Dad goes home for the New Year, and only dad is allowed to sleep on the sofa when he goes home for the New Year.

I saw a stranger describe his parents on the Internet, and used the following words: I never dared to expect warmth from them. Later, I learned that for some people, home is a harbor and a retreat, but for others, there is no turning back from the moment they leave home.

Her answer is anonymous. There are always some hardships in this life. We need to speak out boldly with a mask, because if we want to continue to live, we can't openly analyze our weaknesses to everyone.

If you do this, some people will sympathize with you, some will despise you, and some even want to add a handful of salt to your pain, which has nothing to do with you anyway.

The human heart is always unpredictable, no matter what the relationship between two people is.

I can see from her words that she is a daughter.

She said the saddest thing about going home during the Spring Festival.

Last year, for various reasons, she not only didn't earn any money, but also owed 654.38 million yuan to external account, and her life was very unsatisfactory. Everything went wrong. When she came home for the New Year, she was expecting, hoping to find a trace of warmth and courage at home and continue to work hard in the coming year.

What she didn't expect was that after graduation, her father's expectations for their three children were not as pure as before, and she began to distribute her love with the money she earned.

There has been this trend before, but their three children have never been much different. Whether it is income or work, everyone is generally at the same level.

She is the most thoughtful person and the person with the best overall income. Later, she didn't want to work for others all her life. She decided to start her own business and lost money last year.

After returning home, her father's attitude changed a lot, always blaming her, saying that she didn't do it well and had to do it herself. As a result, now she has become like this, and she has no face when she goes out to be asked by others.

Her father is a very good-looking person, especially in front of outsiders, and enjoys being flattered. As a result, some relatives asked about her, even if they were concerned, her father felt a little worried, thinking that others might watch their jokes behind their backs.

It turns out that there are three bedrooms in their house. She always sleeps in the same bedroom as her sister. She went to bed, but she went to bed. As a result, her father put a lot of things on the bed, saying that there was no place to put them at home and she could not move them, leaving her to sleep on the sofa alone. It wasn't like this before.

The gap between before and after made her mind her father's eccentricity at this time. Especially the father's blame has also increased. Although he didn't deny that she was a daughter, he didn't say much, but the closer he got, the more sensitive he became to all kinds of details.

So, her heart must be sad.

Life is a bit bitter, starting with overestimating family ties. In the minds of most of us, when it comes to parents' affection, it is always the positive side of positive energy, which is linked with selfless dedication, love and distress. Even if children are wronged, it is the best and a warm harbor. This definition accords with the real life of most people.

However, it is true that not all parents are like this. The world is so different, one of which is that the upper and lower limits of a relationship have no absolute value.

In other words, the same feelings and different people can deduce two absolutely opposite results.

There is no connection between the two. You can never convince one of them, you can't understand the other's ideas, and you don't have to bother. This is undoubtedly asking for trouble.

I remember a friend of mine said that her in-laws are the kind of people who are more powerful. She has never had any major events, so she chose to marry her husband.

She bluntly said that if she saw it clearly before marriage, she would reconsider the possibility of getting married, because the cultivation and atmosphere of a family are really too important, which is closely related to her life and cannot be ignored.

It's just that she didn't find out before marriage. After she got married and became pregnant, she became close to her in-laws and had new feelings. Her husband's sister and brother-in-law also owed money for various reasons last year. Her in-laws won't let them go home for the New Year, saying they won't take their wealth away.

Hearing this sentence, she was shocked. I didn't expect it to be said by a parent. It is their daughter. She can't figure it out.

But she couldn't understand it, and when her parents heard about it, they were equally puzzled by this idea.

They are both parents. She said that if it was her parents, they would definitely comfort her, and they would probably secretly give her money for fear that she would have a bad life, instead of breaking up the relationship with her children at the slightest sign of trouble. Life is so long, everyone is still young. Who hasn't met with difficulties and has no chance to turn over? Why make things worse at this time?

But she found that her in-laws all thought so, and she couldn't change it.

Her father-in-law, in particular, is very stubborn. He has always thought that he is very capable and cannot be refuted. Everyone in the family especially likes to express their opinions. If others don't do what he says, they will have opinions and think it is disrespectful. The conditions are better than him, he is jealous, and he looks down on him if he can't compare with him.

Therefore, she said that living in such a family atmosphere, she often feels depressed. Considering the harmony of the family, she always refrains from talking or talking back, otherwise it will definitely be arranged according to her father-in-law's temper.

However, it is this that has strengthened her determination to live separately after giving birth to a child. If the new house hasn't been taken over yet, you can rent a house first.

Her husband also agreed, mainly because he thought his father talked too much and didn't want to live at home.

I gradually realized that most people around me had the idea that "money can influence others' attitude towards you" for the first time, and it all originated from their parents.

Because parents treat children with money differently from children without money, it is also very clear, and naturally this concept can go deep into their hearts immediately.

To tell the truth, most people in life are just nodding acquaintances, and all of them are based on the principle of "everything stays on the line". Even if your conditions are not good, they will respect you and the wind and water will turn around. Who knows what will happen in the future, so you can't go too far in talking and doing things.

Better friends are even more so.

Therefore, parents who often have this idea may not be so obvious to outsiders, but with the blessing of their families, they also feel calm and natural as elders. They will not consider their children's feelings, but will easily show their true character.

This is why some people look down on their children as parents.

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