Rural custom: what does it mean to go back to the door after three days of marriage?

Getting married is a big event for everyone. For men, there may not be so many restrictions, but for girls, there are many customs to follow. There is a round-trip system in rural areas of our country, that is, after three days of marriage, girls should visit their parents with their husbands and gifts. Mainly say goodbye to parents, talk to parents about their married life, let girls know their living conditions and comfort their parents. This custom has its advanced significance, value and problems, and it still exists in some areas.

First, comfort parents. When men get married, women will have to live in men's homes. I have been with my parents for more than ten or twenty years, and I don't want to have feelings behind my back. My parents also love their daughters. So I came back to see my parents with the custom of returning home. Although her daughter was splashed with water, she was still a piece of meat that fell from her parents. Going back to the door is also to reassure parents and make them live better, and then parents can rest assured and live a stable life in the future. The custom of returning to the door is a filial piety of the daughter to her parents.

Second, returning to the door is to say goodbye to parents. As the saying goes, a married daughter is equal to spilled water. This thought was very common and deeply rooted in ancient rural areas. Returning home means returning to your home as a guest, so that your daughter can understand her position and situation and know that she will go to her husband's family to live in the future. Going back to her house can only be a guest Therefore, returning to the door is to show this gift, to say goodbye to my parents better and to live with my husband's family.

Third, there are parents' exhortations to their children, especially their daughters. She wants to know whether her daughter is doing well in her husband's family, what kind of person her husband is, and give her an opinion on life after birth. As well as their own birth and parenting events, give some reference and attention. Parents love their children, and they hope they can do some last things for their daughters. Because of the bondage of thinking, he thinks that their daughter is another family member from now on, making a final farewell and moving towards a new life.