Never underestimate a man who is afraid of his wife.

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Lao Zhang and I met at the celebration dinner of the sales department at the end of last year.

At that time, I had dinner with many colleagues in the operation department 10. Only he left a deep impression on me, not because he was the best in the whole department, but because of a phone call.

At that time, after three rounds of drinking, everyone enjoyed themselves and chatted happily. Before you know it, it's almost 1 1.

Lao Zhang received a phone call. He called "wife" softly, smiled apologetically at a table of people, and then got up and went out to make a phone call.

After about 3 or 4 minutes, he came in, raised the glass on the table, gulped it down, and then said to everyone apologetically, "Sorry, my wife urged me to go back, brothers and sisters, let's get together next time."

Lao Qin, another colleague with similar performance in the department, helped him on the shoulder and said, "I told you to go back. Why did you listen to your wife so much?" This makes men lose face. Stay, we will go to KTV later. "

"I promised my wife that no matter how late it is, I must be home before 12, otherwise I won't have pocket money this month." Lao Zhang smiled helplessly but meaningfully.

Later, even if the director left him, he insisted on going back.

Old Qin shook his head and said half jokingly, "This Lao Zhang is so afraid of his wife that he may not have any future."

So the next day, his title of "henpecked husband" spread all over the company.

He readily accepted the title.

Later, I met him in the dining hall and chatted with him. Inevitably, I talked about the problem of "henpecked husband", but he didn't shy away.

He said that his wife basically has the final say in all the big and small matters at home, and the financial power and economic power are in his wife's hands. His wife often makes him do housework, and he enjoys it.

His wife usually looks after him. Last year, the physical examination found that there was something wrong with the lungs, so under the repeated exhortation of his wife, he abruptly quit smoking for more than ten years;

He usually eats more, does less exercise and is fat all over, but his wife likes sports, so she drags him to the gym from time to time. Reluctantly, I followed her patiently. After a few months, not only the fatty liver disappeared, but also the whole body gradually tightened and the body became stronger;

After that, his wife became more and more overbearing, and even his living habits began to interfere. Be sure to go home for dinner when you are not socializing, and never go home more than 12 in the future. You can drink alcohol but never get drunk. You can't bring your cell phone and computer into your bedroom.

He is also willing to accept all orders.

He said with a smile, what's more, last year his wife took the TOEFL test and forced him to learn English from her, but he was not interested in English on weekdays, so his wife found an original English movie for him to watch.

He couldn't beat his wife, so he had to bite the bullet and watch it with her.

Never thought, gradually he found English interesting, and because the company is a foreign trade enterprise, it is inevitable to use English at ordinary times, so he began to spend a little time with his wife and learn from each other every day.

He said that he had been married for five years, only quarreled in the first year, and never blushed with his wife in the following years.

Hearing this, I couldn't help admiring Lao Zhang.

At the end of June this year, at the mid-year summary meeting, the company announced the new appointment. Due to the rapid development of the company, the operation department will set up another department to develop domestic business and expand overseas business.

After several rounds of competition, Lao Zhang stood out and became the head of this department. This is unexpected.

But as far as his usual serious and dedicated work attitude, excellent work performance, gentle and modest temperament and good popularity are concerned, this position is absolutely well deserved.

He later said with emotion: "I want to thank my wife in particular. She has been supporting and urging me. I got rid of all my bad habits and made me who I am today.

You all laugh at me for being afraid of my wife, but I really enjoy this state. Only when she loves you can she take care of you. Men should be tolerant and follow women, so that she will be in a good mood and her family will be harmonious. "

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Speaking of "henpecked husband", many good-looking men are very afraid of being judged by others.

Many people will laugh at men who have no position at home, are controlled by their wives, have no temper, and want their wives to have the final say in everything. They will laugh at these seriously "hen-pecked" men, and live too disgraced.

The "fear" here does not mean that men are timid and useless, but represents men's understanding and tolerance of women and represents the highest level of respect and love.

In fact, a wise and tolerant man knows best that giving in to the woman he loves and dealing with the inevitable friction between the two sexes with such a foolish attitude is a kind of wisdom in marriage and a shortcut and smooth road to a happy life.

Looking at the anecdotes of literati in the Republic of China in recent days, I found that Hu Shi was such a "scared" wife. He is obedient to his wife Jiang Dongxiao.

