There used to be several venerable old people in the countryside. Why are there so few now?

More than 30 years ago, a man with my father's great-grandfather was called big brother by everyone in the village, so I called him (his name) Bo. This is the name of my old home, which is usually called after three generations. I am about the same age as his grandson, and we all play together. I always feel that he is very dignified and dare not be presumptuous in front of him. He brought a lion gang, which is a lion dance for the Chinese New Year. He usually practices some martial arts routines in his spare time and sometimes teaches us some children. At that time, I didn't think he was anything special. Once the village head was elected, the result of the vote was the previous village head. He said he disagreed and asked for re-election. As a result, the last village chief lost the election. Although I was a child at that time, I liked the excitement and watched the whole process.

After graduating from junior high school, I went to work in a neighboring town. There are a bunch of smelly boys near the factory, who often come to the factory to beg for the benefits of the female workers in the factory. One of the older guys once asked me which village I came from, and I said so-and-so village. He said he knew people in my village, and I said it was my uncle. He immediately changed his attitude towards me, took out a cigarette and gave me a cigarette, saying how well he knew an uncle.

Later, I went to any village in Fiona Fang and walked more than ten miles. Someone asked me if I was from a village, and they all said they knew the people in my village, as if they were still proud of it.

With the growth of age, I gradually feel that an uncle is a person similar to a patriarch. From neighborhood disputes, family disputes to disputes with neighboring villages, I can always see him come forward to handle and mediate. In the 1990s, with the change of society, there were more and more rich people in the village, and the rich people became the sought after objects in the village. Besides, he is old, so he is no longer an easy-to-talk patriarch.

The world has changed and people are impetuous. In the past (about 1990 ~2005), there were indeed several respected old people in the village who could uphold justice in the village, and all the villagers recognized what they said. Because everyone was poor before, there was no difference, and few people went out to work, and their thoughts were still relatively traditional. Respect for the elderly, respect for the virtuous and filial piety are passed down from generation to generation.

Now that the world has changed, the villagers have all gone to the developed cities in the south or the north to work, making more money and broadening their knowledge than before. When we go home every year, what we talk about most is how much money we earn this year, who earns more money and who mixes well. Rural people have become realistic, powerful and impetuous, not as simple, honest and down-to-earth as before. If you mix well outside, everyone will flock to you when you get home, but if you don't mix well, you will be alienated, such as eating, drinking, playing cards and shopping in the city. And you will not be called together. Those who used to live in poverty together don't often associate with each other now. After a long time, the rich will be powerful and keep their word, and everyone will listen. What about the opinions of the old people? Almost no one listens.

As a rural person, I deeply felt this change. When I was a child, my grandfather opened a paper mill in the village and had some savings at home. He is very popular. I can wear a leather jacket since I was a child, which makes many children envy me and my family conditions are better. Later, the paper mill closed down. After 95 years, everyone went out to work, and our family gradually declined. I used to play cards with my dad every day, but I came to my house less often. They all went to the so-called well-mixed home to play cards and drink. My parents worked hard to pay for my college education, and I was once laughed at, saying that it was useless to study, so I would rather learn martial arts, so that no one would dare to bully me if I went out to work. Later, I came to Guangzhou to study for graduate students. Many people of my age have built houses, got married and had children. My education still depends on my parents. In the eyes of others, it is not cost-effective. I have worked for five years since graduation, and now I have bought two suites in Foshan, Guangdong. In the eyes of those people, I also became a rich man. I miss my life without doubt.

Nowadays, in rural areas, money is the only consideration, bride price is astronomical, it is common to compare with each other, filial piety is lost, and morality is ruined. When being a matchmaker, the woman only looks at money. After she got married, she was worshipped like a princess, and her parents-in-law worshipped her in every way. These girls also feel that they should keep up with each other and not go out to work. It seems to make people feel that their husbands can't support themselves. This kind of situation is very common in my hometown, and I don't like it very much.

