Learn to improvise and live with a series of jokes and jokes.

What should I do if your speech is ignored at a friend's party? Inadvertently ignited the sensitive nerves of the other party, and the sky was "talking to death." How to break it? How to express that the more comfortable and intimate people are? How to cultivate low laughter? In our life, work and study, improvisation is everywhere.

Recently, I searched Weibo for "Mutual Friendship" by Ni Ping and Sa Beining. The eloquent Sa Beining was "cleaned up" by Ni Ping. Between words, he makes people laugh without losing grace. He is humorous, has an attitude, and cleverly avoids embarrassment and silence.

On August 16, watching Hello Life, Sa Beining said, "My first home in Beijing is in the dormitory of Peking University and the studio of CCTV." Ni Ping replied, "You eat and drink where Lazar sleeps." . Sa Beining added, "It is the most important link to give grandma a sense of ceremony and cover the house with cloth." . Ni Ping replied, "You should blindfold her." . Sa Beining smiled mutely.

If Sa Beining is Versailles, Ni Ping is Versailles. Maybe this is the charm of improvisation.

The author of Improvisation: Easily Controlling Critical Moments, Ryuta Watanabe, is also an expert with the charm of improvisation. As a director of Japan Broadcasting Association, Japan's improvisation development lecturer has been devoted to the training of improvisation lecturers for many years, which has helped many people realize the iterative upgrade of improvisation.

There is a list of impromptu expressions in the book. This list covers topics such as thinking mode, communication skills, wording methods and adaptability. , including seven impromptu force inequalities, 10 impromptu expression thinking mode, adaptability in seven different scenarios, etc. From the underlying logic of expression, it truly and systematically solves the expression problems that everyone may face.

0 1 witty expression: there are always ways to resolve embarrassment and silence.

When the public expresses it, people outside tell you with their eyes that it seems to be a kind of silence. What else can you do at this time?

You can stop talking and say, "Hello? Maybe it was a little cold just now? " Doing so is likely to cause laughter, and it seems that the air that is about to solidify will begin to melt slowly. Of course, you can also make a joke to save the scene.

Generally speaking, we should follow several major inequality principles.

First, pay more attention to people than "jokes" and create more topics than wait for them. At this time, you can change the topic, create a topic, and let the scene or dialogue continue.

Japanese comedian Uncle Fish often tries to eat something that is broadcast live on TV. He always says "is it really delicious" in a skeptical tone, puts the food in his mouth, and then immediately says "really!" And always make everyone laugh. Suppress emotions in advance and then suddenly release them-this is a classic funny mode.

? In addition to direct humor, there is another kind that is unexpected.

Ada Gansheng, who wears glasses and dyed yellow hair in the "Sandwich Man" artist group, created the "zero calorie theory": doughnuts have a hole in the middle, which originally stands for 0, so doughnuts are "zero calorie food". In fact, it is because the speaker is talking nonsense in a serious way and seriously talking about worthless things, and the resulting sense of disobedience is very interesting.

In fact, people who can express themselves are best at creating an atmosphere that makes others easy to vomit. They bring the situation into their lives and don't forget to leave a few tricks for others. The underlying thinking here can be summarized as funny thinking or surprise thinking.

[If! SupportLists] second, [endif] we should interact to bring the relationship closer, and also keep an appropriate silence interval.

Traditional cross talk is divided into two roles: comedian and comedian. Two people, echoing each other and touting each other, make a thing that is not funny full of vitality. Bangbang seems to be a supporting role, but it can impress you deeply. There is an old saying in the phonograph world that "three points are funny, seven points are holding", which is actually the same in improvisation or public expression. If you want to solve the embarrassment, you must use great skills.

Improvisation provides a language suitable for learning and using, that is, short languages such as "ah" and "what". Although these short and lively words have caused a certain language gap, they can quickly promote the topic.

The author invited a young teacher in his thirties to travel with him. But just two days before he left, he sent a message to the author, saying that he couldn't go because he had to make a movie. The dialogue between the author and his brother is as follows: Q: What is the reason for making a movie? A: Because of lack of money. Q: Huh? ! Will making movies make money? Well, this is my first time to make a movie. Q: Huh? !

It is very important to leave time and space through interjections where necessary, so as to stimulate the curiosity of listeners and guide them to guess how the next plot will develop.

In some occasions, besides sighing, it can also be an exaggerated reaction, such as several people bowling. If someone plays well, they will be praised by others at the moment of hitting the ball: "Good shot!" " "Well done!" So, everyone began to cheer or regret, and the interactive dialogue began.

In impromptu expression, it is extremely important to accept and affirm the ideas put forward by the other party with a positive attitude. In this way, the topic is opened layer by layer. This kind of interaction can establish a relationship that allows both sides to talk on an equal footing. When the relationship is equal, the inner distance is closer, and embarrassment and silence are easily resolved.

If you want to have an interesting soul in a thousand, you only need a few words to express your current mood. Only in this way can we naturally build a "stalemate" interactive dialogue mode.

Take the initiative to find jokes and create topics, and the ice is naturally not cold. When interacting, put yourself in the other person's shoes, give the other person the opportunity to express, communicate on an equal footing, and let the embarrassment disappear.