Although Jiang Dongxiu is illiterate, Hu Shi respects her very much and waits on her to play cards and cook together. Outsiders say that his wife is not worthy of his talent, and he only says that he got a big bargain.

Not only that, but he also plausibly made a "macro-theory" to the northern college students:

"A country that is afraid of its wife's story is easy to be democratic; Otherwise, it won't. German literature is rarely afraid of his wife's story, so it is not easy to be democratic. China is afraid of his wife's story, and he will be democratic in the future. "

Hu Shi not only takes his "fear of his wife" as a mantra, but also likes to collect stories and relevant evidence about his fear of his wife all over the world. When he saw the words "P.T.T" cast on the Paris copper coin, he interpreted it as a homonym of "being afraid of his wife".

At a symposium, he laughed at his so-called "three obedience and four virtues":

The wife should follow when she goes out, obey her orders and blindly follow her mistakes; The wife has to wait for makeup, remember her birthday, endure beatings and abuse, and be willing to spend money.

This is naturally just a joke, but the so-called "obedience" and "acquisition" here are actually a gentleman's demeanor, which is not only respect and humility for his wife, but also a special confession of love.

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Now when it comes to "henpecked" men, celebrities are everywhere. In their eyes, "men who are afraid of their wives are the happiest", which is the life password for the success of marriage.

Only those who love their wives will be "afraid" of their wives and will be willing to be "henpecked". Such men will be more empathetic and know how to be humble and kind to women, and this sense of "fear" born of love will often make the relationship between husband and wife harmonious and sweet, and the contradictions between husband and wife will be less.

Therefore, "henpecked husband" has become a model worthy of admiration, and a British study also shows that "henpecked husband" is the secret of a happy and lasting marriage.

Even Ma Yun said at an employee collective wedding in 20 10 Alibaba: After marriage, the wife comes first. Then he told the story of himself and his wife Zhang Ying, and said with emotion that without his wife, there would be no today, and Zhang Ying is irreplaceable.

As we all know, Jerry is a typical hen-pecked wife in the entertainment circle. After marriage, Li XiaoLu reduced the workload in order to take care of the family, but still firmly grasped the financial and economic power of the family.

Impressively, in a "Ace to Ace" program, Li XiaoLu asked Jia Ling to call and ask Jerry where his private money was hidden.

Jerry, who didn't know they were recording the program, replied sincerely: "I just received a red envelope from someone on WeChat, and I saved it. I don't have any private money. "

Jerry readily accepted the title of "henpecked husband", saying that as a man, he should understand and tolerate his wife. As time goes on, their feelings become sweeter and deeper. Under their joint management, the daughter is sweet, clever and sensible, and the family is also a representative of a model family.

Zhang Duo, who has no scandal in the entertainment circle, said that the money for his filming will be kept by Chen Songling, including the bonus at the end of the year.

He also said that what he wears every day is also Chen Songling's match. He said: "It's not because I can't put it on, but because I can do something for you when the other person is busy. Life will become sweeter."

It is this wholehearted trust that makes the relationship between husband and wife sweeter and more harmonious.

For the wife, "henpecked" is only considerate and caring for those who hold hands with them from eating and drinking to food, clothing, housing and transportation;

Therefore, smart people are willing to accept it, just regard it as a kind of gratitude and responsibility higher than affectionate love.

The most regrettable thing is that some people often turn a blind eye to this, being tolerant and generous to outsiders, but being unkind to the person named "wife" at home;

Even taking it out on his wife, he even said euphemistically, "I'll go out for this family." Can't you let me have a good time at home? " ! "

Such a person, I am afraid, will only pass by happiness.

Therefore, if you are careful, you will find that those "hen-pecked" people around you will never shy away from others saying that they are "afraid" of their wives. On the contrary, he enjoys this state.

As IP Man said, "There are no men who are afraid of their wives, only men who respect their wives."

And such people are often cultivated and tolerant, which not only enables him to live in harmony with his wife in marriage, but also makes it easier for him to gain sincerity and good popularity in various interpersonal relationships.

They usually don't waste time arguing with their wives. On the contrary, they have empathy and gratitude for their wives' difficulties in dealing with housework.

This pattern can not only make the family run happily, but also make achievements in work and career.