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How to guide middle school students in rebellious period correctly?

I have been teaching in the front line for ten years, and I have taken classes in junior high school and senior high school. Now I focus on family education and psychology, and share some experiences with my theoretical knowledge and experience.

This problem needs to start from two aspects at the same time, and the space is limited. Let's start with parents.

The first is understanding. Because in adolescence, children are in a period of rapid increase in hormone levels. Many times, many emotions are due to the influence of hormone levels, and children can't control themselves. For example, sometimes, children are angry just for the sake of being angry and resist for the sake of resisting. This kind of emotion is sometimes inexplicable, and the children themselves don't understand why. Therefore, many parents will find it difficult to understand why the former good baby will now become the big devil. Therefore, parents must first understand that this is a normal physiological phenomenon, so they must first understand their children. Children's emotions in this period are sometimes uncontrollable.

The second is acceptance. It is precisely because we understand the child's physical condition that sometimes we have to accept these emotions of the child. Children have no other place to vent their emotions. Family is their safest harbor. If children have no burden in front of their parents, they will vent their emotions unscrupulously. Speaking out, parents may not understand that it is precisely because children think their parents are the closest people that they will lose their temper with their parents. It's just like ourselves. We are all very kind and kind when outsiders come, but only our wives or husbands know how grumpy we are. This is a truth. Therefore, it is not necessarily a bad thing to accept children's emotions and children's willingness to take out garbage to their parents. But many times, when the children arrive at the garbage dump, the parents will immediately straighten up, start education and discipline, and even talk endlessly. But in fact, adolescent middle school students have their own value system, which may not be perfect, but they have their own ideas and bottom lines, so children often just talk to you and don't want to listen to their parents' views and opinions, so when parents educate and discipline them, children will naturally feel impatient. If the parents are still adamant at this time and cooperate with the child's excessive physiological indicators, the child will be annoyed. After the parents' emotions intensify, they will get angry, so they will point their fingers at Maimang.

Maybe some parents will say, do I have to be a trash can for children? I still have a lot of emotions to vent. So, thirdly, parents should learn to control their emotions. After all, parents are adults and children are minors. To put it another way, "parents eat more salt and cross more bridges than children", so parents have more social and survival experience and should be more rational in the face of emergencies. Therefore, parents must consciously control their emotions. Our purpose is to guide children and solve problems, not to intensify contradictions. We want to pull the children to our side, not push them further and further. So what can we do?

1. Go to practice yoga or learn meditation. Breathing is a very good weapon to control emotions, and I have benefited a lot from it;

2. Try to understand the child's strange language or ideas first. If you can't understand them, then accept them on the basis of not understanding. Don't judge a child's thoughts and actions, let alone blame him. If you want to guide your child, you should ask questions, not statements, or even strong sighs, which will easily intensify the emotions of both sides.

3. If you can't ask questions, well, or tell him, "Your idea is too advanced for mom to understand, and it will be unacceptable for a while. I'll think about it and give me some time. " Adolescent children are very strong, but when they admit that they don't understand, they are likely to further explain to you, let you understand and help you understand their ideas.

Fourth, if you are a backup parent, you can try to study with your children. I once saw a post introducing his study and getting along with children, which I thought was very good and worth popularizing. Occasionally, I will do problems with my children. He will test his children with several questions, and the children will test him with several questions. If he can't do it, the children will tell him questions and laugh at him. I think this is a very harmonious way to get along. If the parents can't do the problem, the child is the parents' little teacher, and the child has a sense of accomplishment and reviews the knowledge. Similarly, under this premise, it is an emotion of mutual play, so parents will ask questions to their children, and the children will not resist. Of course, this method must be based on good parent-child intimacy. Otherwise children will hide when they see their parents. How to implement it? Moreover, if parents who have spare capacity can really try to study culture classes with their children, just like a small video they have seen, asking, "Why do parents only look at scores?" The child replied wittily, "Can they understand the question?" Thought-provoking!

Fifth, less blows and more encouragement. Parents should have a long-term vision. We not only need a child with excellent academic performance, but also hope that he can take care of himself maturely and safely. Therefore, not only children's academic performance needs parents' encouragement, but also other good aspects of life need parents' observation, affirmation and encouragement.

It is a normal physiological phenomenon for middle school students to have rebellious psychology. In this case, it is necessary for parents to understand the specific causes of children's rebellious psychology, scientifically and effectively guide children to learn self-control and adjustment when they have rebellious psychology, and shape a sound personality.

If parents can realize that they should consider education from both the children and themselves, they should adjust their educational behavior reasonably.

We can introduce a principle-the principle of moderation.

That is to say, parents' education and expectations for their children should adopt a moderate principle, that is, neither too high nor too low, which should be in line with the reality of children, otherwise the effect of family education will be weakened.

