It would be great if my child could meet a teacher like this

01 The teacher who yells at every turn

The weather was particularly sunny on Friday, so I took my son for a walk around the small playground of the kindergarten. I happened to see a group of children from a small class sitting on the floor practicing singing. It felt like they were not singing in the same tune, but everyone was singing very seriously and hard. The song became more and more adorable, so I took my son aside to enjoy it until the end.

When the children returned one after another, the teacher asked a little boy to stand alone next to the big tree. When all the children entered the classroom, the teacher started yelling at the child, roughly who he meant. I asked you to be naughty, but who told you to be disobedient? The boy was so frightened that he cried loudly, and my son was also made to cry. The teacher was still furious and continued to yell at the little boy. When she finished venting her anger, she continued to put the child aside to dry and started acting alone, while the little boy was still crying over there.

This is not the first time I have seen this kindergarten teacher deal with angry children by yelling. A few days ago, there was a little girl who must have been in a small class. She kept crying during morning exercises. One of the teachers walked over and said with a long face: "If you cry like this, you will disturb other children." But she is so small. The child, who knew how to go in, continued to cry, her face was stained with tears, and the teacher still looked at her with a long face and yelled from time to time.

That night my husband and I said: "Our children must not be sent to that kindergarten."

My husband said: "It is normal for the teacher to yell when the child is making trouble."

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But are there no other ways to respect children more? Can't you just yell? The teachers I saw scolding the children these few times were in their 30s and older in their 40s. You have seen more children, and you should have a lot of experience. You should understand that yelling may not solve the problem, it will only scare the children into going blank, and they will not be able to hear what the teacher says. I really hope my children don't have a teacher who just yells.

02 The scene of the teacher beating his classmates is still vivid in my mind.

When I was in elementary school, I went to school in the countryside. When I entered junior high school, my family’s caretaker relationship brought me to the city. To be honest, I'm not used to it at all. I am a dull person and don't like to talk much. When I got to school, it was even harder for me to integrate into the class. The classmates are familiar with each other and have their own small groups. There is no need for me to be a transfer student. The unfamiliar environment made me very timid. Even now when I think back to the emotions at that time, I feel very depressed. I didn’t dare to laugh and play like other students during class breaks.

At that time, our head teacher was a tall, serious-looking female teacher. Of course, her seriousness was directed toward certain children. My deskmate's father is the leader of the municipal party committee. Although his grades are always at the bottom of the class, the teacher smiles like a flower every time he sees her, and is as cold as ice when he turns to me.

Our teacher has a good memory. He clearly remembers what his parents did, and the children from rural areas in the class are even more outstanding. They are often targeted by teachers. In the words of the teacher, it is not bad to have these children, their grades are good, and they can also serve as a warning to monkeys.

There was a boy in the class who also came from the countryside, and his grades were among the top five in the class. One day, the teacher saw someone passing a note through the small window at the back, and it happened to fall under his feet. The teacher rushed in angrily and slapped him more than a dozen times without saying a word. The boy kept saying it was not me who passed the note. The teacher didn't listen to his excuse at all and was slapped until his nose bled. It was a hot day and there were several basins of water in the classroom for cooling. The teacher asked me to wash in the basins. As a result, the water in each basin turned blood red.

The boy who actually passed the note stood up and said to the teacher that it was me who passed the note. When the teacher saw that it was the son of the mine director, he smiled and said, "You must take the initiative to admit your mistakes in the future and sit down."

The boy who was beaten was also allowed to return to his seat without even a single apology. He originally had good grades and began to skip school. Later, he dropped out of school early and went home to farm.

From then on, I was always afraid of this teacher, and eventually I transferred to another school, back to the countryside. A school that didn’t find fault with me, a school that didn’t treat me as a peer, and a school that didn’t treat us country kids as a target or a tool to scare the monkeys.

03 It would be great if my child could meet such a teacher

Today I just heard Teacher Hong Lan tell a story about her son changing schools twice. The first time was When I moved from abroad to China, my children were not very good at speaking Mandarin and couldn't understand the tones of Pinyin. One time, the child came back from school and said to Teacher Hong Lan: "Bring me a pot, pot." She walked into the kitchen to get the pot and wondered what the child wanted for the pot. Of course, it turned out that he didn't want a pot but asked for juice. . This child often makes pronunciation mistakes at home, and it's the same at school. Every time he makes a mistake, the teacher and classmates laugh at him.

It’s understandable that his classmates laughed at him for his poor pronunciation. After all, he was young and didn’t understand the harm to others. Gradually, due to Teacher Hong Lan's son's poor grades, when it came to the big exam, the teacher even told him not to take the exam, as this would lower the grade of the whole class. At that time, the child cried to his mother every day before going to school: "Mom, please don't let me go to school?" Later, a classmate in their class committed suicide, and Teacher Hong Lan made the decision to transfer the child to another school.

Unexpectedly, within a few days of transferring to another school, her son's attitude towards school changed completely. Every morning before seven o'clock, I would go to Teacher Hong Lan's bedside and ask my mother to get up and go to school. After that, the child would talk about how the teacher praised him every day when he came back, and he would tell it several times. Wherever the teacher praised him, he tried to do better. At that time, his English was also a little behind, so the teacher told him that from now on, you should come early in the morning, have breakfast together, tell you what you need to learn that day, and correct your incorrect pronunciation, so that you will not be teased. .

The teacher was worried that he would not fit in with his classmates because he was a new student, so every time a classmate passed by, he would call him over and tell them in public who this was and that you should be friends together. It is precisely because of the teacher's enthusiastic help that Teacher Hong Lan's son caught up with his academic performance within one year, and was successfully admitted to a world-famous school in his subsequent study career.

What will happen if he unfortunately continues to go to school under a teacher who does not allow him to take the big exam because he is afraid of lowering the grade of the whole class? How long can it last? It is possible to become a delinquent or not.

In the words of Teacher Hong Lan, if the teacher can conquer a child's heart, no matter what you ask him to do, he will be willing to stick to it and listen to your words and do it seriously. It's a pity that I didn't meet such a teacher at that time. It's a pity that there are still many teachers in society who don't know how to respect and encourage children, and they still treat their children with yelling.

If the child at the beginning left a psychological shadow, how much impact will it have on him in the future? What will happen if this shadow is infinitely magnified as an adult. If teachers treat children as they wish, the impact on children may be lifelong. My classmate who was slapped in junior high school could have been admitted to a key university in the city if he had continued to go to school and was not discriminated against by the teacher. It's a pity that there was no such thing. Many years later, when I met him again, he was already the father of three children and was working as a farmer at home. Last year, news came that he was in a traffic accident while driving a tractor while drunk and was no longer alive. I don’t know how many children our teacher slapped in the face and how many people gave up on themselves.

It would be great if there were more teachers in the world who really care about their children physically and mentally, but this is just a dream, so as parents, we must be strong and care more about our children. Parents should promptly respond to the injuries they receive at school. Help your children to repair, and don’t let these injuries stay deep in your heart and affect your children’s life.

Ranjia: Recording daily feelings