Does it make boys look cheap if they cry about being poor?

? Whether boys crying about being poor will appear to be cheap? We can’t make a conclusion for the time being. Let’s think about two pictures first:

The first one is just like the one in the Douyin video: a For a boy, the total gifts he gave to girls for their sixth anniversary were less than 100 yuan, but the girl gave him several pairs of expensive ajs, expensive headphones, and a carefully crafted photo album. Later, the boy made a video with the girl crying and complaining about his family's poverty.

The second one is just like what is shown in Korean dramas: a boy falls in love with the only daughter of a rich family by accident, and the girl also likes him, until one day the rich man wants to immigrate with his family, and the girl Reluctant to leave, even if the boy is not willing, he has to face it eventually. When leaving, the girl asked him if he would like to leave with her. The boy cried and told her that his family was very poor and he had a big family to take care of. He just came to school to help his parents. Yes, you can't go with her.

Judging from the above two brainstorming scenes, the first boy crying about being poor is a joke. It is obvious that the girl has given him many precious and thoughtful gifts, even if the gifts he gave are not valuable, even if she knows that he is His temperament has been with him for six years, which is enough to show that girls like this boy. Even if he is really poor, as long as he has some self-awareness, he will not use his family's poverty as a shield in front of girls to gain sympathy. Falling in love is a matter between two people, and it is also a very selfish thing. If you love each other sincerely, why should you care about the size of the gift. In fact, it can be seen that what everyone cares about is not only the boys' gifts, but also the boys' attitudes when faced with doubts. The reasons are all given by others, except that they are not their own. Poverty is not as good as a poor heart, and the poor soul of a boy seems to be worth less. .

It is a tragedy that the second boy cried about being poor. When we compare the story before and after, we will find that the kind of crying is a natural expression when the true feelings are revealed but there is no response, because of the gap between rich and poor, because of the burden on the family, and because of love. What I love, at this time, only poverty is the only legitimate outlet for this relationship. Poverty teaches a person responsibility, and also teaches a person how to choose between loving and being loved. I think it must have been very painful for boys to cry about poverty at that time, but it was touching if it didn’t change the price, because not everyone understands the inherent conditions of the original family, just like we often use poverty as an excuse to end a period where we can’t live together for the time being. Complete love.

? ?So in the end, will it look bad if a boy cries about being poor? We cannot generalize. We must make a comprehensive judgment based on the context of the story, the true feelings, and the detailed descriptions. It is not a sin for a man to cry, but poverty is sometimes a natural excuse, and sometimes it is an unshirkable responsibility.