Women's feelings after 20 years of divorce: marriage is not necessarily for happiness, but divorce must be?

I was speechless when I received the reader's message: "In order to cope with my family, I found a person who is ok and will get married. I didn't expect my married life to be more sad than being bullied by the campus when I was a child and losing the college entrance examination, but for the sake of my children, I can only do this ... "

I don't know how many women are complaining about all kinds of misfortunes and dissatisfaction in their marriage life, as if marriage has delayed their life, but if she is really asked to stop her marriage in time, she will find various excuses.

How can we convince them at this time? It is useless to say anything, because their hearts have completely denied this road, because of suffering.

I have a little aunt. She felt a strong sense of urgency when she saw that everyone around her was married. She thought blind date was ok, so she married herself in a panic.

Life without feelings, a good husband and money is just as sad. I have to deal with my mother-in-law being picky about eggs all day, and my husband being addicted to cheating, and I don't care about my little aunt at all.

My relatives and friends advised my little aunt to go out and look for a job, try to become stronger little by little, and then divorce her husband and fight for custody of the children. The little aunt couldn't stand it, and she couldn't bear to divorce, so she simply ran away from home.

Having been a housewife for seven years, it is difficult to get in touch with society again. The little aunt washes dishes for people and spends money on renting a house. She falls asleep every day when she is tired, but the money she earns can only support rent, meals and cars, and the balance is not much. My little aunt can't stand the pain. A few months after coming out, she returned to the "home" that made her miserable.

The little aunt said: "Although this' home' is not warm, it has at least a little financial ability to support me and my children to survive. Let's get through this! I will be liberated when my child goes to college! "

In this way, dragging and dragging, my life has not changed at all, and it is still dependence and inferiority.

It is said that marriage is a fire pit. The terrible thing is not that the fire in the pit of fire hurts more. The terrible thing is that people who fall into the fire pit, like frogs boiled in warm water, never want to climb out again and have no desire to survive. They will just muddle along.

Qian Zhongshu said: "Marriage is like a besieged city. People outside the city want to go in and people in the city want to come out. " Of course, there is a premise that this marriage is really not worth wasting your time and life to cherish. After that, the point is, when you encounter a bad marriage, do you have enough courage and determination to make a decisive decision?

I was very moved when the netizen Red Dust told his own story.

At the beginning, the world of mortals married love without hesitation. Unfortunately, they had a bad eye and chose love rat. After marriage, they not only did not have a happy life, but got the most painful experience in this life.

At that time, women were not allowed to file for divorce, and everyone would laugh at them. When everyone advised her to get along well, only she resolutely divorced.

Now that she has been divorced for 20 years, people have been urging her to find another partner, even her own daughter thinks so. Only the world of mortals firmly said: "Marriage is not necessarily for happiness, divorce must be!" " "

"I am very happy now. The worst years have passed and the children have graduated from college. I live like a little girl now. You can learn to dance if you want, you can travel if you want, and you can do whatever you want. I don't lack ancestors. Why can't I find my own happiness? "

After this failed marriage, the world of mortals is now very open-minded. "I have money to send flowers to my parents, and I serve my parents to be filial." My children can do whatever they want and never get married. I won't interfere like my parents, as long as she is happy. "

The world of mortals said that she was glad that she chose to divorce as soon as possible. Otherwise, I am afraid that she will still live in fear, dare not do anything, can't enjoy her life to the fullest, and can only be "slaughtered" by her mother-in-law and husband.

There used to be a saying that marriage should be slow and divorce should be fast!

Marriage is not everything to a woman, but it is the most important choice for a woman. When you choose to spend the rest of your life with someone, don't rush to "risk your life". Look carefully, keep a clear head and reason, look at each other's personality, living habits, family background, and see if you have a future.

And if once you find that you have made a wrong choice, this marriage can't bring you any happiness in life, or even drag you down, then you should cut the gordian knot, put all negative energy behind you and turn around gracefully.

Some people say: "Marriage is a woman's second life, nourished by the love in marriage, and women who are consumed by marriage live a different life."

A person's life is short, short and not long. Don't let yourself be exhausted and become the person you hate the most.

Liu Mintao must be familiar to everyone, because Fei Jing, who starred in Nirvana in Fire, and the elder sister of Pretender became a hit with their relaxed acting skills. Before that, she met her beloved ex-husband and once withdrew from the entertainment circle for love.

At the beginning, the beautiful love could not escape the "seven-year itch" after all, but it was only a flash in the pan after the vigorous exercise, and the two eventually divorced because of their incompatible personalities. After the divorce, Liu Mintao raised her daughter by herself, and at the same time, she took some small plays from scratch. Finally, she accumulated a lot of money in the later "Nirvana in Fire" and became a powerful actress who was a "late bloomer".

When I mentioned my ex-husband again, Liu Mintao burst into tears several times on the Venus Show, which made people feel distressed. However, now, she has lived herself and become a better self. Referring to the changes around the age of 40, Liu Mintao said frankly, "In the past two years, I like myself more and more, and I love myself more and more."

When you feel that a job, a thing or even a person is wasting your time, pull away decisively and stop loss in time. Life is too short to waste on beautiful things.

Don't be consumed by a bad marriage, don't delay, be free and easy, and hold on to your last dignity.

Just like the lyrics in "Decent": It is also decent to leave, so that you can be worthy of these years.