Life insights: The first generation born in the 1990s is almost 30 years old

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The first generation born in the 1990s is almost 30 years old. What changes will turning thirty bring? A friend of mine who has always advocated non-marriage was chatting at a party and suddenly said in a daze: "You guys think, should I just find someone to marry?

She really couldn't bear it anymore. At the age of thirty, rumors were spreading and everyone was asking her, why she wasn't married yet?

A few years earlier, she had been I can retort boldly, but now I have no confidence.

She changed jobs last month, but there was no improvement in salary. She knew in her heart that this industry was about to reach its ceiling, and unless she changed careers, it would be difficult to make any breakthrough.

When she just graduated, she was like young people all over the world, imagining that as long as she worked hard, she would soon be able to buy a house, buy a car, and establish herself in Shanghai. But now when it comes to buying a house, she laughs.

It’s not that there is no effort, but that not everything in this world can be solved through hard work. Seven years after graduation, her salary increased from 3,000 to 12,000. This is the greatest effort she can put in.

She doesn’t know where those legends with annual salaries of several million come from. She only knows that the people around her are ordinary people like her, working hard to live an ordinary life. Life.

The powerlessness of reality has shaken the unmarried heart. Perhaps, finding someone to partner with will make life less difficult. She thought so.

Of course she is not the only one entering the crisis of her thirties.

Another friend has also changed her mind recently. She wants to have a child. I don’t know why, but I just want to have a baby. When I see a baby in someone else’s stroller on the street, my heart starts to flutter.

Before that, she was Iron Ding. She stood up to all the doubts and abuses from her parents-in-law. God knows what happened this year. Suddenly, she felt that children were more adorable than ever before.

Of course, she also has a hidden anxiety: If she misses the childbearing age, it may be difficult to get pregnant again.

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Perhaps, turning thirty is really a hurdle for women.

Age is first reflected on the body. Sleep decreases. I used to be able to sleep until the sky is dark, but now I can’t. The biological clock wakes me up at eight o’clock in the morning. On the other hand, it's like suffering from a disease that can lead to death if you don't sleep. If you stay up a little late, you'll lose energy for a few days, and you'll be completely different from the all-nighter you used to be.

Staying in shape has become a very difficult thing. No matter how much I eat, I don't get fat, but I don't know why I got a small belly overnight. Do you want to exercise? I used to be able to lose weight by running a few laps, but now I am so tired that I am paralyzed and I can’t lose even half a pound of weight.

The most intuitive blow is crow’s feet and gray hair. Which woman didn’t scream when she discovered the first crow’s feet and the first gray hair? They are so shocking, reminding you, The beginning of old age has arrived.

In addition to physical changes, we are often forced to accept psychological gaps. Workplace anxiety, marriage anxiety, and childbirth anxiety follow one after another. Careers have entered a bottleneck period, marriages are facing the seven-year itch, and those who have not had children are hesitant to seize the tail of the best childbearing age and have a child. Those who have a child start to worry about whether to have a second child.

At the age of thirty, women are pushed to the forefront of the storm. There are thrilling whirlpools and storms everywhere. You stand in the middle of the storm, anxious, confused, and in a dilemma.

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A research report by SK-II shows that 40% of Asian women feel anxious about their age, while Chinese people tend to regard the age of 27 as golden age. The dividing line of age is that women over 30 years old face many problems.

But is turning thirty really depressing?

I have a colleague who gave up his stable job when he was thirty years old and quit his job to start a business. She opened a creative company with her friends, made several very beautiful businesses, and quickly received investment.

Another friend traveled to Iceland on his thirtieth birthday and met a southern man in a bar who loved to tell cold jokes. The two quickly sparked off and got married in just one month. .

Is career divided by age? Is love divided by age? Dong Mingzhu resigned from a state-owned enterprise at the age of 36. She started as a salesperson at the lowest level and is now the chairman of Gree Electric Appliances. 39-year-old Hong Xin is married to 28-year-old Zhang Danfeng. 46-year-old Christy Chung married Zhang Lunshuo last year. Is the Queen Faye Wong still in love?

No age is destined to be bleak. Every second of life is full of unknown challenges, and every corner of time hides infinite possibilities.

And you don’t turn thirty overnight. What your thirties look like depends on how you were in the previous thirty years.

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Yes, we are almost thirty.

We stand at the crossroads of life, looking left and right, waiting anxiously. We are unable to help ourselves and are faced with dilemmas. However, the crossroads are never downhill.

At the age of thirty, we are no longer young, but we are no longer panicky and reckless. We no longer have to give up life because of a broken love, and we no longer spend all night getting drunk on the streets because of a disappointment.

We begin to understand that gain and loss in this world are all very common. We travel through time, have been polished by the years, and have gone through a lot of waiting, suffering, loss, and confusion before we become who we are today, with a soft heart and strength.

This is the beauty of a thirty-year-old woman. Different from the bright and publicity of a twenty-year-old woman, but with the flavor of time, the road traveled and the people I loved have shaped me into who I am today. There will still be worries and confusion, but at which age? , at what age is there no confusion?

Accept the age of thirty and accept yourself. Perhaps, this is the true meaning of thirty.