It is said that the boss is stupid and the second child is fine. In fact, will the second child really be better?

A fan left a message for crooked mom, saying that she had heard someone say that "the eldest child is stupid, and the second child is clever", which means that if there are two children in the family, the second child is usually smarter than the eldest child. She always thought this statement was made up, but she didn't know what "slapping" meant until she had two treasures.

She said, "As Erbao grows up, I really find that he is smarter than Dabao in many places, and his reaction is much faster. I remember that Dabao learned to use chopsticks and other eating tools very late, but Erbao knew how to use chopsticks at a relatively young age, and basically we didn't have to worry about it. Dabao is different. Many things feel dull. If we don't worry about fixing them, it may take him a long time."

In fact, there is a misunderstanding, that is, people generally think that lively and cheerful children have higher IQ and are smarter, while dull children are more stupid, but this is not the case. Lively or dull, more is the embodiment of personality, rather than the performance of IQ, so this statement actually does not mean that Erbao is smarter than Dabao, but that his personality will be different, which will make Erbao look smarter. Then why does the birth order affect the child's personality? Today, crooked mom will tell you about it. Parents are no longer crossing the river by feeling the stones

Parents are basically inexperienced when taking care of their first baby, and many things are groped by themselves, so they will be very afraid of what they have not done well and will hurt their babies, and they will be more cautious when taking care of them. However, such excessive protection will cause the baby to become reluctant to start work and think, so it will look dull. Without Erbao, he will be more calm in character and lively and active. When taking care of Erbao, parents already have the experience of taking care of Dabao, and they will not be too flustered when something happens. They know how to deal with it is the best, which leads them to be more casual when taking care of Erbao, not as careful as taking care of Dabao, and do everything well in advance. As a result, Erbao has more opportunities to start work and think, so they will learn everything much faster and be relatively generous and lively in character. Competition makes Erbao learn more actively

When he has only one child, he is the center of the whole family and can be loved by the whole family. But after Erbao is born, he already has a brother or sister older than him, so it is difficult for parents to distribute their love evenly, which will lead to the feeling of competition between children. For Erbao, this sense of competition will make them care more about Dabao, and even subconsciously regard Dabao as an example to learn. In this way, Erbao may grow faster under the influence of his brother and sister.

Of course, all this is just a general phenomenon. Every child is a different individual. In reality, there are many cases where Dabao is more active than Erbao and Erbao is smarter than Dabao.

Because of the relationship between parents' rearing patterns and family competition, Erbao may be more active in character than Dabao, while Dabao may be dull, but this does not mean that their IQ is lower than Erbao. Even in many aspects, Dabao is often superior to Erbao, for example, Dabao will have a stronger sense of responsibility and know more about humility. Of course, these are just a general phenomenon, and not every Dabao and Erbao will have such characteristics.