The "game" between husband and wife is a never-ending chess game.

Couples in China spend most of their time stumbling, which seems to have formed an agreement: kiss me before marriage, eager to stick together for 24 hours, and they will subconsciously hide their shortcomings, try their best to show their strengths to each other, and even pretend to show their strengths to each other to please each other. After marriage, the passion passed, the enthusiasm slowly faded, and they began to show their true colors. From this time on, the "game" between husband and wife officially kicked off.

Because of the particularity of the relationship between husband and wife, the "game" between husband and wife is a "war" that no one will win from the beginning. Even if it ends in divorce, both parties are losers: some win money, but they may lose their children; Some win children, but they may lose their complete family happiness; Some people may win wealth and children, but they will also lose their youth and family ... anyway, no one can win or lose in divorce.

The "game" between husband and wife is actually some trivial things. In the past, couples quarreled mostly because of money, because the overall economic level of society was poor and there was a lack of money. So for a dollar or two or even a dime, the couple may have a big fight, but at that time, divorce was a very shameful thing. After the husband and wife quarrel, it's good to calm down for a while. This is what the older generation often said: "Husband and wife quarrel at the head of the bed and at the end of the bed." Now couples quarrel, especially young couples quarrel. Most of the reasons have nothing to do with money, but mainly emotional problems. In today's increasingly socialized society, the circle of social communication is expanding infinitely, especially the emergence of communication platforms such as QQ and WeChat, which enables a person's circle to expand to all parts of the country and even abroad. The expansion of the circle of friends and more and more friends will break the original circle of friends. If men and women communicate more for a long time, emotional problems will inevitably arise. Or is it because the social circle is too big and there are too many contacts? Once you have emotional communication, you won't have too much scruples, and you will make unbridled noise and endlessly "play games." When both sides don't compromise, divorce becomes the first choice to solve the problem.

In marriage, the most common mistake men make is extramarital affairs, which is probably related to men's gender, because "out of home" men often meet all kinds of people, during which the opposite sex will inevitably appear, and the possibility of emotional sparks will greatly increase. At this time, it is up to the wife to see what ways and means to deal with this problem. China women's metropolis regards her husband's "extramarital affairs" as their own shame, and also chooses to make noise and even cry and hang themselves. Finally, their husbands were afraid to run away. When the constant escape can't alleviate the family's war atmosphere, divorce becomes the only choice. In fact, a considerable number of divorced families will not and should not divorce, but their wives will make endless noises, and they feel wronged. Hillary Clinton, the wife of former US President Bill Clinton, did the best in dealing with the same problem. Because of the affair between Clinton and Lewinsky, people all over the world want Hillary to make a big fuss. In other words, people all over the world want to see Clinton's jokes, but the clever Hillary Clinton did not make a fuss, but publicly expressed her love for her husband Clinton at a party, which was very clever. It not only helped Clinton tide over the difficulties of public opinion, but also made her husband try to make up for his wife's lifelong debt because of her understanding and save a complete family. If a family that has been fighting endlessly because of extramarital affairs can learn from Hillary's intelligence, wisdom and generosity, it can not only save the family, but also move towards harmony and happiness from now on.

? The most common mistake women make is nagging. For men, women's endless nagging is sometimes worse than scolding or hitting. Men work outside, and at the end of the day, their ears are full of all kinds of noises. They hope to go home and live a quiet life. If you are nagged by your wife, no matter whether it is right or wrong, men's reaction is generally very disgusted and angry. Therefore, for a woman, nagging is only one of her personality characteristics, but for a man, a woman's nagging sometimes hurts as much as being severely beaten by others.

In many families today, the endless recrimination between husband and wife always seems to solve a problem: who is right and who is wrong. But we can't draw the conclusion of "who is right and who is wrong", because both husband and wife who quarrel will think that they are right and the other is wrong. Every quarrel begins with this "proposition", ends with this "proposition" every day, and starts again the next day, day after day, year after year, endlessly.

In fact, there is no right or wrong between husband and wife. No matter how long you argue, you can't tell right from wrong, and you can't tell the outcome. Except that both sides are exhausted or their hearts are getting "cold" and their psychological distance is getting "big", they get nothing.

If long-term "game" couples can realize this, they may all "take a step back" or even take a few steps. When both sides "step back" and look at each other's best distance, they can discover each other's "beauty". We often say that distance produces beauty, which is the reason. Once the real "beauty" of the other party is discovered, both parties will cherish it.

The game is a kind of Luan, with a beginning and an end, but the length of Luan is different. The "game" between husband and wife is actually a confrontation on the chessboard, but the "chessboard" between husband and wife has a beginning and an end for Luan, just like a chess game that can never be played.

Actually, there is no difference between husband and wife. They get married and sleep in the same bed, and they are exactly the same height. Why do you want to fight for a "height" and fight for right and wrong? Even if you win, you won temporarily in this "game" between husband and wife. What did you get? In fact, we got nothing, because what one party got was what the other party lost, put it on a bed, a pot, a stool ... or a whole, which is a happy "harbor" that we all cherish-family.