Bai reminds women that the real sense of crisis is not only a kind of motivation, but also a new life. what do you think?

Everyone has heard the story of boiled frog in warm water, but at that time, we didn't seem to realize that we were the frog soaked in warm water. We only know to read other people's jokes in stories, but we don't know.

Heaven has never bypassed anyone. In the torrent of time, each of us was once a frog without a sense of crisis, until time passed quickly, and when we turned around, the sense of crisis came to us.

The friend said earnestly: People who have no long-term worries will have near worries. At that time, she was young, in her prime, with a domineering pride.

The man said he wanted to make money to support his family and make her as beautiful as flowers and jade, so he became a full-time wife first and soon became a treasure mother.

Since having children, she has been a real housewife, immersed in shame every day, with a happy family and a beloved son. Nothing could be happier for her. But she never imagined that when she was almost 40 years old, her happiness and peace were broken by another woman.

If she hadn't looked herself up and down in front of the mirror, she would have thought she was the once proud woman. Time is really heartless. In recent years, she has unconsciously become greasy, without delicate makeup, and her skin is very tight. Now she is a lazy and slovenly middle-aged woman, afraid to look at herself directly. The oncoming sense of crisis made her suddenly depressed.

After saying these words, my friend looked like a helpless child, wondering if there was a road ahead, let alone where it was.

I told her that maybe it's not too late to realize the sense of crisis, only 40. If you want to change, you must have time. Of course, it is not as good as a little girl in her early twenties, but as long as she has a confident change, she should not fall behind her peers.

She's a little confused. Over the years, she has given all the good times to her family. She knows nothing about what is happening outside. She doesn't even know that young people nowadays can fight for love without name. She tried to kidnap the men in her family with morality, but found herself ridiculous. Why can't men compromise just because you stand on the moral high ground?

The more she thinks like this, the more flustered she is. Yes, even if she tried to comfort her, the truth was right in front of her. Not everyone can understand the crisis of middle-aged women. Maybe only a little, not personal experience. How can she feel the same way?

Where is the sense of crisis of middle-aged women? The first thing to bear the brunt is "Zhu Yan resigns from the mirror". Maybe there will be happiness at the next stop without love, but if you are farther and farther away from the words "beautiful" and "beautiful", will you still believe that someone will wait for you at the next stop? The biggest crisis for women is losing face.

Secondly, it should be that happiness is slowly moving away. Without happiness, there is naturally no vitality. A girl is like a lively and lovely kitten. She accidentally scratched her master naughtily, not only will she not be punished, but she will also be considered naughty and lovely.

But the middle-aged woman is an old cat, sunbathing under the tree and snoring lazily. Even if someone bullied her, she was too lazy to move. Vivid love brings happiness and hope, laziness brings lifelessness.

Third, middle-aged women should take care of the elderly and children. Her time is not her own, she has more and more obligations and can give me less and less. Sometimes, faced with these things, she has to admit that she is too busy to do it. More often, she gives in to her ideals.

If these pressures are nothing, what's worse, if I still have independent economic talents, it will be sad and the future may be unimaginable.

Therefore, it is basically impossible to try to comfort a middle-aged woman and let her ignore the middle-aged crisis. The truth is right in front of her. She has to face life events such as age, emotion and economy. One of them is likely to be the last straw to overwhelm her. The crisis is a fact, and any escape will only make things worse. Only facing it correctly is the best policy.

In fact, sometimes the sense of crisis is not terrible, but the terrible thing is to turn a blind eye to the crisis. If you have a sense of crisis, you will try your best to deal with the problem. Ignoring the crisis is the worst.

A friend said that she realized the sense of crisis and didn't want to get involved. She also wants to try to change herself.

After weighing, she hired a nanny, although her husband objected, saying that even if she came to work, the money she earned might not be able to pay the nanny's salary. However, she is determined not to be a housewife. She would rather spend all her salary on a nanny than let herself go out of the family.

She knows that what really brings me a sense of crisis is not appearance, age or economic independence. Behind this appearance is that she has not grown up since the day she entered the marriage. As she said, the outside world has changed a long time ago, and she is still talking to her husband about things more than ten years ago.

The real crisis is two people in marriage. One grows from time to time, and the other always stands still. They are like two intersecting lines, which go further and further after they meet.

She said that we should turn this crisis into a strength and let me grow up quickly. Only when you grow up can you be reborn, and only when you deal with basic problems can you resolve all crises.

At the moment she left home, she said that she thought the air she breathed was sweet. She tried to change herself, so she got a fitness card with her first month's salary. She is no longer stingy with fitness, supporting herself and studying. Even if she overdraws her credit card, she will invest in herself from time to time.

Soon she changed, no longer afraid of getting old, and no longer afraid of love leaving. What she used to worry about all day is no longer what bothers her. When she finally stopped being afraid of losing everything, she suddenly found that I had matured and there was no so-called crisis in her world.

In fact, where does the sense of crisis come from? Probably from the heart. Facing the same thing, but with different attitudes, the result is completely different.

People who have no faith in their hearts and are not strong enough, life is full of crises, while those who have faith in their hearts and can grow from time to time will be wise to discover the principle of things, and will use wisdom to resolve crises, and at the same time become strong from time to time in the process. Men who have been polished by time and crisis will eventually get better and better.

As Bai said: the real sense of crisis is not only a kind of motivation, but also a kind of rebirth.