What should I do if I don’t fit in with others?

There was an issue of "Tucao Conference" that discussed the debate on the issue of gregariousness. Should unsociability be changed?

Yan Rujing, this little chubby girl, is quite fat. Although sometimes there are fragments, her words are amazing, "People need to be gregarious only when they are animals, so now we We don’t have to be gregarious. When we can freely choose not to be gregarious, this society will be warmer."

Just think, are you often troubled by the problem of being in a group?

For example, if everyone goes to drink and sing karaoke, but if you don’t go, they will think that you are not a gregarious person and think that this person is doing something weird?

Everyone is about to play mahjong. Three of them are missing, and one of them is missing. Even if you are told to go, your child will not go.

Another example is when the leader said in the group, "It's the end of the year and we have no funds. We plan to implement AA this year, and then everyone will hold a democratic vote."

In your heart, ten thousand horses are galloping, MMP, there is no money to hold a party. During the group year, the employees actually have to pay out of their own pockets?

As a leader, I can’t even get funding for activities. How can I be so incompetent and have the nerve to even mention a party? Of course, perhaps the funds have been overdrawn by the leaders in advance, and the small treasury is empty, and they come to ask for it from the masses again, "take it from the people and use it for the people". This is so generous!

Some people who like to flatter me immediately raised their hands in approval. You, however, disagreed. Is that appropriate?

On the one hand, people will think that you are not gregarious, and on the other hand, they will think that you are a child. Do you want to openly confront the leader? So are you waiting for your boss to put on your shoes?

In fact, many times, the so-called democracy is a joke, just like the petition office set up by government departments. Are all the appeals of petitions really resolved?

Therefore, the so-called democracy in the leaders' mouth is mostly just a form, which makes their own arbitrary actions appear more legitimate, or is covered with a layer of formal standardization, "I conducted a democratic vote." ah". If you are not gregarious, your boss will think, "Is this guy careless, or does he want to challenge me?"

Your unsociability may not only lead to alienation from your colleagues, but you will also be included in the leader's list. blacklist. If you want a raise, there is no way; if you want a promotion, you have to wait. When you really can't stand it and take the initiative to complain to the leader, the leader will smile and say: "**, I will definitely consider you next time, don't worry." Next time, next time, damn, it should be far away!

Someone once said that the so-called success means that a person can confidently say no to things he does not like. This is indeed very reasonable. This is a kind of personal independence and spiritual independence. Success in a sense, rather than the embarrassing status quo that most people face: "If you are not gregarious, you are just lonely on the surface; if you are gregarious, you are really lonely on the inside."

So how can we have this ability?

In the author’s opinion, constant self-improvement is the way to go. Only when you become stronger can your small trend become a big trend (the small trend mentioned in Luo Pang’s year-end speech) and be accepted by the public. Or even follow suit and become a big IP and a big traffic owner, what do you think?

————Qiyue Dream Community Lao Wang Gengwen NO93————