The biggest joke in this world is that love begins with friendship.

Many girls still don't understand the truth, that is, the goal you pursue is contrary to your friend's identity.

Why do you say that?

Because friends are friends, it is difficult to promote lovers after establishing friendship.

The biggest joke in the world is that dating begins with making friends.

Whether it's movies and TV plays or men and women in daily life, a lot of practical experience can tell you. At the beginning of contact, two people who have a good impression on each other will have a hazy relationship. Because of this, these people naturally get together more easily.

In other words, the role of friends has not been recognized from beginning to end.

But those women who don't know how to fall in love are very difficult. They are eager to start with friends, and even the precious opportunity to be alone with men has been given the meaning of being friends.

1, the boundary is too clear to attract.

What I want to say is that you can contact him as a friend, but you must not associate with him for the purpose of making friends. Because once the boundaries between you are too clear, even if you date in the future, both sides will feel particularly resistant and uncomfortable about intimacy.

I know some very smart women. When they face the man they like, they deliberately put on ambiguous expression packs to chat. That's great. Suddenly, the distance between us will be closer, and the depth and scale of two people's chat can be released.

Women with low emotional intelligence don't understand this. Let them discuss whether there is pure friendship between men and women all afternoon. Such people generally don't have boyfriends. Women with high emotional intelligence have less diverse views. In their dictionary, practice is the only criterion for testing truth.

2. It is hard to tear off being labeled as a friend.

It can be said that once the impression of interpersonal relationship evaluation is formed, it is difficult to tear it off.

Actually, I see a lot of girls who can't let go. They are basically serious about their love.

They contact men as friends, but they don't have any ability to flirt with Han, just waiting like anthomaniac. If you ask your best friend privately, it's not very professional, but at least you have a chance to act. What I fear most is that a person hides from thinking, which eventually leads to a pure friendship between two people, hahaha.

Eason Chan has a lyric that describes this scene well: A couple who can't love each other are like two brothers and sisters.

Yes, maybe this is the biggest tragedy in feelings.

3. Missed the opportunity to establish intimate relationship.

Trapped in the label of friends, relationships are hard to break through.

First, because you are too familiar with it, even if you are straightforward enough, the other party can't enter a state of high emotional concentration with you. Even if we can be together, it will soon be inappropriate.

Second, because I missed the window to create ambiguity, as the saying goes, it is not easy to start if I am too familiar, but I have to change from an acquaintance relationship to a lover relationship inexplicably, and most of them have no passion.

Third, I worry too much. I often hear a classic quotation, that is, what do friends fear most when they fall in love? The answer is that you can't even be friends after breaking up.

4, the constraints of love behavior norms

When you treat a man as a friend, this sense of identity will reverse your current attitude.

Often some women show me chat records and ask me why I can't attract this man. I really want to laugh. Looking at such a dull chat, I knew it was over.

In fact, what you really think in your heart, then what you present.

Just relax when you are in love. Tell a little secret if you have nothing to do, or often send out some particularly cute expression packs. Don't carry it all the time, with an out-of-touch attitude.

The more formal you are, the harder it is to break through. It's even worse if the object you like is also a straight man. It's not the end of the world that you two are not interested in meeting.

5, love can not be too slow.

Go back decades and start dating from friends. That might be useful. In such a fast-paced era, everyone is very busy and there is not so much time to waste. Youth is fleeting, and time will grow old!

Compared with those women with high emotional intelligence, there are really many opportunities during the silly day.

Smart women's mate selection strategy has a strong purpose, so it is extremely efficient. Think about it. You've only met these men in your life. Why are you so lucky?

Therefore, instead of waiting for true love to find you actively, it is better to capture true love actively.

Summary:

If you set yourself the premise of being a friend first, then you will have a distance from him, which will lead to all your behaviors and expressions.

So from now on, get rid of the idea of being friends before falling in love. Only by not mentioning the word friend will the distance between you be closer and more ambiguous.

Therefore, when you are in contact with men, you should stand on the premise of male-female communication. In this way, you can immediately understand that starting a relationship with him will be the ultimate goal of your contact with him.

It can be said that there are only two kinds of men in the eyes of smart women, one is called a stranger and the other is called a developable object.

Falling in love is a very purposeful thing. If you like someone, you should pursue it, and don't be disturbed by various opinions. If you like someone, don't let this relationship leave regrets. Simple and direct, no matter what the result, go to Doby. This is a happy life.