My mother went to see the joke about the wedding dress.

People are different. Some people can rely on their parents from childhood, while others can only rely on themselves from beginning to end. People who can rely on their parents can make contributions in all aspects, and naturally everything will be smooth. People who can't rely on their parents, relying entirely on themselves, will be very difficult in many ways. If nothing else, take marriage as an example, women are actually fine, but for men, marriage requires a lot of money, whether it is a house or a bride price, it is not a small sum. There will be a big difference between parents who can help and parents who can't.

Having said that, all kinds of people are, because no one can choose their parents or their origins. It can only be said that if your parents are poor, then you can't count on them. You're on your own. Many men become Phoenix men, often not because they want to, but because they have to. There are also differences between Phoenix Man and Phoenix Man. Some Phoenix men get the life they want by their own efforts, while some Phoenix men have been living a hard life and always encounter all kinds of difficulties. The following Phoenix man is a relatively unhappy person. Although he has made some achievements through his own efforts, he is still far from the test of reality.

Teacher Lin Dong: I saw you mention such a sentence in your article: For some people, the more active they are in front of their feelings, the more humble they will be. I don't know if this sentence applies to others, but it applies to me anyway. The more active I am, the more modest I am. Although I don't want to take the traditional road of "men should be married and women should be married", my concept is still bound by this traditional concept. Unconsciously, bound by age, I began to care about marriage.

I met my ex-girlfriend on a blind date. After talking about the whole thing, I felt that she and I had similar ideas, so I decided that we were suitable and began to move closer to marriage. Before we got engaged, I told her my family situation in detail: I am a single-parent family, my mother is gone, and my father can hardly take care of himself, so I hope we can get married by ourselves, not our family. I dare to say this because I have some money in my hand, and I feel that I have come here by myself for so many years, and I can definitely continue to rely on myself in the future.

At that time, she had no objection to my idea. She thought anything would do. As long as two people are together, she has nothing to fear. With such an agreement, when we got engaged, my dad didn't pay a penny, and I was responsible for the bride price and the house, as long as the husband and wife repaid the loan together after marriage. However, just a few days after our engagement, she changed her mind. Although I changed my mind not because of her, but because of her parents' instigation, I still feel uncomfortable saying it from her mouth. To put it simply, she changed her mind: she asked my dad for 300 thousand bride price and said, "How can I not pay when my son gets married?" Not only did she put pressure on my dad, but her parents also put pressure on my dad, which made me very disgusted.

I am not a person who depends on my parents, and neither will I. As I said before, my father can only take care of himself. He has no money at all. If I could pay him, I would have already paid him. It is because he has no money that I will explain the situation to her before engagement. I couldn't stand the persecution of my dad by her and her parents, so I broke off my marriage with her and told her, "You married me, not my dad. I tell you that my dad has no money, and you are still thinking about it, so don't get married! "

First she resolutely accepted the breakup, and then she changed her mind and said that it didn't matter if my dad didn't pay, so I didn't continue to marry her. If we don't break our word, I won't be afraid of any problems. But I can't pretend that nothing has happened since I broke my word. It seems that I'd better not get married in a hurry, otherwise it will have no effect except disturbing my life.

Bedding before marriage is very troublesome, but it still needs to be laid! If they are two inanimate things, you can put them together directly, and they can stay together all the time without making noise. But for the living, if you put everything together regardless, it is easy to produce contradictions. Marriage is like this. Many people who fall in love and get married will still have contradictions after marriage, not to mention those who get married without any emotional foundation.

Many people say that they want to marry the right person, but in fact, many people downplay this point, feel that it is very troublesome to pave the way before marriage, and just want to get married once and for all. Getting married without caring about anything can really omit a lot of things. However, marriage doesn't last for three days, and it doesn't mean that we can separate immediately after marriage. The responsibilities, obligations and various interpersonal relationships involved cannot be easily omitted.

In other words, many things you neglected before marriage will appear after marriage. In particular, the so-called problems, if not found before marriage, will make you very painful after marriage. In the above cases, the man didn't do much preparation before marriage. He was so anxious to get married that he just explained the situation to her, but didn't get along with her to see if she could really accept her own ideas. If he can spend more time with the woman before engagement, then he will know whether the other person is suitable for him. Without engagement, there would be no farce of engagement and breach of contract. Premarital bedding is very troublesome, but it is still necessary. Worry more in the early stage, and then you can worry later. If you only think about the worries in the early stage, you will be worried in the later stage.