0 1 should be given a reasonable and well-founded.

Lack of love and excessive love will have adverse effects and consequences on children's education. In family education, "strictness and kindness" is the most difficult problem to solve. Parents should have rational and measured love for their children.

02, the expected level should be consistent with the actual situation.

Parents' expectations of their children should also conform to the actual situation of students.

At present, it has become a common phenomenon for a considerable number of parents to expect too much from their children, and they often hope to get compensation for their loss. Such expectations are easy to cause children's resistance. As parents, we should face the reality and reasonably adjust our expectations for children, so as to be conducive to their growth.

03. Seize the opportunity to communicate with children on an equal footing.

It takes great skill to communicate with children, especially those who are in a rebellious period. Let them talk to people who are more concerned or more convinced, so as to alleviate students' rebellious psychology. Treating these people, they often don't act very rebellious. Therefore, when they are stubborn and have a bad temper, it is better to let people who are more concerned or convinced talk to them, which will often have better results, thus alleviating students' rebellious psychology.

I'm glad to answer your question. Middle school students are in adolescence, which is really a rebellious period. Only by understanding the causes of rebellious psychology can we correctly guide and educate children. I hope it helps you.

Rebellious psychology refers to a psychological state in which people take opposite attitudes and words and deeds in order to maintain their self-esteem when facing each other's demands. Rebellious psychology may occur in different stages of people's growth process, and it has many manifestations. For example, the reverse thinking of disapproval and distrust of positive propaganda; Unreasonable doubts about advanced figures and role models, or even fundamental denial: holding a sense of identity with bad tendencies, drinking their colors; Negative suppression of ideological education and code, contempt for confrontation, and so on.

Because young students are in an unstable period of physical and mental development, their brains are mature and tend to be sound, their brain functions are more and more developed, their judgment and analysis functions are more and more obvious, and their thinking scope is more and more extensive and rich. In particular, the way of thinking and the perspective of thinking have surpassed the simple and unitary positive thinking in childhood and developed into reverse thinking, multi-directional thinking and divergent thinking. Especially in the process of contacting social culture and education, teenagers gradually learn and master the method of reverse thinking. It is the development of teenagers' thinking and the formation and mastery of reverse thinking that provide psychological basis and possibility for the emergence of reverse psychology. Therefore, rebellious psychology is on the rise before adulthood.

Young students are in the stage of receiving family and school education. Due to lack of experience and experience, they often have one-sided and large deviations in understanding and seeing things, so they are easy to have differences with their parents, teachers and educators. When people have different intentions, in order to maintain self-esteem, they will take opposite attitudes and words and deeds to each other's demands.

(1) Curiosity-driven: Young students are curious. Due to lack of experience and experience, they are not superstitious or blindly obedient, and have strong curiosity, exploration spirit and practical consciousness. However, when educating children, parents or teachers often use their own experience to stop their curiosity in order to make them avoid detours. Driven by curiosity, children don't listen to adults' advice, and the more they can't get, the more they want; The more you can't touch, the more you want to touch. In this way, the rebellious behavior of children who don't listen to advice is formed.

(2) Strengthening the sense of solitude: It is a leap for children's rebellious psychology to enter middle school from primary school. They have a strong ability to act and take care of themselves. They think that they have grown up, not children, and their desire for independent activities is getting stronger and stronger. They want to get rid of their parents and stand on their own two feet. But as the saying goes: "In front of your parents, you will always be a child." Parents can't believe that their children have grown up and still dominate most of their behaviors. In this way, children will gradually alienate their parents and teachers, ignore the teacher's requirements and go their own way.

(3) Improper educational methods: In today's fierce competition in all walks of life, parents want their children to lay a good foundation, and teachers put pressure on their students to make achievements, hating iron and not producing steel, and improper educational methods. In this way, the growth pressure of young students is great, and the growth process is crushed, losing freedom, happiness and childlike interest.

When the pressure exceeds the tolerance of young students, it will lead to rebellious behavior and even hostility to parents and teachers.

(4) Impaired self-esteem: When young students' self-esteem is hurt. They often contradict each other to protect their dignity. If the teacher criticizes a student in the classroom or in front of the whole class. Parents criticize their children's shortcomings at friends' homes or in front of their children's friends. These improper educational methods are also the main reasons for children's rebellious psychology.

As a kind of abnormal psychology, rebellious psychology is different from abnormal psychology, but it has some characteristics of abnormal psychology, and its consequences are serious, which will lead to the morbid personality of teenagers who are too paranoid, indifferent and unsociable. It leads to belief vacillation, ideal extinction, will decline, passive work, passive study, depressed life and so on.

