If the high beam is not straight

Everyone in China knows this old saying.

In a family, parents don't do well on their own, they don't work hard, don't make progress, don't do housework after work, don't study and don't read, are lazy, love to take advantage of small things, only play cards and drink, even make trouble, make trouble without reason, or have bad records, steal chickens and dogs, and run amok in the countryside. How can such a family make children better?

There is also an old saying: a dragon gives birth to a dragon, a phoenix gives birth to a phoenix, and the son of a mouse can make holes. Although this is absolute birth theory or genetic determinism, 90% of them are like this, and a few differences come from mutation and genetic mutation.

There is another situation. The children in this family are precocious, know what parents in a good family are like and know what to do. If they don't want to be like their parents when they grow up, they will rebel against the family they came from and get rid of the family atmosphere in psychology, thinking and habits. For example, they don't want to be with adults at home, so they want to live on campus early. Except in winter and summer vacations, they rarely go home even after being admitted to foreign universities, which they realized after graduation.

However, on the surface, we have got rid of it physically and geographically, but the psychological traces left in our early years will never be eliminated. It's a matter of family background.

When I was young, I was lucky. My parents have never had a fight, which is very common in next-door neighbors, but they often quarrel about some housework. I get bored when the quarrel is fierce. I feel uncomfortable at home and there, and I don't want to stay at home for a moment.

My father was grumpy when he was young, and I was disobedient and playful. I was often beaten (it was common for adults to beat children at that time). One is to beat each other, and the other is to beat the children to vent their anger, so our family is not bad. After being beaten, I was wronged and had the idea of running away from home. At that time, unlike now, there was nothing, no food, no shelter, no transportation, and so on. But that's all. Parents are positive about our children's education and have a good relationship with their neighbors. Parents never lie to us, nor let us lie, let alone lie to others, and have conflicts with other people's children. As long as people sue them at home, no matter whether they are reasonable or unreasonable, they can't run away.

Therefore, our family has always had something to say, and there has never been any calculation and calculation between family members.

I grew up slowly, and when I got to junior high school, I didn't know where to get a copy of Zeng Kuang Xian Wen, a thin one, which surprised me. When I talk to everyone, I can't throw away everything in my heart. What is the difficulty of drawing a dragon and a tiger? Suddenly, I feel that the words inside seem to be the strategy of going to society and dealing with people. That's the real society. This society is full of evil and deception, framing and utilitarianism. Later, I met the "post-black school". It is not so much to prevent people from being calculated, framed and used as to teach people how to go bad.

Fortunately, in the following decades, those books didn't have much influence on me, but I acted according to the education and influence of my early parents at home. I am still easy to trust others, to be persuaded by others, and to pour out what I have in my stomach. Almost all these years, I didn't feel much loss, nor did I feel cheated many times. On the contrary, it is relaxed, without any burden, and reduces a lot of communication costs.

But I found that many people around me are not like this, and they are full of worries when communicating and communicating. I can't say this, and I can't say that either. Sometimes, I can't figure out why and I can't believe it. I also know that my quick words, regardless of the occasion, sometimes offend others, but there is no malice, and the metropolis will forgive me.

After decades of market economy training, people generally realize the importance of honesty. Without honesty and credibility, let alone doing business and trading, it is difficult to eat and drink Lazar every day.

In recent years, I have found that it seems more direct and simple to deal with the post-95 s and post-00 s students trained by the Internet, unlike their brothers, sisters or parents. I also found that their generation is far more civilized than their predecessors in social activities: no queuing, no laughing loudly, no littering, no cameras, no running red lights, no matter what. They are used to obeying written regulations, conventions or legal requirements, instead of trying to take shortcuts, find acquaintances and establish contacts whenever something happens, as we do.

Back to the beginning of fish begins to stink at the head, we can see the importance of beam. The upper beam of a family is the elder, not the parents; The upper beam of a unit or company is the boss and senior manager; The top beam of a society is the government, the credit information system and the formulation and implementation of laws. Therefore, the upper beam is a system. If this system is not complete, the influence of superiors is greater than that of subordinates. Of course, the pillar of the family is still the most important, which determines the growth and development of an individual's life. If the company is not right, you can resign and change companies. If zf is not upright, you can also choose. Consensus is very important.

Fish begins to stink at the head, what goes up is effective, and the power of example is enormous. When we naturally or unnaturally become the upper beam, we may be right or wrong. The key is whether you have the responsibility and obligation to the lower beam in your heart and eyes. Do you realize that everything you do will be imitated by Xialiang? Of course, as a child, the lower beam cannot choose the upper beam, but as a worker and citizen, the lower beam can choose the upper beam. This selection mechanism is also the driving force for the company and society to make continuous progress in the competition.