Accompany the leader to eat and socialize?

I don't want to have dinner with the leader. How can I refuse?

Workplace experts pointed out that it is better for leaders to take the initiative to invite them to dinner. But if you really think that the leader who invited you to dinner turns you off, you don't want to ruin a good lunch because of him; Or you really have a backlog of work to deal with, or you have already made an appointment with someone else and have to refuse, that's another matter. Workplace experts said that if you want to refuse the invitation of the leader at this time, it is not a simple sentence: "I won't go!" You can go there easily, and of course you can't say, "I don't want to have lunch with you!" " "If you ask for such a dead end.

Career experts say that to skillfully refuse the invitation of the leader, you should show the leader with a tactful and humble attitude that you have important business to deal with later. Even if there is no important official business, I just really don't want to have dinner with my leader, or I have already made an appointment to have lunch with my beloved. At this time, "white lies" are necessary. You can say to the leader with more justified reasons: "I'm sorry, I don't feel well, I have no appetite, and I want to rest more", or you can say "I'm sorry! I have an appointment first, that is, I can't rashly refuse the invitation of the leader! Because this will make the leader feel that you don't want to have dinner with him, and it will produce too many unnecessary associations.

What should leaders do when they take a lunch opportunity to talk?

Workplace experts give you eight-character proverbs: "Always be vigilant like a war"! Experts say that because some leaders are usually in high positions and are unlikely to hear the voices of lower-level employees, they will take advantage of the opportunity to have dinner with employees, ask questions and take the opportunity to talk when their guard is relaxed. As an employee, of course, you can't be "stupid to the highest point." Of course, you should observe carefully and deal with it carefully when you dominate the speech. In case the "top secret" between employees is that you are talkative.

Come clean, be careful that no one dares to make friends with you in the future, and may even crowd you out and isolate you!

Experts pointed out that leaders who like to talk to employees just want to get some information from employees. As an employee, don't think that when the leader asks you questions, he just wants to make friends with you and tell you everything. You know, between responses, it involves your "workplace moral value judgment"! A clever employee must say what he should say, and don't say what he shouldn't. You can say, "I don't know this!" " "Remember, don't judge people casually, or you will be responsible for what happened at last.

If you have questions and want to respond, how can you ask the leader to have a meal?

At this time, you should first observe the mood of the leader to make sure that he is not particularly upset or angry, and then it is better to take the initiative to send an invitation to the leader. And inviting leaders to have lunch together can be expressed in a relaxed tone: "Is the leader free? Let's have dinner together! " Or "Leader, I know a good restaurant. Do you want to try it together? " Remember to relax nature and don't let people see that you have other intentions; Anyway, even if there are other purposes, I will wait for the leader to promise to have dinner with you and then find a chance to react.

However, career experts also said that in the face of some leaders who don't like beating around the bush, you can also say to him at the beginning: "I have something to discuss with you." I wonder if I can have dinner together? " Or "I have some bottlenecks in my work and I want to ask you. Why don't we have dinner and talk together? " Usually, most smart leaders will agree to the invitation, because employees are also assets of the company. As the superior in charge of these assets, of course, I will be willing to spend more time to understand and communicate with employees.

A group of people have dinner with the leader. How should you behave?

Workplace experts mentioned that when a group of employees have lunch with their leaders, some people often don't know whether to attract the attention of the leaders or to bury their heads and eat without saying a word. In fact, in a group, there are always a few lively and extroverted people who can freely bring the atmosphere to a lively and relaxed atmosphere and attract the attention of leaders. If you don't belong to this type of person, you'd better not stand out, lest no one laugh at a cold joke, or make suggestions that no one cares about and no one answers, then it will be embarrassing!

However, experts also said that, of course, it is not enough to eat from beginning to end. Being in a large group like the company, of course, we should also show our sense of participation moderately, so as not to give people the impression of being aloof and indifferent. You can try to be a good audience, clap your hands in time when you meet interesting scenes, or smile at them. There is no need to grandstanding, and there is no need to grab the protagonist. Proper performance is the best etiquette.

How should the group react to lunch in order to resign itself to fate?

Workplace experts pointed out that unless you want to reflect on the shortcomings that everyone agrees with, everyone will raise their hands when discussing them, otherwise the best advice for everyone is "Let's talk about it on another occasion!" Because work is busy enough at ordinary times, it is rare for everyone to have a chance to sit down and have a good meal together. No one likes to listen to you and correct your shortcomings during such a relaxed and happy meal time. And even if what you say is true, a thoughtful leader can't believe it just by listening to your side of the story; He will judge the situation and make the most appropriate balance, not what you said!

