How to deal with parents' forced marriage

First of all, you should understand why parents want to force marriage. The essence of urging marriage is not only concern, but also parents' anxiety. After years of personal experience, my mother even said to me, "You can get married first, but you can't leave. I feel so embarrassed in front of colleagues and friends! " At this time, I suddenly realized that we were particularly uncomfortable being urged to get married. In fact, we received anxiety from our parents.

Your parents will be asked in front of friends, and feeling humiliated is anxiety, just like being asked by friends why you haven't had a baby when you were a child. They think that their children should do what others have done, or they will lose face if others ask them.

Secondly, how should we deal with urging marriage? Here are some small ways to help you cope.

1. Take an active part in parties held by friends. When your friends invite you to the party, you should dress up well, and you may get a little surprise. Or have unexpected gains, maybe you just complain, which can also relieve your psychological discomfort. It doesn't matter. The main thing is that you can forget being forced to get married.

2. Get into the habit of writing the date, because being urged to get married may have great psychological pressure. At this time, it is also a good way to calm down and write down what you want to say. This is also a method of psychological counseling, so that you no longer have so much pressure, you can be less anxious when you are in a good mood, and you can better cope with the urging of your parents.

3, talk to your parents, reasonable communication will make you no longer overly anxious, and the process of talking will let your parents know your attitude towards marriage. Whether he is married or not, you will learn to love and choose a good person to love. This process takes time, let parents know that you don't have enough time, and don't let them worry too much.

Finally, how to deal with the promotion of marriage with high emotional intelligence? When others ask why they don't get married, they can take the initiative to ask questions. For example, former classmates can ask themselves about each other's recent situation, or talk to each other about other topics, so that they can take the initiative. In this way, they can't continue to ask questions.