Why do different people have different reactions to the same thing?

In our daily life, we can see examples of "ABC theory".

For example, some people will feel nothing about the loud door of their neighbors, while others will feel very angry.

In this case, "the neighbor's door is closed loudly" is event A (activation event);

The result of different behaviors of individuals caused by events, one is slow to respond and the other is very angry, which is the result C (consensus);

Why do different people have different reactions to the same thing? This is caused by different cognition of time B (belief).

For example, people who have no feelings think that the wind is too strong and blow the neighbor's door shut;

People who are very angry will think that their neighbors made such a noise on purpose, because they had an unpleasant quarrel with their neighbors the other day.

To sum up, it is not the event itself, but our cognition of the event that triggers our emotions, feelings and behaviors.

Therefore, we need to explore more cognitive perspectives, think about one thing from multiple angles, and avoid "falling into a dead end" and being immersed in our own guesses and emotions.