Talk about filial piety again. Respecting the old and loving the young is the way of human relations, but now there are many children and daughters-in-law in the countryside who are not filial, forcing their parents in their twilight years to live in shabby huts, two-story buildings and live a rich life. They are not short of money, why not let their parents live a good life? Don't they remember the feeling of parenting, saying that the boss (the second child and the third child) ignored me, and my parents worked hard for this ending all their lives, which was really indignant. There are certainly many people who are not filial, and everyone is not ashamed, but proud and has no sense of shame. Unexpectedly, I don't even want to go back to my hometown here There are too many such cases around me.

In the past 20 years, the villagers have gone out, made money, seen the world and become smart. However, the traditional respect for the elderly, virtue and filial piety has been lost. Everyone in the village refused to listen to what the old people said, and their prestige gradually disappeared. All this is heartbreaking. Here, I also hope that we can work together to save all kinds of chaos in rural areas, interpret the new look of rural people in a new way in the new era, abandon bad habits and regain virtue.

My brother-in-law just made a fortune outside, went home to show off, was slapped by the master's uncle, and now he won't come back for the New Year. Jiu Ge went from Kunming to the city where he lived to talk about business. Thinking he was an elder, he went to visit. He was mistaken for a windfall, and when he came back, he said angrily that he looked down on people with only a few million net worth. I can't even imagine that I am richer than him.

The old people in the village have no prestige, mainly because they can't help others. Now it's time to look at the money, depending on how much money they have. This phenomenon has also appeared in my village in recent years.

My grandfather is a venerable old man. I am 93 years old and still in good health.

Grandpa lost his mother at the age of 9, and his great-grandfather made a decision at the age of 13 and married his grandmother. In the old society, people's life span was not long. A few years after his grandparents got married, his great-grandfather also drove a crane to the west ..., leaving his grandparents at the age of 16 and 17 to live. I heard from my grandfather that at that time, thanks to the care of my cousins.

My father and sister are grandfathers. My second and third uncles have been mentally ill since childhood. In the 1960s, a fire broke out at home, and Sanbo lost his life in the fire. Since then, Bo Er's spirit has become even crazier. Grandma is three years older than grandpa. My sister-in-law was hemiplegic when she was in her teens and couldn't take care of herself. Grandpa works in the commune grain depot and keeps donkeys at home to grind flour. In those years when the family situation in rural areas was not smooth, Sanbo died, Bo Er was insane, and grandma became ill. The donkey she bought every year for three years in a row also got sick and died inexplicably, even three of them died.

Grandpa has been taking care of his hemiplegic grandmother for more than 20 years until his death, and he has never cared about his heart with his children. Uncle Silly had serious mental problems, but Grandpa never gave up. When I was young, I thought I could marry him a daughter-in-law, but I finally gave up. Grandpa has been living with Uncle Silly, taking care of his daily life, until Uncle Silly now lives in a national nursing home.

When grandpa was eighteen or nineteen, his elder sister-in-law and uncle were born one after another. A few days later, the Eighth Route Army was also arrested as the "Central Army". Maybe fate took care of him and cared about his family, but they all escaped by luck. Later, People's Republic of China (PRC) was founded, and he was the village head for many years. Grandpa has been charitable all his life. Even in his poor years, he saved many lives and families. The descendants of many predecessors in the village remember his kindness and respect my grandfather very much.

In Yuncheng county, grandpa has a good friend (as grandpa likes to say, he is sworn brothers). In order to thank grandpa for saving his life, he and grandpa formed an indissoluble bond until our descendants were still walking back and forth. I only know a sworn grandfather, who often says to his villagers, "Without my brother, there would be no me and no home for us. If I treat my brother badly, I will have a bad conscience all my life. " A 70-year-old man in the village suffers from hemiplegia and is in a wheelchair. Whenever he sees his grandfather, he cries. Later, I learned that when the old man was young, when the village organized to dig a river ditch, he wiped his tears because his family was poor. Grandpa was the captain of the village at that time, and later handed him the dishes in the bowl, but he was grateful for his saving his life. There are many examples of these charities. ...

Grandpa is in good health and satisfied with life now. Some time ago, someone in the village encouraged him to report his situation to the country. "I have also contributed to the country and have been the team leader in the village for more than ten years." But, he said, "Life is good now. I was content to escape from the famine, and I couldn't eat before. I don't need to respond. "

Two photos (my grandfather and my children, grandpa was taken at the age of 9 1).