In addition, some leaders dislike "reporting" employees very much, because such employees will only "make trouble" for him and distract him from dealing with what you have reacted to after his busy work. Only this, the leader's evaluation of you will be greatly deducted! Unless the leader asks himself, it's best not to do it yourself, and don't talk and criticize in front of other employees, otherwise you don't know how you died in the employee circle!

Matters needing attention in having lunch with leaders ...

Experts remind that eating with leaders should be the same as going to work. Leaders should answer questions appropriately and seriously, don't say anything casually, and don't say anything that will make people feel uncomfortable. Don't interrupt the leader rashly, and don't grab the leader's words.

Besides, we should pay attention to keeping proper smiles and manners. Unless we go Dutch when we check out, it's best to "grab the money and pay the bill"; Never pat yourself on the back and get ready to leave. Leave the bill to the leader to pay it for you (unless the big boss says he will invite you). Experts point out that interpersonal relationships in the workplace are like dancing. Either he enters and you retreat, or you enter and he retreats. Always remind yourself that you should always observe your words and deeds, be careful what you say and do, and never let yourself become a "workplace nuisance" that everyone hates.

Knowledge of inviting the boss to dinner.

Be sure to prepare more than two kinds of wine! Take it out and let your boss choose one or two bottles (whether the leader drinks it or not, these are the two). Let your boss pick on others and not necessarily point out anything (a competent boss) to see your strength! Maotai, Wuliangye and safflower lang are all good!

Find out the boss's dietary taboos! (I don't know later) Have a cigarette! One+one pack! Boss's favorite brand! It must be real cigarettes!

Food! (A capable boss) Make way first! Then I'll ask you if you have any taboos! At this time, pretend that you are an animal that eats everything, even if you are afraid of food allergies! Wait for the leader to order before asking the waiter the most expensive dish with the menu! Then point to sell luxurious but not super expensive dishes with your fingers! (a diversion! Pay attention to the boss and the size of things, and don't make anything big. ) the general idea is to fill in the form! But don't exaggerate! The current leader is not a glutton! The food is more exquisite! Plus some symptoms, so we must make the leaders happy. The stupidest way is to communicate with the ordering staff in the restaurant in advance! Combine everyone's taboos and economic strength to point the boss's favorite! The seemingly casual recommendation is actually what the boss means!

Find a watch helper!

Drink it! Cloth dishes! See the leaders like it! A glib girl is the most reassuring! At the critical moment, the toast leader can't refuse! I haven't met a female leader! )

Don't talk while eating! This is the rule! Just click! Tell me what leaders are good at! Collection! Olympics! Cars! Anecdote! Too many! But elegant leaders had better not get drunk outside. It's all a matter of principle

Look at the meaning of the leader after eating! (If you don't make the leader happy at the dinner table, this meal can only be a registered meal) Play cards! KTV！ Sauna! But don't just arrange extracurricular programs for leaders!

Finally, send the drunken leader home! If you have a car, bring alcohol and tobacco to the driver! Say "a little meaning" to the leader! Guide you to get it. "Don't let the driver check for loopholes." The leader woke up and called the next day! The leader will get the message! The later things will be easy!

Bottom line: Many people don't blame all aspects of inviting guests to dinner.

-Seats

Generally speaking, the seating order is "Zuo Zun Dong" and "Zun Men". If it is a round table, the host and guests face the gate. In terms of the distance from the host and guest, the closer the host and guest are, the more respected they are. At the same distance, the left side is more respected than the right side. If it is a square table, if there is a seat facing the gate, the seat on the right side of the gate is the host and guest. If it is not facing the gate, the right seat on the east side is the chief.

If it is a big banquet, the arrangement between tables should pay attention to the chief, with 2, 4 and 6 seats on the left and 3, 5 and 7 seats on the right. According to the identity and status of the host and guests, relatives and friends should sit separately.

If you are the host, you should arrive early, then wait at the door and show the seats to the guests. If you are invited, you should be seated according to the host's arrangement.

Generally speaking, if your boss is present, you should lead him to the main seat and ask the customer to sit on the left side of the main seat, which is the highest level. Unless the host's leadership level is very high.

-Order.

