The wrong sharing is a joke expression pack.

"Happiness once shared with the wrong person is showing off" was seen in my sister's circle of friends. I don't know why she sent this sentence, but I think I can probably understand that feeling. I wanted to find someone to share that little happiness, but I didn't expect your happiness to be her pain in others' hearts. Your sharing is just a show off.

Last weekend, I received an unexpected payment. In fact, I don't have much money, even a bottle of milk, but because this is a sudden joy and a kind of self-confidence after being recognized, I really want to find someone to share it with. I sent a WeChat to a literary friend who has been insisting on writing and told her that I didn't expect a breakthrough this time. By the way, thank her for sharing her previous writing experience. The other party's reaction was very dull, and it took a long time to reply: "Oh".

There is a self-defeating embarrassment, and I added an explanation: I have no other meaning, just want to share with you every progress in writing ... unfortunately, I have never received a reply from my friends.

A few days later, I learned from another friend that while my article was commended, a book that that friend had worked so hard to plan for a long time was sold by the publishing house, and her months of hard work were in vain. I can't tell you what my mood was at that moment, I was a little surprised, and I felt guilty for not sharing it in time ... I'm sorry, but I came to share my pride when you were depressed.

Think about when I was looking for a job. As a non-prestigious graduate, it is not easy to find a particularly glamorous or well-paid job. Fortunately, I have long recognized the reality. When I was in college, I forced myself to make various attempts and entered the enterprise internship in advance. When people around me are busy with my graduation thesis and I have to spare my energy to find a job, my job has been confirmed.

Although not a Fortune 500 company or a listed company, the company has a good development prospect and working atmosphere, and I am proud of my work. At that moment, I felt that I was worthy of at least four years of college, at least to reassure my parents. I want to share this joy with my good friends at the first time.

Get her on the phone. Before getting to the point, my friend reported her good news to me first. After graduating from a prestigious school, she successfully signed a contract to enter a well-known enterprise in Hong Kong. Even the internship salary is already several times my total salary. She talked excitedly about the company's various trainings and benefits for newcomers, and also felt the beautiful home of classmates and friends.

No matter from the company level or the salary environment, no matter from which aspect, I was smashed in an instant. Those glamorous brands and bright future are so far away from me, I feel happy and satisfied because of my small achievements ... this phone call really brings shame to myself.

But after cooling down, I know my friends have no problems. None of the news in her mouth is bragging, let alone deliberately showing it off to me. It is the sharp contrast between us that makes me feel that this is an out-and-out abuse drama.

Later, this happened many times. Sometimes I hurt others unintentionally because of my own sharing, and sometimes I hurt my feelings and self-esteem because others share normally. In fact, there is no right or wrong, nor does it mean that all happiness and happiness should be digested quietly, but timing is a very important issue.

If you share a happy thing with others at the wrong time, or a beautiful thing with the wrong person, then its ending will be particularly embarrassing.

Just like many mothers, it is totally wrong and understandable to want to share this joy and glory with others when their children finally get good grades and enter the dream university. However, if her sharing object is not the mother of another child who has just been admitted to a good university, but the mother of her own child who has just dropped out of the list, it is very inappropriate.

No matter what your original intention is, others only know that it is a show-off to poke her pain with your happiness when she is most sad and frustrated.

By the same token, if the children of two families are academically gifted, then comparison means mutual promotion and common progress. However, if you always compare your academic domineering children with other people's academic scum children, then this kind of communication will become a show-off and it is not worth promoting.

At work, when your performance is obviously better than that of your colleagues around you, you need to be careful if you want to share this joy. If you know that the other party is in distress, even if you are in a competitive relationship, then all your sharing is suspected of showing off. This is not to say that people are insidious, nor that others are blx, but that you need higher emotional intelligence and understanding to be tolerant and caring for others.

After all, winners always look a little dazzling in front of losers, otherwise there will be no so-called "success or failure".

Suppose you and your best friend are in different companies, which happens to be competitive. If in a bid, the project that both of you are responsible for is that your company won the bid, it is best not to share this internal achievement with each other. Because you are not only good friends, but also competitors at work. No matter which one of you wins, it is a symbol of failure for the other side. It's a bit unsatisfactory to share this happiness at this time.

All this is not a question of who is right or wrong, but more like an art of sharing. Yes, sharing actually requires some art.

Share happiness with the right person at the right time, then everyone is happy; If your happiness will make others feel unhappy or even painful, then you can only enjoy this happiness alone with injustice.

Because, many times, once happiness is shared with the wrong person, it is to show off.