Why do I hate small cities?

Tell a sad love story first. A man and a woman met by chance in a distant country, fell madly in love, and then both returned home. Like all people in love, they got married without hesitation, feeling that their feelings would not change for 10 thousand years at that time, but ignoring the most important issue.

Where is home?

China is so big that it's as big as the city where the husband and wife live. The straight-line distance is 1000 km, and it takes 12 hours to drive directly. It takes one and a half hours by plane and two hours by car. The woman is in Shanghai and the man is in a third-tier city somewhere. They naively believe that as time goes on, one side will compromise. Women naturally think Shanghai is good, and it is a big city. You can buy everything, but for a man, Shanghai is too expensive. He has everything in the third-tier cities. You need to start from scratch when you go to Shanghai.

Countless times, they have communicated and quarreled, but no one wants to bow their heads. It's not as simple as you think. When the problem has been proved 10,000 times, women are killed and unwilling to live in small cities. They don't want to live this life because they take their relatives and children everywhere. Men say that the air in Shanghai is too bad, the traffic is too blocked, and the price is too expensive, which is not suitable for life in all aspects. If that little love hadn't continued to burn, they would have parted ways a hundred times ago.

The beauty of this question is that no matter which side you are on, you feel that the other person is not sensible enough and doesn't love you enough, but these two people are obviously tied together because of love. If you love the comfortable life in a small city, you will criticize this woman, saying that she is a dog who looks down on people in a big city and that she is vain and greedy for glitz. She doesn't know that the countryside has its beauty. Being close to nature means being close to her heart. If you like the prosperity of a big city, you will berate this man for not being motivated and not waiting for death. A big city is the best stage for a person.

Sorry, I'm the woman. In the past 20 13, I met my husband who fell in love at first sight less than ten times. If you ask me, I will try my best to tell you: I hate small cities.

But it's not because I come from a big city at all. People who really live and grow up in big cities, because they have never been to the countryside, have a magnanimity of staying out of it and think that the countryside is an idyllic scenery. Shanghai people have a unified name for all people outside the outer ring: Xiangwoning. Many years ago, before the taxi price rose, there was a joke that someone took a taxi in People's Square and said that he was going to the west. When the meter jumped to 100, he looked out of the window and said, Congna, Songjiang has arrived.

Songjiang people are so rustic. I don't know if it's because there were many ducks in the past, and a "ga" should be added after all the endings. If you leave Naga, you will eat Varaga. Where are you going? Students in the city like to laugh at this "honk" sound when they study, and they also like to talk about it. You Songjiang people talk so loudly. Yes, rural people used to shout from an acre of land when they were farming, but now they are still like this half a meter away. Songjiang people also like to make a fuss. As long as they do something beyond their understanding, they will make a hullabaloo about asking you to tell the truth.

Does it feel familiar? I'm not surprised to say that my family is the same, because after observation, I found that farmers' habits are so consistent that even farmers on Scottish farms are loud and heavy-mouthed. I grew up in Songjiang, and I have always been angry with this place, because everything I want to do will be discussed by others. It seems that people in this place can't tolerate differences between people. Just because you go out on a long trip alone today, they will be deeply worried about you. They'd better be like everyone else, always step by step and always live in a controllable range. The customs of this place often make people feel ridiculous and pitiful. For example, the current banquet, no matter what grade, will serve a lobster. Perhaps even the Australian lobster itself didn't think that it would be used in such a strange place. So much so that people in Songjiang will find it incredible to go out for dinner and want to eat a lobster. Why order it yourself?

When Songjiang gradually became less strange, in my husband's small county, I once again saw those strange customs, such as who is drunk on the wine table is a hero. For example, during the Chinese New Year, the job of married women is to wash dishes from the New Year's Day to the Lantern Festival, such as the deafening firecrackers in the city. Folk custom is such a thing. It's exciting to experience it once in a while, but how can you feel so ignorant living in it?

When you are full of joy, you may scold me, pretending to be lofty and not a farmer at heart. Because of this, I hate small cities, I hate living in vulgar customs, I hate having such a small group of people, I always like to drag others into the same quagmire as myself, and then brainwash you 800 times to tell you that this life is good.

The air in big cities is bad and the traffic is very crowded, but in contrast, at least when you are at Wudaokou or Nanjing East Road, no one will stay for one more second because you are single and gay and have not reunited with your husband during the New Year. This situation will be endlessly questioned in relatives' homes. I'm more used to chain coffee shop employees smiling and asking: haven't you gone to work yet? You only need to spend 30 yuan to get proper care from others, and you don't have to be afraid that this kind of care will be excessive.

What I'm really afraid of is, when I return to a small city, will I become a bitch that everyone hates, with a bunch of questions about "Why aren't you married, have children and haven't got a raise?" Just because I have nothing to say. Compared with such a vulgar married woman, I really prefer to be a cold single lady, walking alone in the city, free and happy.