If time permits, you should wait for most of the guests to arrive, distribute the menu to the guests and invite them to order. Of course, as a business banquet, you will worry about the budget. Therefore, it is most important to control the budget and do more homework before you cook. More importantly, choose a suitable place for your guests, so that they can have a great understanding of your budget. In addition, generally speaking, you pay the bill, the guests are not too embarrassed, and you are the host. If your boss is at the party, don't let him/her order because he/she respects him/her or thinks he/she has rich social experience and eats too much unless he/she asks for it. Otherwise he will feel that he is not decent enough.

If you are a frequent party guest, you should know that you should not take the initiative to order food, but let the host order food. If the other party asks in good faith, you can order a dish that is not too expensive or taboo. Remember to ask the people at the same table, especially "Is there anything not to eat?" Or "What do you prefer to eat?" Let everyone feel taken care of. After ordering, you can ask "I ordered, I don't know if it suits several people's tastes", "Would you like something else" and so on.

When ordering, be sure to know what you want. When ordering food, you can follow the following three rules:

First of all, look at the composition of personnel. Generally speaking, one dish per capita is a universal law. If it is a dinner with more men, the amount can be increased appropriately. Second, look at the combination of dishes. Generally speaking, it is best to prepare a table of dishes well, mix hot and cold, and try to be comprehensive. If there are many men on the table, you can order more meat, and if there are many women, you can order more light vegetables. The third is the importance of watching the banquet.

If it is an ordinary business banquet, ordinary dishes from 50 yuan to 80 yuan are acceptable. If the object of this banquet is a key person, order a few dishes with enough weight, such as lobster, swordfish and shad, and then serve abalone, wing powder and so on.

Another thing to note is that when ordering, don't ask the waiter about the price of the food or bargain. This will make your company look a little petty in front of customers and customers will feel uncomfortable.

drink

As the saying goes, the more you drink, the stronger you get, but there is also a lot of knowledge on the wine table. The following summarizes some small details that have to be paid attention to on the wine table.

Detail one, the boss drinks the other person before it's his turn to propose a toast. When toasting, you must stand up and raise your glass with both hands.

Detail two, you can be respected by many people. Never be respected by many people unless you are the boss.

Detail 3: Respect others. If you don't clink glasses, how much you drink depends on the situation. For example, the drinking capacity and attitude of the other party must not be less than that of the other party. You should know that you respect others.

Detail four, respect others by yourself. If you clink a glass, by the way, I'll finish it, so be generous.

Detail five, remember to add more wine to the boss or customer. Don't blindly drink for the leader, just replace it, and pretend that you want to drink because you really want to drink, not for the leader. For example, leader A can't drink enough. Beating around the bush can stop people who want to worship leader A.

Detail 6: Pick up the glass (beer glass), grab the glass with your right hand and put it on the bottom with your left hand. Remember that your cup is always lower than others'. If you are the boss, you should be sensible and don't put it too low, otherwise how can you be the next person.

Detail seven, if there is no special person present, it is best to touch the wine in chronological order, and don't favor one over the other.

Detail 8: clink glasses, propose a toast and make a statement. Otherwise, why the fuck should I drink your wine?

Detail nine, don't talk about business at the dinner table. After drinking, the business will be almost the same, and everyone knows it, otherwise people will not be free to drink with you.

Details 10: If there is not enough wine, put the wine bottle in the middle of the table and let others add it themselves. Don't be silly to pour wine one by one, or what should the people behind you do if they don't have wine?

-Pour the tea

The knowledge of tea pouring mentioned here is applicable to both visiting the company's customers and business dining tables.

First of all, the tea set should be clean. After the guest enters the room, sit down first and order tea. Before making tea, you must clean the tea set, especially the tea set that has not been used for a long time. It is inevitable that there will be dust and dirt, so it should be carefully cleaned with clear water. It is best to iron the teapot and teacup with boiling water before making and pouring tea. In this way, it is both hygienic and polite. Whether the tea set is clean or not, it is impolite to pour tea for guests at will. People get sick at the sight of stains on teapots and teacups. How can they drink your tea? Now the average company is disposable cups. Pay attention to put a cup holder on the disposable cups before pouring tea, so as not to burn the hot water and make the guests unable to drink tea for a while.

