Parents don't know about the teacher's "new cold violence", and children dare not say it.

# What wonderful corporal punishment did you encounter at school #

Many teachers don't understand children at present. They like obedient children. For naughty and active children, they are often labeled as ADHD by teachers and even labeled as problem children. Children who are often naughty are smarter and have better comprehensive ability, but they are not reflected in their studies and grades.

Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what? How much psychological trauma will this "cold violence" cause to children? And many parents don't know, and their children dare not say it when they go home! Why dare not say? Because he thinks he made a mistake, his parents may not understand, and it is estimated that "domestic violence" will be added!

I want to share with you two cases around me, one is kindergarten and the other is primary school.

1. My son doesn't want to go to kindergarten.

I talked to a kindergarten parent two days ago, and she said that her child didn't want to go to kindergarten.

I asked her: Do you know the reason? Her answer is: Before, I just found that my child was emotional and unhappy after school. When I asked him the reason, he didn't say it himself. At that time, I thought that there might be too many emotional problems in children, so I didn't care too much. But there has been a problem in the last two days, that is, I don't want to go to school. Only when I asked, did I know that neither teachers nor children in my school played by themselves. More seriously, the teacher even said in front of all the children, don't let the children play with our children.

I continued to ask: there must be a reason. Has anything happened before?

She replied: Her son is really naughty. He often disobeys the teacher and sometimes quarrels with other children. The teacher thinks that the children are disobedient and often make trouble for themselves, so he tells all the children to stay away from her children. Her son was isolated in kindergarten.

It is not wrong for teachers to like good children, but adopting this form of cold violence may hurt children, especially children in early childhood for life. If you choose the education industry, then you should have the most basic ethics. Children are angels. Maybe he has some problems. If the teacher can guide correctly and communicate patiently, you will save the child's life.

He became the laughingstock of the whole class.

I once went to a primary school to teach fifth-grade children. A child caught my attention during class. The child ignores class in the classroom and often gets up and walks around. Because I sit in the last position, I occasionally go out for a walk. The head teacher told me: Don't worry about him, he is like this.

My first feeling is, what has this child experienced? What is the purpose of his doing this?

During the break, he did another thing that made everyone laugh and cry. He shouted in front of the platform and fell to the ground. All the classmates and teachers surrounded him and looked at his painful expression. I thought he was hurt. As a result, he made a face and smiled instantly. The head teacher suddenly changed his face. In front of so many students, he told all the students to leave him alone and not to play with him. He directly said that the child had a brain problem.

After class, I learned that this child is "problem children" in the eyes of many teachers. Since the first grade of primary school, he has often "hit people" because he often disturbs the classroom order and is isolated by the teacher, and many students are unwilling to play with him.

Deep down, he just wants a sense of existence, which he can't get at school. If his parents don't understand him, his life will be greatly affected.

These are the experiences of two children I have experienced. They are victims of "cold violence" on campus, and this is just one of them.

When children are at school, it is inevitable that they will have inappropriate remarks and behaviors.

If some teachers who know children well and are cultivated at this time will use professional knowledge to guide and educate children, but some teachers will simply and rudely deal with the problem of children's voices in a threatening way.

Two sentences that every educator should remember:

The first sentence, if I were a child.

The second sentence, if it is my child.

How you will work and how you will treat your students deserves our deep thought!

First of all, as parents, we should find out the children's emotional fluctuations in time and establish a good communication relationship with them.

Once the problem is found, communicate with the teacher in time to help the teacher help the child change and grow!

Parents should study more, observe more and think more. Parenting itself needs more care. Learn to listen to children, make friends with children and give them unconditional love!