The more you talk, the closer you get: build good interpersonal relationships in the topic.

Cai Kangyong said that knowing how to care about others through speaking is his way of speaking.

The function of impromptu expression is not only to make communication smoother, but also to narrow the distance between each other and establish good interpersonal relationships. The essence of communication is to understand each other and express respect or love, so impromptu communication can expand interpersonal relationships in a short time.

Establishing interpersonal relationships through improvisation and growing up in interpersonal relationships should also follow several major inequality principles.

First, it is more important to recognize other people's topics than to keep your own opinions.

If you want the other person to understand yourself, you must first understand the other person, so you must accept and recognize the other person before expressing yourself.

The key to enriching the forms of expression is not to serve the "straight ball", but to use circuitous expression techniques. The so-called circuitous expression is to compare with other things. People say I look like Moomin the hippo, not because I am cute, but because I have a big face. Chipa said Lifu Seoul has many golden sentences. She said that you are not the New World and others are not Columbus, so don't wait for others to discover your ability, you should learn to take credit for yourself.

This circuitous expression, subtle and interesting, will not make people feel disgusted, and will not directly point out the shortcomings of the other party. It is a very comfortable expression.

Japanese talk show masters often say, spice learning trip! Six vegetable conferences! The highest form of shrimp! This is the combination of circuitous expression thinking and picture description thinking, which not only avoids straightforward narration, makes the language interesting, but also gives people unlimited imagination. The pictures in my mind are colorful and lively, which is especially important in family or parent-child communication.

Second, create contrast and celebrate differences.

Once, my junior high school daughter lay down and dyed her head deep red, which was very fashionable and avant-garde. Instead of blaming the child, the mother said excitedly, Wow, red is really beautiful. I want to dye my hair tomorrow just to dye my white hair green. what do you think?

The daughter didn't think of her mother's answer at all. I am very happy psychologically. This fashionable mother is in great contrast with her frugal and simple mother. This aroused her daughter's desire for communication. Later, my mother further chatted and learned that my daughter dyed her hair because of the boy in the next class. After she confided her heart, her daughter also understood that what she had to do was actually to improve herself in all aspects such as study and hobbies, not just her appearance.

Mom made a successful expression of contrast this time. Making contrast is actually based on accepting each other, with appreciation and praise, and they also expect to celebrate the differences by making videos together. At this time, two people's true hearts are consistent, and creative solutions to problems can be found through communication.

Third, be honest with each other.

In impromptu communication, only frankness and sincerity can impress each other. Fu Seoul said in "Qi Ba Shuo", what is true and what is true? Where does our courage and love come from? That is the most real existence, so I won't tell my son that all fairy tales are false.

Improvisation can get closer and closer, communication is everywhere, and improvisation is not completely unprepared. Many communication templates can be practiced deliberately. Improvisation is an essential ability to grow in interpersonal relationships.

Laugh with your heart: water your life with jokes and jokes.

Good jokes can also add material to life. You can also see life through jokes.

First, reduce the punchline.

There is such a person who doesn't laugh when everyone is laughing and puts on a disappointed look. This will make the atmosphere of the audience inexplicably embarrassing. In other words, even if you don't say a word, you may be rejected by everyone just because you are different from others. Therefore, if you want to be a popular speaker, it is necessary to reduce your jokes.

High emotions will be contagious, everyone will laugh, the whole gas field will be different, and the success rate of negotiation and communication will be higher.

Modern science has proved that human expression is mainly controlled by facial expression muscles. Making yourself laugh by exercising facial expression muscles is likely to lead you to be interested in the speaker's topic.

So, insist on smiling because of the other person's words, and your laughter will naturally become lower. As long as you smile, any topic may become interesting. Slowly, your smile is from the heart and will infect many people.

Second, enjoy self-mockery.

Augie of Miracle Boy is a boy of 10 years old, and his face has scars left by various operations. Wear a head to school every day. Once at school, he mentioned that his mother told him from an early age that he was a normal child, and he thought others were flawed because they didn't wear helmets. His self-mockery is like humor, which makes others laugh. Sa Beining, the famous mouth of CCTV, takes his height bring disgrace to oneself no matter what occasion he hosts. This kind of self-mockery is actually a kind of confidence. Enjoying self-mockery in expression can also arouse * * * and build self-confidence. But remember, don't take others with you.

Third, learn to spit.

There is an example in the book in which the author tries to describe the bad experience of eating. "A few days ago, I drank rice wine in a barbecue shop. Oh, it is delicious! It's well fermented, a bit like liqueur and a bit like yogurt. If it is more accurate, it is a bit like Joshua who has deteriorated just right. " In this way, with the foreshadowing of sweet wine and yogurt, if listeners use the expression "deteriorated Gioia", they will not have negative emotions.

Instead of using abnormal expression rashly, it is better to divide it into three stages, and use abnormal expression in the third stage, so that the listener will be psychologically prepared and your speech will not end awkwardly. Remember to throw out two common expressions before shaking the baggage.

Improvisation in the face of things makes you wise, improvisation in the face of relatives makes you friendly, and improvisation in life makes you open-minded. As the lyrics say, laugh it off and live happily without holding grudges. Sing a song for today's laughter and let your heart absorb new happiness.