Secondly, tea should be moderate. Let's talk about tea first. Generally speaking, it should be appropriate. There should be neither too much nor too little tea. There are many Chata, and the tea taste is too strong; There are too few tea leaves, and the brewed tea has no taste. If the guest introduces his habit of drinking strong tea or weak tea, then make tea according to the guest's mouth and stomach. Besides, pouring tea, whether it's a large cup or a small cup, can't be too full. If it is too full, it is easy to overflow and wet the table, stool and floor. If you are not careful, you will burn yourself or your guests' hands and feet, which will make the host and guests very embarrassed. Of course, it is not advisable to pour too little. If you only serve tea to the guests over the bottom of the cup, it will make people feel that you are pretending, not sincere.

Third, the tea should be served just right. According to the traditional custom of our country, as long as the hands are not disabled, make tea for the guests with both hands. But now some young people don't understand this rule, so they hand the tea to the guests with one hand. Pay attention to serving tea with both hands. For a teacup with a cup ear, it is generally to hold the cup ear with one hand and the bottom of the cup with the other hand to pour tea for the guests. After a teacup without a cup ear is filled with tea, it is hot all over and it is difficult to get close to your hands. Some comrades, regardless of the willy-nilly, hold the edge of the cup with five fingers and give it to the guests. Although this method of serving tea can prevent scalding accidents, it is not beautiful and sanitary enough. Please imagine, let the guest's mouth lick the owner's fingerprint, does it feel good?

Add tea, if the boss and customers need to add tea to the cup, you are duty-bound to do it. You can signal the waiter to add tea, or ask the waiter to leave the teapot on the dining table and add it yourself. This is the best way to hide when you don't know what to say. Of course, when you add tea, you should add tea to your boss and customers first, and then add tea to yourself.

-Leave.

Generally, cocktail parties and tea parties take a long time, about two hours or more. Maybe after walking around and meeting some people, you will want to leave soon. At this time, you can't help but understand some skills of giving up halfway.

It is common that when the banquet is in full swing, because someone wants to leave, everyone breaks up in a hubbub, which makes the organizers really anxious. In order to avoid this disappointing result, when you leave halfway, don't say goodbye to everyone in the conversation circle, just quietly say hello to two or three people around you.

If you leave the reception halfway, you must explain and apologize to the host who invited you. You can't disappear in an instant.

Say hello to your host, and then you should leave at once. Don't drag your master on in Daimon Masaru. Because the other party has a lot of things to do that day, there are still many guests waiting for him (her) to meet him (her). You take up too much of the host's time, which will cause him or her to be rude in front of other guests.

Some people attend cocktail parties and tea parties, and when they are ready to leave halfway, they will ask people they know if they want to go with them. As a result, the lively scene was so encouraged by her that it broke up early. This noisy thing is the most difficult thing to get the forgiveness of the host of the banquet. An elegant person should never make such a mistake.

The wine table is 36 meters

Always say:

1, if it is true, it must be true. Cover the fake with the truth, and the fake must be true first. The premise is that you have to have half a catty of liquor, and half a catty of men is the minimum entry threshold for wineries (low-alcohol liquor, which most people drink at present). When the feast started, everyone woke up. You can't mix it. Drink it and forget about the fake play.

It is impossible to cast a smoke screen. There is no hero on the wine table, who can drink too much, who is stupid and who suffers. It's better to get something painful, pitifully claiming to be high yesterday, and the stomach pain is still uncomfortable today. I still want to drink it for the sake of my buddy's loyalty! Even if the drinker has no sympathy, he has to be kind.

3, only drink white wine and don't drink. Drinking white wine and beer will soon make you drunk. Most people in the wine field like drinking beer, especially young people. You insist on not drinking colored wine and beer, let the liquor take it easy and watch the wine field change. Finally, when everyone drinks beer instead of white wine, you are forced to drink beer, just one and a half cups. The initiative of adulteration is still in your hands.

4. Put it in your mouth and spit it in a bowl. Have to drink without swallowing, and spit it out when no one is watching. You can also wipe your mouth and spit out your napkin. Kung fu is very important. You can smoke with wine and serve the cup with wine (don't make the cup opaque, so you can't find the leaves and turbidity in the wine). After spitting a few mouthfuls, let the waiter heat it up and pour out the tea.

5, the hands are fast, and the eyeballs are almost falling out. After three glasses of wine, sweet words followed. At this time, you can touch the glass to play, observe everyone's attention and listening, and nod from time to time to benefit. When no one is looking at you, the speed is low. You can pour the wine into your own teacup and dish plate (you can cover it with some napkins first), and you can pour it on the ground when conditions are good. When he makes a toast on the earth, it is also a good opportunity for him to pour wine when he raises his glass. Anywhere as long as you don't pour it into your mouth.

