How to face the slander of others?

"Meet the tragic fate with a smiling face, and deal with your own misfortune with a hundred times of courage." This is the regret of Lu Xun's inculcation.

Some colleagues always like to snitch in front of leaders, but for those rational leaders, they don't care whether this snitch is true or not, because seeing is believing. So, for this. Small reports can be ignored. If you take an open-minded attitude, rumors will naturally die out, and gossipers will suddenly wake up and discover your sincerity and generosity, so that you can achieve better results without bloodshed and may win friends.

My friend Lin did a good job, but my colleague Hua felt unconvinced and repeatedly reported Lin's work to the leaders, belittling Lin's work. Although Lin heard about it, he never showed up. One day, Hua spoke ill of Lin in front of the leader and happened to be caught by Lin. This made China feel ashamed and had to let Lin do whatever he wanted. Surprisingly, Lin didn't care at all, with a smile on her face, as if everything in front of her had nothing to do with her, showing great restraint and tolerance. China finally woke up and felt that it was really wrong to treat Lin like that more than once before.

To make the villain wake up, you must first make him understand that he knows how to snitch, so that they can know your generosity. Informants give in because the soil on which they live is hidden. Once the hidden identity is exposed or the other party realizes its vigilance, it will converge.

Don't give vent to your frustration easily.

Everyone will feel frustrated, including career frustration, emotional frustration and family frustration.

Frustration is a kind of pain, and it is more painful to have no one to talk to in your heart. It is said that burying frustration in your heart can also cause mental illness, so just find someone to talk to. However, according to my experience, it is better not to confide easily when encountering setbacks!

Whether active or passive, showing frustration has many negative effects.

-Inadvertently created an image of incompetence and weakness. Although everyone has setbacks, if you talk to them, others will be proud. Then others will intuitively think that you are an incompetent or incompetent person, otherwise how can you be "frustrated"? Although I can't say it in my mouth, I will think so in my heart. What's more, when it comes to setbacks, sometimes people will be embarrassed because their emotions are out of control. This is the worst thing. If your frustration attracts others' comfort, warmth is warm, but you become a "helpless child" because of it. Others' comments are: alas, poor!

-others' impression of you will be discounted. Many people grade others according to their impressions. Generally speaking, a confident and determined person will get a higher impression score. If he is still a successful person, he will be respected. This is human nature, there is no reason to say. If your frustration is known to others, they will subconsciously deduct points from the original 80-point grade table and fail at once, and their attitude towards you will naturally change from respect and enthusiasm to disdain and indifference.

-form a social impression. If you talk too much about your frustration or let your friends know through the spread of the audience, then others will label you as a "loser"! "When people talk about you, they will think of these things. In the real world, losers can only create their own opportunities, and others are stingy to give you opportunities. Especially the rumors are terrible. Obviously, a small disappointment will turn into a big failure, which will hinder your future life to a greater or lesser extent! Who cares how frustrated you are?

I'm not saying that "frustration" should be kept in your heart, but that your frustration must depend on the timing and object.

-can only be said to good friends. A good friend knows your situation, and he knows your strengths, weaknesses, strengths and weaknesses. Only by telling such a friend can you "ensure safety", even if you jump into his arms and cry on his shoulder. As for people you meet for the first time and ordinary friends, you can't say a word.

-can only say proudly. Talk about frustration when you are frustrated, and others will think you are weak. When you are proud, when you are disappointed. Others will think that you are brave and sincerely pour out your "respect". Your journey from frustration to pride, they will even be used as inspirational teaching materials, and they will be more "arrogant" than those who have been smooth and proud all their lives.

There is another kind of person, and I must remind you here: Some people specialize in beating Reservoir Dogs, hitting people when they are down. When you are frustrated, it is also your most vulnerable time. If you meet such a person with bad intentions, you may be in trouble. You know, bullying the weak is also human nature!

So, if you are frustrated, bite your teeth and swallow your blood!

When people are wronged or slandered, most people are eager to explain and clarify, but few people can be calm.

Zen master Bai Yin, a famous Japanese monk, also suffered injustice when he was the abbot of Song Yin Temple.

One day, the owner of the flower shop opposite Song Yin Temple found out that his unmarried daughter was pregnant. When he sternly asked who the man really was, his daughter replied casually in a hurry: "The monk in the opposite temple pushed me ... but who knew the result would be like this."

Her parents were very angry when they heard this, so they went to Bai Yin's Zen master indiscriminately and accused him of his evil deeds.

Instead of defending himself, Jackson Bai Yin replied, "Really? Really? "

Later, the girl gave birth to a boy, and her parents asked Zen master Bai Yin to adopt her. The Zen master still smiled and replied, "Really?" Really? "

Later, things spread and became the big news in the town. Every time Jackson Bai Yin goes out, people look at each other coldly and point fingers behind his back, but he doesn't seem to care.

Some time later, the girl in the flower shop was deeply ashamed of Jackson Bai Yin and told her parents the truth. It turns out that the child belongs to her lover.

Hearing this, her parents rushed to the temple to apologize to the Zen master.

At this time, Jackson Bai Yin still answered the old saying, "Really? Really? "

Bai Yinjiekesen's cultivation has reached the state of "eight winds can't be blown", and rumors have not damaged his personality at all.

In today's society, no matter what you do, people will praise you, insult you and laugh at you!

So what should we do?

-Do what you have to do! In other words, if you think it's right, do it unswervingly. When referring to other people's opinions, we should look at the opinions themselves, not the faces of others. Doing so sometimes really makes some people unhappy, but your perseverance can win their respect. After all, people still obey justice unless your persistence is purely selfish!

Lu Xun once urged the world to say, "greet your tragic fate with a smiling face and deal with your misfortune with wisdom and courage." People living in the world will inevitably be misunderstood. At this time, we should face the present bravely.

People living in the world will inevitably be misunderstood. At this time, we should face the reality bravely and reflect on why others misunderstand us. If it is groundless, we should take action to eliminate our dissatisfaction. If it's malicious slander, we don't have to pay attention to it at all.