A 42-year-old pregnant woman is about to give birth. She is looked down upon by everyone except her husband. What should she do?

Waiting for the bus at the bus stop yesterday, I saw a child taking a large bag of chocolates and eating half of the bag in a while. I said something out of good intentions: Children should not eat too much chocolate, as eating too much will make them sick. The child said to me: My grandfather is 103 years old this year. I said: Because of eating chocolate? The child said: No, because he never cares about other people's business.

1.Is 42 years old considered old?

Indeed, it counts, but this is only one time in life, and I want to have a child. I think life is perfect, so there is nothing wrong with it.

Let’s not talk about celebrities, let’s talk about ordinary people. There are many people who have children in their 40s, especially in big cities. The age of marriage is generally beyond 30, and the age of giving birth is also higher. In addition to 30 years old, there are also people over 40 years old. Although a little less.

2. Are you looked down upon by everyone around you except your husband?

Who are the people around you? relative? friend? Seven aunts and eight aunts? Old aunt? Enthusiastic ladies?

A hundred years later, who will be whose?

What others like to say is their business, I have the final say in my life!

Why do so many people like Faye Wong? In addition to Sister Fei's unique voice, her way of doing things without caring about anyone else's opinions also fascinates many people. There are probably only a few women who can live life so clearly.

Do you think she is selfish? Her woman didn't think so, but was like a friend to her; her ex-husband didn't think so, and said to her on the dance floor: Mom, you are so beautiful! No matter what others say, she wants her own happiness.

3. Let’s talk about the actual situation

42 years old, although it is indeed an advanced age for pregnant women, but according to the current nutrition and everyone’s physical condition, there should be no big problem, around me There are many mothers in their 40s who are expecting a second child, but their bodies have not changed much.

Modern people pay more attention to maintenance and health management. In the past, "life span has been rare since ancient times" because of lack of food and clothing, and underdeveloped medical care. Now in our community, we often see a bunch of grandmas. We gathered together to chat. When asked about their age, many people were in their 80s, not deaf, not blind, and in good spirits.

What should I do if a 42-year-old pregnant woman is about to give birth and is looked down upon by everyone around her except her husband?

What others think of you cannot influence you, and I think those who look down on you are unqualified people. A truly quality person will not comment on what others do.

On the contrary, I think you are a very great mother who took a certain risk to bring the baby into the world. I believe you will be a good mother in the future. Now that I am about to give birth, the most important thing is to prepare the things needed for delivery, adjust my mentality, relax, and give birth to the baby smoothly.

First, ignore them

When you hear some bad remarks, hold your head high and confidently. Believe that rumors only stop at the wise. Really smart people will not do such derogatory things, so just treat them as fools.

Second, divert attention

The baby is coming to you. You can look forward to what the baby will look like and think about the happy life after the baby is born. Looking forward to a better future, unhappy things will soon disappear.

Third, find someone to resolve bad emotions.

You also said that your husband is very supportive of you. You can talk to your husband about these unhappy things about yourself. Or go find your closest friends and relatives. Speak out the unhappy things and they will enlighten you and support you.

Why do you care about other people’s business when you have children? What you said is wrong. Why are you looked down upon by others when you give birth to a child? I don't understand! I'll tell you the truth, that's just how you feel! It's not that others look down on you, there must be a reason.

Either your family conditions are not very good and you are older. Older mothers are very dangerous. You should know this. When the second child is 20 years old, you will be over 60 years old. During these 20 years, you cannot get sick or To rest, you have to work hard to earn money. It costs money to provide for the second child to go to school, to eat, drink and have sex. If you have any problems, the unlucky one will be your eldest child. If you want to have a baby, give birth to him early. Unless your family has a mine, the cost of the child will be really high. Very high!

