided him how to make friends, so he mingled with gangsters outside the school all day, and the relationship with his classmates was maintained by force.

You can imagine how lonely he was at school. Until the second semester of Grade Two, a new student was transferred to the class, who is also his best friend now. This is the only classmate who is willing to associate with him, Xiaodong. Xiaodong has excellent grades and treats people sincerely. Many people are willing to be friends with him. Everyone warned him not to associate with this small punk, Yoshiko, because it would be bad. But Xiaodong said to them: Yoshiko is not bad in nature, but too isolated. He can only rely on force to maintain his position in the hearts of others.

Later, Xiaodong really talked to Yoshiko and asked him whether he believed in himself in the eyes of others or himself. Yoshiko didn't know what it meant at that time. Xiaodong told him sincerely: If you are defined by others, you will always be a punk and live a life where you can see your head at a glance. If you are who you are in your own eyes, you have to work hard to inspire your good side, such as hard work, progress, seriousness and diligence … and to do this, you have to stay away from some people who have influenced you, such as those gangsters outside. If you like, I'm willing to help you, whether it's study or life, I'm with you. If you don't want to, you can continue to be a gangster in the eyes of others.

This is the first time that someone has said these words to Yoshiko openly. No one has ever told him anything wrong with him before, and he only talks behind his back and speaks ill of him. Yoshiko was very moved at that time, and since then, she has slowly recovered her true self and studied with Xiaodong. In the third grade, he was also rated as a student representative by the teacher to speak on the stage, telling the reasons for his change and the motivation for improving his grades ... < P > Later, Yoshiko was admitted to a high school and went to a good university in the province. Nowadays, my job is stable, and every time I talk about my present life, I never forget to mention a little thing.

If Yoshiko hadn't met Xiaodong at the beginning, maybe he would have accomplished nothing now. He followed his friends outside school, did something wrong that he didn't realize, and led a muddled life, or he might have embarked on the road of crime.

The biggest difference between a true friend and a false friend is that you are never required to be loyal and rewarding, nor do you need to be heroic or powerful. They just need you to be honest with yourself and be yourself. True friends have a pair of eyes that can quickly take you away from monsters and return to your real home.

3. Feel you with your heart

Balzac once said: True friends are as sensitive in spirit as dogs' sense of smell. They can feel their friends' injuries, guess the causes of injuries and always worry about them in their hearts.

There was a time when I was very depressed and had no interest in the world. Everything was grayed out. After my friend knew it, he always guided me to speak out my inner troubles, silently being my audience and my trash can. When it comes to anger, he still follows me as a common enemy and wants to solve all the problems for me.

Although I still didn't get out of the emotional whirlpool at that time, with her company and listening, I felt that some people understood me or were willing to listen to me carefully. Don't laugh, don't blow, don't be sarcastic, silently care when I am weak, and let my heart slowly stretch.

Later, every day, she would talk to me about various topics, such as work, life, husband, children, friends, making money, house, car, social security, and so on. Many things that I didn't know, slowly took me out of that gray space, and let me see that there are still many interesting things in life.

She has always encouraged me to do textual research. Seriously, if it weren't for her supervision, up to now, I have no ambition and nothing to prove my Excellence. It's because of her that I got the bilingual teaching and passed the second grade in Mandarin. Every time I want to give up, she found out in time, accompanied me to check the information, explained the matters needing attention and went to the examination room together. In particular, I took the Putonghua test several times. Every time I spoke to her after the test, she listened carefully and laughed at my bad luck, but urged me to continue to take the test. If it weren't for her, she would have given up long ago. Like an angel around me, she always shows me the beauty and loveliness of this world.