How to deal with rumors about yourself in the workplace?

Gossips in the workplace are the same as those in the countryside where "parents are gossipy, gossipy, gossipy, and don't necessarily think good of others."

Perhaps it is because I am too busy and have nothing to do, so I have to look for things to entertain myself. But in the workplace, if it weren't for the fact that "the trees are as beautiful as the trees, the wind will destroy them." If a big tree attracts the wind, it would be too ostentatious. Either you are a person of right and wrong, your work is not good enough, and you have many accidents, and you have become a talking point in the eyes of your colleagues.

For those who are strong in the workplace, sometimes rumors and rumors will be self-defeating. Rumors only stop at the wise. However, we still need to guard against its aggressiveness. We must not have the intention to harm others, and we must have the intention to guard against others.

Depending on their workplace, they will fight for profits and every little advantage, and they will compete for advantages and disadvantages. It's just that some people don't like you, which is inevitable in the workplace.

Then, responding carefully not only tests your determination, but also your emotional intelligence and your way of being a human being. I personally recommend the following points.

First, it is never advisable to blindly ignore and tolerate. We must resolutely fight back against slander and slander involving personal privacy and private companies outside of work, and completely shut up those people. In this way, the signs can be cut off in time to prevent rumors from spreading out of control multiple times.

You can also safeguard your self-dignity and personality in a timely manner.

Second, if there are slanders and rumors about your ability or performance at work, use facts to prove yourself. Your work results need to be recognized by your superior supervisor or leader, so that other people's bad intentions will naturally end unhappily. To establish your own supporters and defenders, you cannot go it alone.

Thirdly, if you allow some insignificant rumors to spread, they will ultimately be self-defeating. The pure will become clear by itself, and the turbid will become turbid by itself. Let the years and time speak for themselves.

The greatest contempt and revenge for a person is silent neglect and disregard. The feeling of being ashamed of yourself is quite uncomfortable, but it is also the wisest education for others.

Although it is said that "no one tells anyone's back", many of us are still inevitably affected by some rumors. Every time I hear those words that distort the facts and smear myself, it is inappropriate to get angry directly, to hold it back all the time and affect my mood, to explain deliberately as if there is no three hundred taels of silver in this place, it is really uncomfortable.

The more you come to a new environment and the more outstanding you are, the easier it is to put pressure on some old forces or those with conflicts of interest. At this time, no matter where you light your fire, it will cause a group of people to fan the flames. They will even show their fangs with unscrupulous schadenfreude and enjoy the carnival of trampling on you. Maybe only then can those people find the feeling of winning.

What should we do if we encounter this situation? Here are some suggestions for you:

1. Continue to be yourself, and even do better at a faster speed.

Because some people dare to slander you because they feel that using slander can stimulate you and hurt you, thereby giving them pleasure. Once you are disturbed by it at this time and lose your focus and persistence, you will play into the opponent's hands and let the other party succeed. So at this time, you should focus on what you should do, and use better achievements to prove how naive those rumors are, making them vulnerable and self-defeating.

When you are not excellent to a certain level, you are most likely to cause controversy, but when you step from excellence to the altar of excellence, countless people will naturally become your believers. In this way, we can become your public welfare publicist to help you spread your word of mouth. At that time, rumors will naturally take care of themselves like feudal superstition.

2. Face those rumors bravely, and even talk about them in public.

Since you have done nothing wrong, why should you be afraid of facing those rumors? Gossip is the most shameful thing to say and is only spread in private.

And if we take it out in public and bask in the sun, or even use a mocking tone to ridicule the contradiction between the rumors and reality, we will use this to express that we have nothing to be afraid of, and then those rumors will be spread privately. It’s time for people to be nervous and afraid. Remember, the brighter you are, the meaner the slanderer will appear. Why? Others will look down on him: "What kind of ability is it to have the ability to directly report other people's problems through the most formal channels, speak ill of people behind their backs, and even engage in verbal violence like Internet trolls from time to time?"

3. Unity More credible figures and more commendable collaborative achievements.

Whether it is a person recognized as honest, honest, positive and pure in the circle, or an authoritative figure with high prestige in the organization, when we have more interactions and positive facts with them, . These positive people and facts will naturally make the rumors and rumors that contradict them have no place to hide. This is the role of trust endorsement.

In fact, all real masters know: the best way to look down on someone is to shut up and not mention it, instead of using vicious words to show your taste and presence. Comparing yourself with unworthy people will make it easier to lower yourself.