Let me tell you something, my opinion:

There used to be several venerable old people in the countryside. Why are there so few now?

Although we also have elderly people with high prestige here, they are basically not as good as before. There is a venerable old man in our family. Usually, if there is a little dispute between others. Everyone will ask him to come forward to solve the contradiction, and he is willing to come forward to mediate. But the old man has difficulties at home. He has the ability to find excuses to help him, but he is unable to help him.

For example, a few years ago, his son lost money doing business abroad, and his family had some financial difficulties. He had a family member with a net worth of over 100 million yuan. The old man pulled his face down and asked him to borrow money, only 65,438+10,000. But people say they don't have cash, and they say many excuses are not to borrow it. The old man was a little unhappy, so he complained in front of us, saying that rich people have all kinds of problems: there are things at home, and people have to let the old man take command when they get married. As they all belong to the same family, it won't do any good. Give them two cigarettes at most. If a person has difficulties at home and wants to borrow some money, people will not want to borrow money at home. He's too lazy to take charge anymore.

That rich man likes to be a "leader" and direct others when he has nothing to do. He always said that his family should unite, but when something happened, he disappeared.

The reason for this is that, unlike before, everyone's economy is similar. There won't be much money, but now the rich have money and the poor are poor. There are disputes at home, weddings and funerals, and everyone thinks of the old man. But in normal times, whoever has money will speak loudly, so that his words will be effective. Even if others refuse to accept it, it is not good to say it to your face. This has caused the rich to have prestige without major events, and they have to go to the elderly if they have something to do.

In a word, times have changed. Now that the old man has prestige, he can only rely on him for big things, such as weddings and funerals. But in ordinary life, whoever has money has prestige. There are more people who like to curry favor with the rich than those who are surrounded by prestigious old people.

I think the main reason is that this society has become too impetuous, and everything depends on money, as if money is particularly successful. People without money are losers at the bottom of society. I have an uncle who graduated from a prestigious school, got a good job and bought two suites in Guangzhou. He felt that he was from another class, looked down on rural people, and laughed at my father for being worthless and not making money in front of my grandparents. Oh, I don't think my dad was careful enough when he just graduated from society. He offered to help with everything. Oh, by the way, he didn't come back to worship his ancestors at Qingming two months ago. Why do you think there are few prestigious old people in rural areas now? That's because everyone judges success or failure by whether they have money or not. Without money, you are a loser and have no prestige at all.

My dad is such a person, I have a deep understanding, and I definitely have a say.

First of all, I want to make it clear that not every village has the prestige of the elderly, nor is it because the elders have prestige.

My family is from a township. There are small villages on all sides, and there are gullies under the villages. Anyway, it's about one kilometer from the village to the town. My father was born as a vegetable dealer, and went back to town to do small business after making money. According to time, he has been a boss for more than eight years and nine years. It is my family's money to build roads and change mills in the village. It is not easy to change water pipes and land for the mayor in the town. My dad went to work, and he went underground to steal vegetables.

In short, the prestige condition of speaking is probably money, and a bowl of water is flat. The prestige condition of Tongzong Village is not within this range, but why not prestige? The answer is the same.

Everyone has money, and when there is no money, there is a millionaire in front of you. You think, wow, you can't live forever. There are 654.38 million+millionaires in the program, that's all.

I remember playing marbles with other children at the door when I was a child, and everyone in the ditch came to my yard to rest. When I see it, I ask if it is a "young master" ~ [covering my face]. I hear it once or twice a week, and it makes me very swollen [tears].

Back to the topic, when did you start to make a fortune? 00 is a watershed. In 1990, you started the explosive business, with real money ranging from 00 to 10. Everyone is also wondering whether the relationship between people has faded at this time. After 10, we will not talk about the Internet age.

00 years ago, it was the concept of "people", and later it was the concept of "money". In other words, money used to be secondary, but now it is completely respected. In layman's terms, you are a prestigious old man and can't bring me any benefits. What are you? That's probably what it means.