The further development of rebellious psychology may also turn into criminal psychology or morbid psychology, so effective countermeasures must be taken to overcome and prevent it.

(1) Pay attention to the influence of complex social factors on teenagers' psychology: teenagers' psychological activities will be influenced by the reform of social and economic system, the development of ideology such as culture, morality and law, and the renewal of concepts such as good, evil, beauty and ugliness. Therefore, in order to overcome the rebellious mentality, we should not confine teenagers to schools in Xiaotian, but let them stay in society, and link their ideological and emotional cultivation with social and political life, economic and cultural activities and social morality, so as to improve their psychological adaptability and make them better adapt to society and not lose their way.

(2) Teenagers should learn to know themselves correctly and strive to sublimate themselves: here, we should advocate self-education, that is, teenagers should learn to regard themselves as the object of education, often think about themselves, actively design themselves, and consciously and actively strive to improve or create themselves with practical actions.

(3) Perfecting the educational mechanism: Educators should understand psychology and pedagogy and grasp the law of unbalanced psychological development of teenagers; Lose no time to help teenagers overcome negative psychology and make them develop psychologically healthily. Educators should strive to establish a relationship of full trust with teenagers, make friends with them, treat each other sincerely and set an example. We should cherish and respect teenagers' self-esteem, choose appropriate educational methods and occasions, pay attention to positive education and guidance, and put an end to treating teenagers in a simple, repressive and rude way.

(4) As students and children, we should understand parents: As students and children, we should learn to understand adults in a positive sense. Parents and teachers' criticisms are well-intentioned. Teachers and parents are human beings. There are also normal people's joys and sorrows, and they will make mistakes and misunderstand people. As long as we understand them with a tolerant attitude, we will not be rebellious. Always remind yourself to accept the education of teachers and parents with an open mind. Try to restrain yourself when you are in trouble, you know, take a step back. In addition, take the initiative to contact them and ask them for advice. In this way, if you communicate more, you will know more. Teenagers should improve their psychological adaptability. If you take part in extracurricular activities, develop your interests and show your self-worth, then your rebellious mentality will be overcome.

Rebellion is not the child's fault

Adolescence is the most important turning point of children's growth, which often determines the fate of children's life, so children in this period must be guided correctly:

First of all, adolescent children's psychology has changed greatly, so they can't use the same educational methods to discipline junior and senior high school teenagers.

Secondly, the rebellious situation of adolescent children varies with gender, and boys and girls are different. Generally speaking, girls rebel at puberty earlier than boys. The rebellious situation of adolescent children also varies from person to person. Some children have a short rebellious period, while others have a long rebellious period, depending on how parents and teachers guide them.

Third, parents can ask teachers to do more ideological work for children who only listen to their teachers and not their parents.

Fourth, treat the child as an independent individual. Children have their own thoughts and dignity. They should communicate more with their children and treat them as friends. Even if you can't be as close as friends, at the very least, you should guide your children to speak their hearts. Speaking out is a kind of guidance and a solution.

Fifth, teachers and parents should always communicate their children's problems, talk less about their grades and care more about their thoughts and lives.

If we can do this, we will help our children get through the rebellious period as soon as possible, get on the right track and study life happily!

Hello, students in the rebellious period, the more you punish and abuse, the more you often don't listen to you, so mastering the correct guidance method is the key to solving the problem.

First, rebellious children often long for respect and recognition. The teacher says he is a bad student, so rebellious children often think that I am a bad student anyway, so I will continue to be bad. Therefore, at this time, we should respect children and recognize them. If the child is allowed to establish a good student image in front of his classmates again and again, everyone will recognize him as a good student. The child's inner thought is: "I am a good student, I must do well."

Second: reduce criticism, encourage more, and be good at discovering children's bright spots. Everyone has everyone's advantages. There used to be a naughty student in the class. The head teacher didn't criticize him and made him a disciplinary committee member. I didn't expect him to manage discipline very well and was well received by everyone. From then on, I embarked on the route of being a good student.

First, the causes of rebellious psychology are very complicated, which are related to students' personality characteristics, family education and school education. To sum up, there are the following psychological factors. First, the lack of family education. Now with the reform and opening up, parents of students go to other places to work, foster their children at home for the elderly to look after, and provide for their relatives and friends. This makes some students let themselves go, and they don't listen to the old people at all, and the old people and their relatives and friends don't give positive guidance, which makes students go their own way;

Second, self-expression, vanity, can not correctly evaluate themselves, too confident and conceited;

Third, even if some students know that the teacher's requirements are beneficial to them, they are still easily influenced by emotions, which leads to unconventional actions;

Fourth, some students show certain selectivity to teachers, do whatever they want, and contradict teachers they don't trust everywhere;

Fifth, improper teaching methods of teachers are the most direct objective factors that lead to students' rebellious psychology. Second, the correction of rebellious psychology To eliminate students' rebellious psychology, there must be a set of effective methods, some of which help students overcome rebellious psychology. In my daily work, I have explored some ways to eliminate and correct students' rebellious psychology.

