Have you ever been insulted in a joking way? How to deal with it?

Let's talk about Rulu and Sun Li first. In fact, all parents who have seen Happy Camp know that Rulu is deeply involved in this drama. In Happy Camp, she jokingly called Sun a bitch many times. Although Sun Li was not angry at that time, I could see from her expressive face that she was embarrassed.

Maybe she didn't realize her own problems, but Sun said that she always called like this, and sometimes I don't know if she was joking or serious. Since Rulu became popular, there have been more right and wrong. Tamia Liu, who worked with her, once had a particularly low EQ in Jiang Xin, and sometimes got upset without knowing it.

In fact, many people who owe money on emotional intelligence may have encountered it. If it's an ordinary stranger, forget it. Friends who are most afraid of having a good relationship with themselves are often hurt by them and have nowhere to vent.

I have a good friend who is like this. I am fat (crying for a while) because I am broad-minded. When we have fun together, we often joke, which is nothing. But a friend made fun of me when there were many people. Once, we talked about the delicious food in our hometown at the dinner table. I told you about a famous chicken in our hometown. Just when I said I was proud, my friend said, stop it. Look at your big fat chicken, and you will know that the food in your hometown tastes good. Then she laughed at herself for being humorous. I was so angry that I almost didn't put the chicken leg in her mouth to shut her up!

If you feel angry with such a person, she will say innocently, just kidding, why take it seriously. You lied to me and blamed me for not laughing.

What if I meet such a person? Two words: stay away!

When I first gave birth to a child, my figure had not recovered and I gained a lot of weight. Once, my aunt insisted that I go to her house to chat and play. After that, I didn't stay for a while. My uncle came and looked at me and said, hey, why are you eating like a pig now? At that time, I went to my cousin's house and cried. Then the neighbor went to her house to get something and asked my aunt why I was crying. My aunt said. Since then, I have not stepped on her door almost every year except for the Chinese New Year gift day. I know she is not good at ordinary times, but I didn't expect to turn right from wrong. Speaking of my two aunts, it's really a nest of bad things. A few months after my mother left, my father listened to them every day, and it was bad. I really wanted to kill myself. Fortunately, many friends enlightened me, as well as my beloved brother, sister, husband and son, who used to take me with them. Fortunately, I am more ambitious. Now I earn almost 0.2 million/200 thousand a year, and I am going to buy a house after buying a car. Now they dare not talk about me casually. Besides, I don't want to talk to them much now. The advantage of working in the field is that you don't have to see these annoying faces. My mother was so kind to them before she died, but she did this to her children after she left. No wonder my aunt dreamed that my mother went to see her and gave her a bad face for several days. You have done nothing wrong. I often dream that my mother is smiling, including when I was a child. I also dream that my mother holds her hand and says that we should take good care of each other. When we get to her, will it be my mother's ghost to scare her? I don't want to think about myself, thank my conscience. When they failed to start a business in junior high school, my mother earned more than 200 yuan a day. She wanted to give the money she earned to my grandmother and even secretly gave her 50 yuan. I'm afraid she won't survive. My mother helped her pay the water and electricity bills, and both children ate and slept at my house. Why do you think they are so guilty? They are evil at home. Such people really deserve what they deserve. Although we are talking to them now, they still have a good idea.

Because no one took care of the children, he resigned at the end of August and happened to meet the stationmaster when he went to the office to go through the formalities. This disgusting old man who is less than 165 is notoriously incompetent. I said, hello, Zhang, he said, hey, I heard that you married a rich husband and didn't even go to work? I smiled and said: Oh, no, no, actually, you may not know that my family is also quite rich. Working for so many years is actually killing time! He turned away at once and left accompanied by two colleagues. The atmosphere at that time was quite embarrassing for him! Hahaha! Damn it, I quit. I was afraid you were an asshole! Such a bitch deserves to be cleaned up ! !

Thank you for inviting me! There may be a distant experience, but I don't remember it, because I never keep this kind of thing in mind, which is very inconspicuous in the course of life. Everything in the world can be met, depending on how you treat it. Look on the bright side of everything, look at the positive sunshine, don't look at the gloom, and take the right sunshine road. I think only in this way can I make my life happy.