Take my dad for example. He is still handsome, and everyone still respects him. Actually, he is talking about Mr. Tree now. In fact, no matter who you ask others in society, unless you are particularly rich and powerful, it is Mr. Tree.

The mobile phone is inconvenient and a bit messy. Let's deal with it.

When I was a child, no matter whether a small family quarreled or there was a contradiction between a big family and a neighborhood, as long as a prestigious old man came forward, both sides of the contradiction could immediately stop and tell their reasons and let the old man judge, and the old man's judgment was accepted by both sides.

My father used to be such a role. As far as I can remember, no matter how angry, contradictory and even using weapons, as long as my father appeared, the war could stop immediately. Of course, I was also injured by accident.

Although many people still respect their father on the surface, we all know that his power is long gone.

When I came home last year, I saw my father's mood was a little wrong, so I secretly asked my mother what was going on. It turns out that a family may think that their father is highly respected and has the face to preside over the family affairs for the family, so they invited their father over. As a result, when my father really arranged the funeral, the family didn't take it seriously at all. ...

Knowing the cause and effect of the incident, I felt sorry for my father for a long time and secretly told my mother not to let my father take care of similar things in the future.

Teacher Mommy thinks that it is not that the prestigious old people are gone now, but that their prestige has failed and they have become rare and confused old people. They understand that people now no longer believe in old people and truth, but believe in the power of money and power.

Hello, my friend! That's a good question you asked. This problem is related to a series of problems existing in rural areas at present, such as fewer and fewer young people, more and more vacant houses, non-racial land and so on. , but it's deeper ... Below, the old beard is a little nagging:

The old beard thinks that there are two reasons for this problem: one is the superficial reason, and the other is the deep reason.

Well, the old beard began to analyze-first of all, talk about the superficial "reason": in fact, there are fewer prestigious old people in rural areas, and the reason is related to the lack of young people in rural areas. Having said that, some people may say that there are very few prestigious old people, but what happened to young people? Don't say it really matters. Take the hometown of old beard as an example: when I was a child, old beard played with his friends, and every family had a big family and an old man; Even a few years ago, every time I went back to my hometown, there were still many old people on the street. But now, very few. Where is it? They were all taken to the city by their children. Although the old man likes to stay in his hometown and talk to his old neighbors all his life, it is not his decision, but his body can decide, and he can be taken care of when he gets to the city. If he is in poor health, his children will abandon him and go back to his hometown, and his neighbors will laugh at him, right? Even if they don't live in the city all the year round, most of them live in their hometown in spring and autumn, and live in the city in winter, which is the habit of migratory birds. ...

Also, the old beard never says that people are old, but always thinks that these people in their fifties and sixties are also young people. But according to the previous countryside, being regarded as an old man is also ambiguous. But now, the old people in the second echelon are either still collecting housing loans for young people's children or retiring to live in the city. How can they afford to sit in the village and enjoy dignity?

"Sanwazi, go to Sanye's house and see if there is any water in his urn?"

The old beard wrote, a warm command came from the invisible years. This is my voice. I'm calling my childhood beard to see if there is any water in the urn of my third master's house. At that time, everyone in the village had to go to the well in the street to pick up draught. Third Master Bearded is the most prestigious person in the village. He is so old-fashioned that he hardly laughs. He often sits in a big chair with a book. Apart from turning pages, he looks like a statue, and even flies dare not fly in front of him ... Third Master used to be a scholar and taught all his life. Later, he returned to the village. What happened in the village, such as: the east neighbor suspected that the sewage from the west neighbor was dripping into his house, Aunt Zhang and Aunt Li fought over a chicken, and so on, all these things were in the hands of the third master. Before every break, the third master sat up straight with a straight face, and with a "cough", his sides trembled suddenly. No matter how rational this person is, he has no motivation at this time. ...