6, only love white wine is not lewd. MM is always a bright spot in the wine industry, which often attracts countless men of all ages to compete. The rule of the game in the wine field is that wine is not as good as fart. Alcohol will temporarily anesthetize the nerves of ordinary people and reduce their short-term self-control ability. After waking up, silver is never wine. Since the reform and opening up, men and women are the same. Never mind the color, drink it yourself first. Also, don't just watch MM forget to pour the wine. More and more people are unconscious after drinking for 30 days. Seeing a woman is a side note, and the wine in the cup can be poured out at will.

7. Drink water with a big mouth. The water in the stomach is light. Wine does great harm to the heart, liver, spleen, lung and kidney of human body and is the capital of revolution. You can also drink vegetables with less water, and you can dilute the alcohol content to make up for it.

defend oneself

The first set of winning tactics

The first plan is to deceive the world and replace wine with water (the key lies in cleverness, not being the master)

The second plan is to save Zhao Yuwei and save beauty from heroes (sometimes chivalrous)

The third plan is to kill brothers instead of drinking (best friends are important)

The fourth plan is to go to the toilet frequently (hiding a cup is a cup and spitting it out if necessary).

The fifth plan is to win when you are drunk (everyone is drunk and I wake up alone)

The sixth plan is a diversion from the west (draw a cup and draw a white picture first, put it down and talk about it, pick it up and talk about it, put it down and talk about it)

The second set of enemy tactics

The seventh plan is to make something out of nothing (talking about others being confused)

The eighth plan is to sneak into Chen Cang and secretly pour wine (be careful not to pour it into the shoe shell of the girl sitting next to you)

The ninth plan is to watch the fire from the other side, talk less and watch more (sometimes keep silent and seize the opportunity)

The tenth plan hides the dagger in the smile (gain trust, adulteration is not easy to be suspected)

The eleventh plan Li drinkers help each other (can't self-destruct into wine virtue)

The twelfth plan is to steal a bite first (slowly get drunk at the bottom of the dish)

The third set of attack tactics

The thirteenth plan is to startle the snake and turn it into a big bowl.

The fourteenth plan is to resurrect the corpse and vomit before drinking (one of the purposes of going to the toilet)

Fifteenth plan, draw the tiger away from the mountain, and then drink (don't grab the wine, take your time)

The sixteenth plan is to play hard to get and everyone is free (comity)

The seventeenth plan is to drink first to attract jade (to get a sincere man)

The eighteenth plan to catch the thief and capture the king's leadership (official position, leading food, you don't do it)

The fourth set of melee meter

Scheme 19: the driver goes first (do nothing without drinking)

The twentieth plan is to fish in troubled waters and splash (a method of adulteration)

On the 2nd1meter, Jin Chan has an appointment with his wife (flashes when answering the phone).

The twenty-second plan is to close the door and catch thieves getting drunk (drilling the table is fun)

The twenty-third plan is to drink the wine of a distant friend (you get drunk without saying a word, and the sun and moon grow in a big basin of Gankun in your dream, which is better to be drunk)

The twenty-fourth plan is to propose a toast across the table (don't forget the etiquette, this time take the opportunity to "sell" the wine)

The fifth set of parallel operational plans

Twenty-fifth meter to steal the beam and replace the column with a glass of water (right or wrong)

The twenty-sixth plan refers to the morality of drinking first (people can only be honest if they really drink alcohol, and drinking iron and vomiting blood is also life)

Article 27 False stupidity (pretending to be drunk)

Twenty-eighth, the bottle is completely open (bottle in hand, a glass of wine)

Article 29. Sprinkle wine on the flowering ground of trees (prank, drinking adulteration, continue)

The thirtieth plan is to drink to the initiative (you must drink well, idiot)

The sixth set of failure tactics

The thirty-first plan is to accompany wine with beauty (beauty is not only edible, but also as important as wine)

Plan 32 is empty. Do you still have (enough money)

The thirty-third plan is to compete with the donkey (don't love wine and don't travel)

The thirty-fourth plan risks three cups first (overall good impression)

The thirty-fifth plan is a series of plans to propose a toast (you must be defeated)

Thirty-sixth if you don't get on, you should withdraw (if you have to withdraw, you should leave)