At a colleague's party, someone ordered a dog hot pot. A male colleague in the south insisted that I try. I told him that we Manchu people don't eat dog meat. He began to talk openly about why you have so many things, what happened after eating them and so on. I ignored him again. Later, when he got drunk, he began to curse Manchu with ugly words. I directly put a bowl of noodles in front of him on his face.

I want to tell you something that happened to me. I am a senior nurse practicing in a hospital. There are seven people in our group, from different places. One of the girls and I both have acne, and everyone who has acne knows it. I don't like others' comments. One of my intern teammates said to the intern teammate who also loves acne one day, look at the acne on your face. I subconsciously thought it was not good, so I said, but she had acne. I really think so in my heart, because this girl actually doesn't have many acne, but others feel more after a short time. A really casual sentence at that time may have been remembered by that girl. Once, in the same situation, when I was joking, the girl suddenly said, don't talk nonsense, I don't think so. At that time, I felt so warm-hearted. It turned out that my casual words finally helped me.

At that time, I was twenty years old: several old people in the same village: When they saw three thatched cottages in our house, they said: It is a good thing for a young man to have three rooms. I replied: it is good to accommodate people.

Seeing the description of the subject, I feel that the subject is somewhat wronged, angry and unwilling. Looking back on my childhood, I met stubborn people and was teased from time to time, but I was not insulted. Is it because I'm lucky? I don't think so.

Think of a story: it is said that two young monks deserted while listening to the scriptures, watching the wind blowing in the yard and waving the Buddha flag. A monk said, "Look, when the wind blows, the banner moves." Another monk said, "No, it just moves when the wind moves." Master Huineng responded: "It's not the wind, it's not the movement, it's the heart."

There is another story that has the same effect. It is said that Su Dongpo went to chat with Zen master Fo Yin. Su Dongpo said to Fo Yin, "I have been studying Buddhism very hard recently. What do you think of my sitting position now? " Fo Yin praised: "Like a Buddha." Su Dongpo was very happy. Fo Yin then asked, "What do you think of me?" In order to overwhelm Fo Yin, Su Dongpo replied: "Like a piece of shit." Fo Yin also smiled. Su Dongpo was very happy when he came back, and he preached everywhere that he had defeated Fo Yin this time. Hearing this, Su Xiaomei said to his brother, "Brother, don't spread it around. Actually, you lost. " Su Dongpo is puzzled. Su Xiaomei continued: "Fo Yin has a Buddha in his heart, so he thinks everyone is a Buddha. You have shit in your heart, so everyone is shit. "

The Zen in the two stories is thought-provoking and memorable. In addition to the objective reality of life itself, personal understanding of life situation is the key to feeling.

Back to the topic, from being teased to being insulted, the degree of individual's inner feelings has changed. I am a more rational girl myself. When I was a child, naughty boys provoked me, and I was just ignored or laughed off. I don't even have a white eye. After several attempts, the boy didn't get a response and left naturally. So I think the escalation of jokes is related to the attitudes of both sides, just like high five. If the subject encounters a joke-like insult that the subject doesn't like and can't stand, besides the problem of the person who made the joke, the subject's own psychological state and attitude towards the joke will also be one of the reasons.

Time flies like running water.

I was abused by my primary school classmates. We are neighbors of Qianbei Street. When she plays games with us, she often thinks I am thin and calls me "Little Bean". At that time, she was still young and only listened as a joke.

Later, we all grew up and entered junior high school. She called me "Little Bean" and I was so angry that I called her "June Fresh". Ha, because she is her parents, she is the product of having children before marriage, and we also learned it from our neighbors, because she is too cruel to pay back.

She looked down on "Little Bean" because her family was well-off and ours was humble. She studies very well, is the head of a class, and is very awesome. She probably never dreamed that the person she looked down on was taller than her, and the salted fish turned over. No wonder I didn't see her at the class reunion.

Being a man has gone too far and reached a dead end. There is no way out.

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