First of all, you have to consider whether it is your fault. First, are your family conditions good enough? Can you afford the cost of a second child and the upbringing and education of your children? If the financial situation of the elderly mother's family is still poor, it is normal for her to be looked down upon! Giving birth to a second child, especially for older mothers, is a test both physically and mentally. Nowadays, even if older mothers go to the hospital to undergo in vitro fertilization, they will tell them that the success rate will only be 10-20% after they reach the age of 45. It is not recommended to do it reluctantly. The chance is very high. You can imagine. And raising children is also a burden. Your parents are in their late 70s and 80s. They certainly can’t devote themselves to helping you raise a second child. Some parents are still sick themselves, and they still count on you to provide for them in old age. You can’t take care of your old age. If you have to take care of the younger ones, others will think you are very selfish, so they will not be understood! Secondly, can you soothe the emotions of a newborn baby? Many people in their forties have second children. Most of the eldest children are already on the verge of adulthood, and some are even older. Not every child can accept that their parents still have a child at their own age. After being an only child for many years, they are suddenly loved. After the separation, the parents' energy will focus on the children for a while, and there must be a generation gap in the relationship between the two children! You have to know that in a few years, you can be a mother-in-law and take care of your grandchildren. It is also important to comfort the eldest parent and give the child a psychological balance, otherwise the family relationship will not be good! If they can't do it, such parents will also be looked down upon. But having said that, having children is a personal decision, and no one else can stop you! Everyone's quality of life and pursuits are different. After all, most people in society will not choose to have a second child at an advanced age. The birth risk and egg quality of a woman in her thirties are on a downward slope. With such energy and support, Wouldn’t it be better to keep your baby’s money for your own retirement and enjoy life? Don't expect your second child to support you. By the time he grows up and gets married, you will be in your sixties or seventies, and the happiness of your children will still depend on your eldest brother!

Don’t care about the opinions of outsiders. They are envious and jealous. Calm down your mentality. Think about it. You are very happy. Although you are old, women are mothers. This is your right. No one can Intervention and deprivation!

Put your mind at ease and be prepared to welcome the arrival of your little life. What a happy thing. Why care about other people’s opinions and paths? It’s your own path. Life is also your own. Do you want to stop living because of other people's opinions? The child will not be born? What a mess.

As long as you live a wonderful life and your children are healthy, all problems will not be a problem.

Why bother dwelling on those useless things? There are many key things to do right now. You should get out of the bad mood immediately and do what you should do most:

Prepare supplies for admission: You are about to give birth, so prepare the things you need to bring to the hospital. I don’t know whether she is a multiparous or first-time mother, but a quilt to wrap the baby is a must. Others can be bought temporarily. Quilts and milk bottles are a must, and bedding for adults who are admitted to the hospital must be prepared in advance. Get ready now!

Maintain physical strength: During the days before admission, be sure to eat well. The weather has been hot recently, so you need to eat more digestible and nutritious food to keep your body healthy so that you can have the strength to give birth. You must make all preparations for normal delivery. This is a big deal!

Learn parenting knowledge: At such an old age, no matter whether you have a son or a daughter, or whether you can have both children, I think you will have to be determined to raise them.

Therefore, regardless of whether you have parenting experience or not, you should review the relevant knowledge of parenting, so as not to be confused!

With the relaxation of the country’s two-child policy, people over forty are everywhere. As long as we are born healthy and smoothly, that is the best outcome. As for other people’s jokes, they What you say is just idle chatter and is of no use. The best thing to do is not take it to heart! They say it doesn't matter if we give birth to our children!

When you have your own children, you don’t need to pay too much attention to many things. The second twin boys I gave birth to at 43 last year are now 1 year old. My first daughter, who was born at 38, feels that her life is very happy now. My husband feels like having a chicken every day. I work hard to make money to support my family. Sometimes I take my baby for a walk in the garden and when I meet someone I don’t know, I will ask if it’s grandma. I directly say that I am. What the hell, just be happy.

Your most important task now is To live longer, you must know that your child will only be 20 years old when you are 62 years old, and you will still need to support him to go to college. Don’t care about other people’s opinions, because others will not help you raise your children. When others are enjoying the leisure time in their later years, You are taking care of your children, attending parent-teacher meetings, tutoring on homework, and working hard to make money, and you cannot get sick, because no one will take care of you and your children. The burden is too heavy, and you have no time to care about other people's opinions.

My classmate’s mother gave birth to her younger brother when she was 45 years old and will take the college entrance examination this year. What's wrong? Are you going to give birth to your own child and eat someone else’s rice? No matter what those people say! They probably don’t have the courage and luck to survive! Be generous, having a child is such a great thing, don't care about the nonsense...

You can decide your own life, you don't have to care about what others say or what others think. We have not experienced other people's experiences, so we are not qualified to comment on others' experiences at will. Mutual respect is too important.