Is the meaning of straight man good or bad (is straight man a positive word or a negative word)

Have you ever used the adjective "straight man"? Under what circumstances would you say a person is "straight"? How did the other party react?

After realizing the complexity of the meaning of this word, we invited several friends who had been evaluated as "very straight men" to tell us under what circumstances they were evaluated and how they felt.

These friends are men and women, and they are crooked and straight, so their understanding and thoughts on this word are quite different.

/an aesthetic/a: when I evaluate a girl's clothes or the type of girl I like, I am sometimes told straight. "Straight men" like the pure type and dress of that kind of girl. Aragaki Yui, for example, is a straight killer.

At this time, I feel nothing, so I feel that I represent an aesthetic. Sometimes I even say to girls, believe me, boys are like this, especially before trying to seduce men.

But when I was told that I took a picture of a straight man, I was a little unhappy, because that meant ugliness!

/A kind of "ignorance" /B: I can't tell whether a girl wears makeup or not. The only standard is lipstick. I remember the first time I saw a female friend wearing red lips, I blurted out, Oh, your makeup is so thick today! Then I was scolded for being stupid, because I wore lipstick that day and didn't wear anything. I spent a whole set the other day (with me the other day).

Usually at this time, I will be called "dead straight man" Although I was scolded, I didn't feel bad, but I felt very funny. Later, I will laugh at myself with other friends and say that I am really a steel straight man among beautiful women. Because as a T, I am considered as a part of masculinity, and I am happy to accept it.

C: I'm a girl, and I know little about cosmetics because I don't wear makeup. The first time I heard other girls talking about the mouth red number, I was surprised to say, "Is lipstick still a color separation number?" They were also surprised and joked that I was so straight.

It may be because many men never touch makeup, so from the perspective of women, their ignorance of makeup will make a lot of jokes and form a funny impression of "straight men". I am as ignorant of women's makeup and dressing skills as men. If it doesn't conform to people's understanding of traditional women, I will often be called "straight man".

I don't think women need to know makeup, and men don't understand it at all. It may be because of this gender stereotype that the word "straight man" is used on me, which will make some gentle boys who can make up a little uncomfortable. It is also the same reason.

/A kind of thinking /D: I once bought a bottle of water with a female classmate in the mall, but I didn't expect her to say "You are straight" to me. Ha, I'm not straight, and she knows it, so it's funny for her to say it.

In fact, in my hometown, it seems to be a very common thing for boys to pay girls, so I get used to it. Pay it because it is not a large sum of money. If it is too much, you should still want it.

So the first reaction was that she was too sensitive. I understand what she wants to say is that I am a little male chauvinist or a little gender-burdened. I think boys should pay for girls, but she doesn't want to. I think it is quite understandable.

E: After shopping the other day, I went to dinner with my girlfriend. When I went to get the rice, she clashed with a stranger passing by and scolded each other. After I came back, we ate in the same place and listened to her stories. After eating, I'm going to throw away the garbage and put the plate back. She said, "Oh, I don't want to stay here!" " "

At that time, I thought she didn't want to sit there and watch things, so I handed her the plate and said, "Why don't you pour it and I'll watch things here?" Perhaps this is the logic of straight men dealing with things: solving problems in the simplest way.

Unexpectedly, she suddenly looked like crying and said, "I don't want it!" " I said, well, shall we put the things on our backs and return the plates together? That's it. It will be a little troublesome. It is heavy. She said yes, let's go together. I didn't think much. Let's get together.

As a result, she sent a circle of friends that night, saying that she didn't want to be alone at that time, for fear of being disturbed by the stranger just now, and my reaction was, "Maybe this is what people often say about' straight men'." I didn't react until this time. So that's what she thinks. My mood is a little complicated. I want to laugh and feel guilty. I am really the legendary "stupid straight man".

Later, after in-depth chat, I felt that neither of us considered the problem from the other's point of view and acted according to our own consistent logic. You just need to get along more, express more, and can't tolerate you because you are really physically straight, so you can always act according to the logic of straight men.

F: I am often rated as a "very straight man" by my colleagues, and I feel very wronged because I am neither a man nor a straight man!

For example, once I made an appointment with a colleague to have dinner after work, and the elevator was very crowded during peak hours. I squeezed into the elevator, but she didn't. I sent her a WeChat message after I went downstairs. I went to the restaurant to order food first. Then she said I was straight.

Also, another colleague once asked me a question, and after I answered it, she said that I had a strong desire to survive and was very straightforward. For another example, once I told her that I was worried that I couldn't make my girlfriend happy, and she also smiled and said that I was so straight.

I don't quite understand why I am straight. Maybe it's because my natural personality, way of thinking and social style are different from those of girls around me, but it's not necessarily the thinking of boys. But it is also possible that in interpersonal communication, the role I play is usually played by boys, but I didn't mean to.

So I always ask, "Why am I straight?" But no one will answer me. Everyone seems to agree with this statement and immerse themselves in this stalk. After this scene appeared too many times, even I acquiesced that I was a "straight man". Later, when I get along with my colleagues and want to say something, I often think, "Will this be straight?"

I don't like this word very much anyway. Words that don't feel very positive are probably equal to "straight male cancer." Before a colleague took a screenshot of a netizen's sexist remarks on Weibo, I spoke, "Look, this is straight male cancer!"

Then they explained to me that I was heterosexual, not a cancer patient. It is also said that straight men are actually cute, at least when they say that a person is straight, they will think that the other person is cute. I'm actually glad to hear that, although I'm still confused about the usage of this word.

/An idea /G: When I make some remarks about gender, some friends will say that I am straight, which is actually a beautiful expression of "straight male cancer" and "male chauvinism". I will be very unhappy and reflect on what I said wrong. After you figure it out, you will be very depressed and feel that you should not make such a very basic mistake.

After being with my current girlfriend, because she is engaged in gender education, she often shares and explains a lot with me, and I gradually become a little feminist, and I will hate all kinds of gender inequality, especially those remarks that bind women. Therefore, when others say "good straight man", they will be more unhappy, explain and discuss.

If you find that you are really sexist, you will think, "How can I make such a statement, which will hurt my girlfriend very much?" You will be angry with yourself. If it is misinterpreted, then I will be very angry with each other.

Maybe they were just joked and said "good straight man", and they reflected a lot. I want to say that this is really a group of super cute "straight men".

It is normal for men and women to have a lot of ignorance about each other when they grow up because of their different physical sex and educational level. When used as adjectives, "straight man" and "straight woman" are used to describe acquired differences between the two sexes and ignorance and incomprehension of another gender group.

Have you ever said or been said "very straight man" or "very straight woman"? Do you like this statement?

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