Elders often say that "beating you is for your future". Does hitting people really have the effect of educating children?

Can't play an educational role. When children make mistakes or disobey, many parents' first reaction is to threaten, abuse or violently hit their children. This will have an immediate effect, and children will calm down and stop being naughty, so many parents mistakenly think that beating and scolding education is useful.

In fact, children are "obedient" because they are forced by the authority and pressure of their parents. When children grow up and have the power of parents to compete, children will talk back, resist and rebel.

When my uncle was young, he was strong-willed and grumpy. Cousin can only beat and scold when he does something wrong. When my cousin was in 1 grade, she fell in love with her deskmate's pencil case and quietly took it home. When my uncle learned about this, he indiscriminately scolded my cousin, saying that she was "shameless, stealing, and never learned well since she was a child." It seems that only scolding can't educate my cousin, and even slap her in the face.

My uncle educated my cousin, and my cousin never took anything from others, but my cousin became more and more indifferent to my uncle, and even had some hatred. When my cousin comes of age, she can't forget her uncle's shameless words. She and her uncle are never close, and they don't like to go home at ordinary times. Swearing and cursing, even punching and kicking, this rude way of education will only destroy children's hearts and make them alienate and resent their parents.

Corporal punishment with violence will make children form the understanding that when other methods fail, they can solve the problem by force. Moreover, people's emotional judgment follows the "emotional judgment priority law". The law of priority of emotional judgment means that emotion takes precedence over reason and affects people's judgment.