(1) Caring for and caring for students is a concrete manifestation of every teacher's educational accomplishment and sense of responsibility. Caring is not limited to material living conditions and physical health, but more importantly, caring for students' inner world and future. Therefore, to care for students, we must first understand students, understand our own students attentively in the process of education, understand students' needs and motives, emotions, personality, talents, interests, emotions and will, and understand everything that shines in students' hearts. Caring for students means caring for and developing all positive factors of students, helping students overcome and eliminate negative factors and developing positive factors of students. Teachers should stimulate students' enthusiasm and help them give full play. However, we should be cautious when dealing with students' own negative factors. Generally speaking, it is considered that "fair" treatment is more appropriate, neither strict nor loose. Even if students realize their mistakes, they don't feel depressed at the same time, and consciously correct them, so that students can realize that forgiveness is love and punishment is love. The ultimate goal is to help them eliminate rebellious psychology and study hard.

(2) Respecting and trusting students is a concrete manifestation of teachers' love for students. Respecting students means respecting their personality and protecting their self-esteem. Self-esteem is the most sensitive corner of students' minds, the expression of students' self-awareness, and a very important issue in our education process. The relationship between teachers and students is democratic and equal. At any time and for any reason, teachers should not hurt students' dignity as human beings. Teachers should trust students, and trust is respect. First of all, I believe that every student has his own talent, talent, interest and strength. I believe that every student is willing to accept good things and yearn for good things.

(3) Compassion and understanding When students encounter difficulties, setbacks or neglect, they need teachers' sympathy, care and understanding, love and warmth. When students have difficulties, they ask you for help, when students have grievances and ask for forgiveness when they make mistakes. It's time for them to open their hearts to you, and it's time to understand. Seizing the opportunity when necessary will shape a person's beautiful mind, and losing the opportunity will make a person go to extremes.

(4) Expectations and demands. Enthusiastic expectations are the natural expression of teachers' love. It has rich connotations, and sincere love and earnest hope can make a person gain new life and strength. Of course, the love for students can't be cultivated by doting, but it should also be strict. Strict requirements for students are mainly manifested in: serious educational attitude, strict organizational discipline and strict management system. As an educator, we should be a guide for students. We have ardent expectations for students, but at the same time we should be strict with them. Students are the future of the motherland and the flowers of the future. Only by helping students establish a correct outlook on life and values can they become useful talents. Only by strictly demanding students' words and deeds can students truly become the students you expect.

The rebellious period is a manifestation of adolescence, and it is a kind of anxiety and depression in the heart. There are reasons for its formation, and the following methods can be tried according to its characteristics:

1. You can relax your spirit and mood through a lot of or intense exercise.

2. Participate in more social activities, exchange feelings with friends, have heart-to-heart talks, find your intimate friends and feel the beauty of life.

3. Start with her hobbies and guide correctly. Talk about ideals, talk about the future, talk about career success or failure, and talk about heroes.

First of all, there must be an effective communication. Parents should put down their elders' airs and talk to their children patiently, because it has to be said that there will be some generation gap between parents and children. Parents don't understand children's ideas, and children don't understand adults' practices, which is prone to problems. So sit down and talk patiently and let the other person know what the other person thinks, so that you can better understand the other person's practices and avoid some unnecessary conflicts.

When dealing with children's rebellion, don't just block it, block it while not blocking it, just like Dayu's water control. If parents blindly suppress all children's activities, children are prone to rebellious psychology, and after rebellious psychology, regardless of whether parents say it right or not, children will only blindly resist, which is very unfavorable to the relationship between parents and children. So the right thing to do is to tell him not only that this is wrong, but also how to make it better and put forward a reasonable solution on the basis of mutual satisfaction.

Learn to listen. If your child tells you what's in your heart, you must listen patiently, and don't rush to refute it. This may not hear their true inner voice, and it may also deepen the contradiction between you. Listen patiently, he may say something complaining about you. You should explain and tell him the reason of your behavior, and you should also tell him that you love him. In fact, most adolescent children rebel because they don't feel love.

Finally, after becoming good friends with him and understanding his thoughts, you can guide him according to the actual situation, take him out for a trip and tell him something you want to say on the way. Let him let go of those rebellious thoughts, and gradually your child will naturally be your lovely child. No child is rebellious for no reason, putting himself in the child's shoes. Now if he thinks from his point of view, he will get different results.