Look, the old beard is nagging again. Ha, don't bother. The old beard continued to analyze-

Then, let's talk about the deep-seated "reasons". In fact, there are few elderly people with prestige in rural areas, and the old beard thinks that, in the final analysis, there are few elderly people with education. Culture, this thing, sounds simple, but when you think about it carefully, it has great connotation. For example, the reasons are: there are books, traditions and experience ... Here, the old bearded person may be unhappy when he says a word, but don't be unhappy. The bearded father and mother are old people in the countryside, that is, before. Why? The age of life is different, so I won't elaborate here, just look at it. Are there still old people holding books at home now? I'm afraid there are many, but I can't read 200 words. Also, as I said just now, all the educated people went out, and even if they retired, they didn't mention retirement ... Because of their shallow cultural background, some parents had short events. Now some old people in the village are more concerned than young people, and young people often turn around to convince them. ...

Speaking of which, the old beard remembered his three masters again. He always holds a book, he is always so majestic, he is always the bearded god, and he is always the soul of his hometown. ...

Friend, Beard has a point, doesn't he?

Seeing this problem, I first recalled a childhood incident.

I remember when I was seven or eight years old, I just came home from school one day and passed my neighbor's uncle Bing's house. I saw his ducks eating at the door. I went naughty and kicked his duck, and the neighbor's man yelled at me when he came out. I went home and complained to my dad. My dad didn't understand the actual situation and quarreled with Uncle Bing. Finally,

After three or five dads arrived at the scene, they first stared at my dad and Uncle Bing. They immediately stopped quarreling, and then obediently followed them to the house. I stood outside and watched, only remembering that three and five dads were more serious and reprimanded my dad and Uncle Bing respectively. Finally, my dad and Uncle Bing both bowed their heads.

In my impression, people in the neighborhood, whether it's weddings, funerals or conflicts, always want their third and fifth dads. They are all key people, and everything should be done according to their opinions. They have always been in the "center" of the crowd, and even village cadres need to ask them out to mediate things they can't solve.

As time goes by, the third father and the fifth father get older and older. They died at the age of seven or eight respectively. But after death, villagers sometimes think of them in some public places.

First, prestigious old people died one after another, making it difficult for future generations to be competent.

Apart from the obvious feature of higher qualifications, these prestigious old people have many characteristics that others don't have. They have rich experience. My third and fifth fathers were born in 1933. They have experienced wars, natural disasters and served in the army. They have seen a lot of the world on many occasions in their lives, so their views on things can be relatively objective and there are various solutions. They are respected. They are selfless, impartial and considerate when dealing with any problems. As an elder, you will not "protect your calves." They are always eager to help others. Anyway, they regard other people's family affairs as their own business and help others solve problems in times of crisis.

After their death, it is hard to find someone as experienced, respected and enthusiastic as them in the village. Now the old people in the countryside used to be just children in front of them. Their life experience is not rich enough, and their ability to deal with problems is slightly lacking.

Second, there are more people going out and the "affairs" in the village are greatly reduced.

In the original rural areas, few people went out to work, and most of them worked at home, so there were many things when there were many people. Later, with the increase of migrant workers, the permanent population in rural areas decreased greatly. There used to be more than 30 families in the natural village (villagers' group) where my family lived. At present, there are only about 10 households in the family, all of which are left-behind elderly people.

In this case, the fewer people there are, the fewer things there are, and there are not so many things to deal with in the village, so even if there are prestigious old people in the village, the occasions that need them to come forward are greatly reduced compared with before.

Third, with the continuous development of society, the level of social governance has improved.

In the former countryside, there was something in the village, and in the case of relatively blocked information, it could only be solved by itself. Now, with the continuous development of society, the level of social governance has been continuously improved, and village cadres have more detailed management of village affairs, involving all aspects of villagers' lives. The service capabilities of police stations, judicial offices and other units have been continuously enhanced and expanded. For general affairs, villagers can solve them by themselves. If it cannot be solved, it can be coordinated by village cadres. For contradictions and disputes, police stations, judicial offices and other units have relatively sound handling mechanisms, which can be properly resolved by using relevant policies and laws.

At the same time, with the change of people's consciousness, the villagers' concept of applying laws and policies has been strengthened. Many problems are more complicated than before, and it is difficult for prestigious old people to solve them properly by themselves.