So, be yourself and let everything go, because time will give you a chance! As a popular saying once said: "The more slander you can bear, the more praise you can enjoy!"

"The trees that are beautiful in the forest will be destroyed by the wind." Excellent people will definitely endure a lot of jealousy and all kinds of dissatisfaction. However, will abolishing martial arts and becoming a "waste person" eliminate criticism?

Obviously not.

If you abolish martial arts, then there may be fewer rumors of jealousy and dissatisfaction, but there will be more rumors of disdain and contempt.

As long as they are mortals, few people can satisfy everyone.

So what should we do?

1. The principle of "Four Nos and One Gathering". That is to say, don’t care, don’t inquire, don’t verify, don’t explain. Focus on your most important things and concentrate on your career.

2. Be calm and tactful, do not steal the spotlight from others, listen to others, give others enough stage, and be willing to applaud others. Reduce unnecessary opposition and reduce unnecessary resistance to your career.

3. If the gossip is too vulgar and seriously affects your work and life, the workplace is so big, I believe it is easy to know the creator and communicator. Then take the chance and return it all at once. Either there will be no war, or there will be a war and 50 years of peace.

4. There are too many beautiful scenery in life, so pursue those scenery that makes you intoxicated. If there are birds chirping outside your car window, close the windows. After a while, the birds will naturally disappear. Open the car windows and enjoy the fresh spring breeze.

Silence is golden. Remaining silent in the face of gossip is a silent power. Smile is true gold. Remaining rational in the face of bad words is a silent statement.

Although the words sound nice, according to my observation, a considerable number of people do not know how to make good use of their silence and smiles, and excessive use of them can lead to aggravation of misunderstandings and even irreversible consequences. "Character discrimination".

So, let’s talk about how to make good use of these two methods of expressing one’s attitude.

First of all, let’s talk about silence. Silence is not a complete silence. It’s like if you hear rumors and you don’t stand up and curse those who spread them, you can’t do it when others are talking about you in front of you. Pretend you didn't hear it.

At this time, smile comes into play. If others talk about you in front of you, first of all, such people either have extremely low emotional intelligence, or they are deliberately testing your attitude. The former is a garbage person in the workplace, so just ignore it (and if you can be friends with such people, please pay attention to their actions and remember the principle that birds of a feather flock together)

If it is the latter, Smile in greeting, and then simply express your basic attitude towards this kind of gossip: It's unnecessary talk, and talking too much will only increase trouble.

Then if the other party is still interested in understanding your attitude as the client, then you might as well tell the truth about the matter simply and without intense emotions, and express "Thank you very much for the other party's willingness to listen to the truth." , thank the other party for listening and understanding.

So, what is the effect of doing this? I have paid attention to many chicken soup articles and answers from some authoritative experts. I found that these people and articles did not make it clear or even mentioned this matter at all, so here I will give you an interpretation.

First of all, you must understand this: No matter how strong the wind blows, sooner or later the fictitious things will be blown away, because the things themselves do not exist, and the so-called "rumors" are just fabricated for people's entertainment or entertainment. It is a statement that produces some kind of conspiracy effect.

Then, if it is for people’s entertainment, it will not have any clear effect whether you explain it or not: it is like people watching the fun. What everyone is watching is the fun. As for whether this matter is really relevant to you, It does matter, but not many people actually care.

If it is to create some kind of conspiracy theory, then silence, a smile and a simple explanation are crucial: people who really care and want to know about this rumor will definitely find you! Remember, if others just want to see a joke, you are reenacting the truth, and the other person will just think you are acting.

Workplace rumors, if something really offensive attacks you, you will definitely be given a chance to explain. If your superior or boss doesn't explain it to you at all, then the other party often doesn't care about what you say (think about it on the other hand, why is the truth not taken seriously and choose to believe in the illusion? Having said this, you must have already (Clear)

Therefore, a truly smart person will be silent when he should be silent and smile when he should smile, instead of insisting on silence and smile for no reason. Because smart people understand the importance of timing: only when the time comes can they maximize the value of their expression.

First of all, don’t attach too much importance to the outside world’s evaluation of yourself, establish correct and stable values, and don’t be easily destroyed by fearless opinions. We all live for ourselves, not for others.

Regardless of whether you are in the workplace or not, you do not avoid problems and do not need to explain too much. The only thing you have to do is to insist on being yourself, and using actions to tell the outside world the facts is the most powerful.

There is something wrong with your thinking. You care too much, dear.

Black bricks, one leg on no one’s land, sharpening the knife in front of the house in the early stage