What kind of man is an interesting man?

1. An interesting man who always retains a childlike innocence

Many people like Qian Zhongshu not only because of his wealth of knowledge, but also because of his childlike innocence.

My wife Yang Jiang once told a little incident when the two were in Oxford.

One day, Qian Zhongshu was taking a nap, and Yang Jiang posted a message. As a result, as I wrote this, I felt sleepy and fell asleep.

Qian Zhongshu woke up and saw his sleeping wife. On a whim, he drew a painted face on her face with a pen dipped in thick ink.

After the wife woke up, she looked at herself in the mirror, feeling angry and ridiculous. In order to wash away the ink marks, Yang Jiang's face almost peeled off a layer of skin.

From then on, Qian Zhongshu never played pranks on his wife again. Instead, he drew a portrait of his wife and added glasses and a beard to the painting to have fun.

In front of his wife, Qian Zhongshu always looks like a child who has not grown up.

Once, when Yang Jiang was hospitalized, Qian Zhongshu visited the hospital. Before we chatted for a few words, Qian Zhongshu suddenly confessed to Yang Jiang with a face full of shame: "I got into trouble again. The lamp at home was broken."

Seeing her husband's innocent face, he looked like a criminal. Like the wrong child, Yang Jiang suddenly laughed.

This childlike humor not only resolved an embarrassment for himself, but also made his wife laugh.

Not only that, Qian Zhongshu also often "sees uneven roads."

When he was working at Tsinghua University, Qian Zhongshu had a cat that often fought with the neighbor's cat, but could not beat it. At this time, Qian Zhongshu would lend a helping hand and take out the prepared long pole to help his kitten fight.

Every time he sees this scene, Yang Jiang has a smile on his face.

It is these interesting little details that make their lives full of charm. Even if life is hard, they can still live a life as romantic as poetry.

Many times, the fun of married life is filled by seemingly boring little things.

An interesting man, with a childlike heart and a sincere heart. Know how to use childishness to add color to the blank spaces of marriage, making life lively and warm.

2. An interesting man, good at self-deprecation

In modern history, the literary giant Hu Shi was often ridiculed for being a "hep-controller", but he self-deprecatingly claimed that he had joined "The Madame-Afraid Association."

It is recorded in "Mr. Hu Shizhi's Conversations in His Later Years" that for Hu Shih, being afraid of his wife was not just a mantra but also a hobby. To this end, he deliberately collected henpecked stories and relevant evidence from all over the world.

Once, a foreign friend sent Hu Shi a dozen French bronze coins. Hu Shi was very happy when he saw the copper coins, because the three letters "PTT" were engraved on the copper coins, which was homophonic to "Afraid of Mrs." ".

Later, he took these copper coins and joked with a few friends who were afraid of their wives: "If the 'Afraid of Mrs.' Association is really established, these copper coins can be used as membership badges."

After a Taiwanese reporter heard about this incident, he published it in the newspaper as an anecdote. Hu Shi saw that instead of being angry, he was very happy. He immediately told his secretary a story he had collected about Italians who were afraid of their wives.

As for the matter of being afraid of his wife, Hu Shi not only talked about it as a joke, but also put it into action.

He put forward the famous "Three Obediences and Four Virtues": follow your wife when she goes out, obey your wife's orders, blindly obey your wife if she says something wrong; wait for your wife to put on makeup, remember your wife's birthday, and tolerate your wife's beatings and scoldings. , The wife must be willing to spend money.

This has also become a classic joke to tease the groom at modern weddings.

I have to say that Hu Shi’s self-deprecation is really full of tricks, which makes people laugh.

Actually, Hu Shi is willing to play the role of a little man in front of his wife, not because he is really afraid of his wife. He is just grateful for his wife's kindness, understanding of her difficulties, and sincere love for her.

In a relationship, no matter how much two people love each other, they will inevitably have quarrels over time, but a man who is good at self-deprecating can easily resolve conflicts in life.

An interesting man can laugh at himself in front of others, compromise in front of his lover, and be tolerant and considerate of his lover's hard work and dedication.

3. An interesting man with an optimistic and open-minded attitude

Su Shi was one of the Eight Great Masters of the Tang and Song Dynasties, and he was a hopeless optimist.

After the "Wutai Poetry Case" occurred, he was arrested and sent to a prison.

Faced with the fact that he was about to go to jail, his wife and daughter broke down and cried.

Su Shi looked calm. Before leaving, he turned back to his wife and said, "Can't you be like Yang Pu and compose a poem for me?"

My wife broke down in tears and smiled. , Su Shi followed the official officer with peace of mind.

Yang Pu is a grassroots poet. Because he did not want to be an official, he declined the emperor's kindness with a funny poem given to him by his wife. The emperor laughed after hearing this. Instead of convicting him, he gave his son an official position to support his parents.

Su Shi used this example to humorously reassure his wife not to worry too much.

Facing the future of imprisonment and even death, he said such funny words.

It can be seen how optimistic and open-minded he is in his heart. This kind of humor from the bottom of her bones makes her feel happy at any time.

Su Shi’s optimism and open-mindedness can also be seen in his poems.

When he was demoted to Huizhou, he left behind a poem: "It is spring at all times under the Luofu Mountain, and the tangerines and bayberry trees are fresh every day. I eat three hundred lychees every day, and I will grow up to be a Lingnan native."

At that time, Lingnan was a barbaric place where everyone’s attitude changed after hearing the news, but he said like a foodie: “If I eat 300 lychees a day, I would like to be a Lingnan person forever.” people".

He just has such a magical power. No matter what difficulties he faces, he can always find his "poetry and distance".

Lin Yutang once praised his life as "the feast of life." Because, his whole life has been "happy".

Among the more than a thousand letters he left behind, there are more than 40 places where he uses "hehe".

He wrote in "With Chen Jichang": "I can sleep on a pillow without any hindrance, and I can easily hear it. I don't have much to do, haha."

A "haha" , is not only an expression of inner contentment, but also a smile on his face when facing the ups and downs of his official career.

"Haha" is a kind of detached attitude towards life.

Facing the gloom of life, he gently brushed away the pain on his body and responded to the world with open-mindedness and happiness.

Su Shi had a bumpy career in his career and never became rich. However, his three wives were all willing to love him, respect him and accompany him, probably because they were impressed by his interesting soul.

An interesting man who loves life and is open-minded. Know how to use optimism to overcome the complex difficulties in marriage and life, making life easy and simple.