What happened to those women who refused to remarry after divorce?

There is an old saying in China: Once bitten, twice shy. This still applies emotionally. Many people are afraid to love again after being hurt. Whether it is love or marriage, it always takes a long transition period, some people's transition period, or even a lifetime.

In particular, many middle-aged divorced women are unwilling to remarry, let alone remarry.

On the one hand, because they were hurt too deeply in their last marriage, on the other hand, they have no trust in marriage. In their view, marriage often means misfortune. It is better to live alone than to start an uncertain relationship. It is right to think so. After all, the future is unknown. If you marry anyone, you will face certain risks. But this does not mean that all marriages are not worth looking forward to, and all people are not worth loving.

Sometimes, even the second marriage, as long as you marry the right person, you can still be very happy, even happier than the first marriage. The key is whether you have met the right person. A good marriage needs to be managed. Only with the right people can we move towards the same goal. In this way, the chances of happiness will be much greater.

What happened to those women who refused to remarry after divorce? Is it really as expected that a person can live the rest of his life freely? Their experiences are different, but everyone's experiences have sounded the alarm for us.

First place: remarry with ex-husband after divorce, and divorce after remarriage.

I am 40 years old. I divorced my ex-husband once three years ago. The reason for the divorce is that he betrayed me and came together with a female colleague. At that time, I was desperate and divorced without saying anything.

But only after the divorce did he find out that his female colleagues only took a fancy to his money. He regretted it, saying that he didn't know my goodness until he lost it. He kept apologizing and making promises, begging me to give him another chance. Probably because I have lived together for a long time and have feelings, I agreed to remarry as soon as I let go.

However, I didn't know until I remarried that a man would have zero or countless infidelities. Shortly after remarriage, I found him close to another friend of the opposite sex. I thought it was funny, like a joke. Why should I trust him? If a person's essence is bad, no matter how to ensure it, it can't be completely corrected.

Later, I filed for divorce again, blacked out all his contact information and decided not to contact him for life. At my age, I no longer hope for marriage. My heart is broken and I know how to love myself. If I could go back in time, I would never choose to remarry after the divorce, because it only made me fall down in the same place twice.

Second place: I have been single since my divorce, but I have a stable lover.

I am 36 years old and divorced from my ex-husband for six years. In these six years, it only took me one year to heal myself. After all, I loved deeply and gave my heart and soul. It's impossible without feelings. But I also know that the past has passed, and there is no possibility of returning to the original. The only thing I can do is to move on and start a new life.

I divorced my ex-husband because we disagreed. We both worked hard, but we still couldn't live together, so we had to choose to separate. We have a daughter who followed him after the divorce. I work wholeheartedly and take care of the children on weekends. Later, I met my boyfriend at work, and we have a lot in common. It didn't take long to know each other to establish the relationship. He is a few years younger than me, but he is very mature. There is no generation gap between us.

I haven't thought about getting married for the time being. I just want to work hard. My boyfriend is also very open-minded and has no intention of forcing me. A stable relationship and a happy life are more important than anything else.

Third place: no remarriage after divorce, no second marriage, just want to live the rest of my life alone.

I am almost 50 years old and have no interest in love and marriage. From the moment I divorced my ex-husband, I knew I would never get married again. I was 48 years old when I divorced, and my children were married, so I had nothing to worry about.

I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, but he betrayed me. I am disheartened, and I don't want to see him again in my life. I lead an unfair life. I have always considered myself a qualified wife and mother. I take care of my family wholeheartedly and work hard, but the other party is still not satisfied.

After the divorce, I was completely relieved. I don't have to quarrel with him anymore, and I don't have to affect my mood because of some trivial things. I don't want to please anyone for the rest of my life. I just want to live a clean life by myself. Women are not only wives and mothers, but also themselves. I don't want to get married again after the divorce. First, I haven't met the right person yet. Second, even if I did, I might not have the courage. Because it is too difficult for married couples to be happy.

Let's look at fate. If I can meet the right person, I will try to convince myself that the rest of my life is still long. It doesn't matter if you don't meet the right one. I'm fine alone.

The above three situations are different, but different life will give us different enlightenment.

The first one chose to remarry her ex-husband after divorce, and later divorced. She told us that remarriage has certain risks and does not rule out the possibility of happiness after remarriage, but the key depends on what the divorce was for. If it is because the other person touches his own principles, then in this case, it is difficult to be happy even if he remarries.

After the second divorce, she didn't choose a second marriage, but she had a stable contact. Although I love my brother and sister, there is no big generation gap in the process of getting along. This shows that even if a woman is divorced, she has the right to enjoy love. As long as she meets the right person, all obstacles are not obstacles. The most important point is: to be economically independent, independence is your greatest confidence.

The third kind of people don't remarry or remarry after divorce, and realize how important it is to be good to themselves. Whether to remarry in the future depends on fate, but more importantly, he should learn to please himself, and live high will spend the rest of his life. Those women who refuse to get married again after divorce, everyone has their own considerations. But live well anyway. Their experiences remind us that women love themselves, which is a lifelong career.

Don't sell yourself short just because of divorce, as long as you are good enough, you can fully deserve a better life.