How to cultivate a sense of humor (what methods can help you cultivate a sense of humor)

Humor is the expression of thinking mode.

Sometimes your lack of humor, introversion or rigidity are not the main reasons, but it is these personalities that have long created your way of thinking and led you to express yourself in introverted or rigid language.

In other words, as long as you know how to change your way of thinking, you can actually tell some jokes to make everyone happy.

Of course, this kind of humor is only technically interesting, which is far from those who are born with this talent, but it is more than enough to cope with interpersonal communication in daily life.

Here are six basic humorous thinking skills. If you master them and practice them often, you will develop your sense of humor.

Preparation 1. Psychological construction

If you want to make the chat lively and interesting, you must first relax your mind.

Don't make the conversation look like going to a funeral. There is no need to sulk when dealing with people in normal life. We are not leaders, so we don't take this seriously.

So we should learn to be optimistic. We should take a caring attitude towards the world. Anyway, it does not involve our own interests, nor does it harm people. We can play as we want.

Open your heart, not afraid of losing face. Relax, entertain others and entertain yourself.

2. Knowledge reserve

Interesting people never just talk. Behind the lip service, you need to accumulate a lot of knowledge.

After all, a wealth of knowledge can make you feel comfortable in the face of different topics, dig out interesting ingredients from them at any time, and then be silent.

An uneducated person doesn't know where to start even if he wants to chat, let alone want to have an interesting chat.

On the basis of professional knowledge, read as many different kinds of miscellaneous books as possible and develop the habit of extensive reading, and the fun will naturally be at your fingertips.

3. Way of thinking

If mentality is the cornerstone of architecture, then knowledge reserve is the material of architecture, and thinking mode is the distinctive appearance of architecture.

Interesting people must have different ways of thinking. They can manage all kinds of ordinary things and extract unusual parts.

People with slow thinking can't grasp interesting materials quickly and then use them.

Therefore, it is very important to cultivate your own humorous thinking.

So how to cultivate it?

The simplest and most direct way is to find a joke book, analyze the jokes you find funny, and think about what makes you laugh. Over time, you will get this way of thinking.

Humor tips 1. Know how to laugh at yourself.

Remember a word, people who are good at self-mockery are the happiest.

What do you mean?

People who are good at self-mockery have neither too high nor too low self-esteem, and keep a relatively peaceful attitude to get along with others.

If there is any conflict, a self-deprecating joke will be completely eliminated.

Once I went shopping with my friends and pushed a cart. Maybe I am immersed in the pleasure of shopping. My friend accidentally let the cart hit a boy next to him.

The boy looked innocent, but he didn't expect his friend to say to him first: "Sorry, the female driver drove out to harm the world!" " "

Of course, my friend's driving skill is very good, but this statement not only gives the other party no reason to be angry, but also gives himself a step down.

This is the role of self-mockery, and behind it is the mentality of self-entertainment.

It is worth noting that self-mockery should never be regarded as self-mockery.

How to distinguish the two?

I didn't use any derogatory words in my self-mockery. I only said some bad words with a calm attitude, and I didn't complain or complain.

Misunderstand meaning

As the name implies, misinterpretation means not understanding things from the front, but deliberately understanding things from other unexpected and unconventional sides, giving people a specious feeling.

The most common method is to look at the meaning of text generation and the meaning of text generation. Many jokes come from this.

This is also the most common trick to make things interesting.

Once I went out to eat with one of my boys. On the way, I saw a rich woman driving a Mercedes. Because of the parking problem, she had an argument with the security guard and her attitude was very bad.

I said indignantly, "This woman is so fierce!"

My friend replied contemptuously: "I looked carefully, her breasts are not good at all!" " "

I laughed at once.

As long as your mind is not rigid, you can misinterpret everything at any time and treat it as a joke.

Use homophones

China's writing is extensive and profound, and there are many cases of polysyllabic words or polysyllabic words. He is good at using homophones to make fun, basically by hand.

Once I had dinner with my best friend, her boyfriend was there, and we all chatted together. As this is the first time I have met my best friend, I am a little stiff.

Then everyone talked about how my best friend and I met. I replied casually, maybe we are more congenial!

I didn't expect my best friend's boyfriend to say to me in surprise: "Really? Then do you think my head is round and not suitable for being friends? "

Suddenly, the awkward atmosphere was broken.

Have you noticed that China's Chinese characters are all profound? (smiling face)

If you want to use this method well, you still have to be sensitive to words. In daily life, turning your head and thinking about the synonymous and homophonic parts of each word can form habitual sensitivity.

Step 4 divert attention

What do you mean by distracting yourself? Of course, it can't be explained from the level of idioms.

It can be understood as a change of thinking. That is, it clearly refers to the East, but it finally reveals the West. It's a bit like the "shaking baggage" of cross talk.

The last sentence is a burden, and the next sentence is an unexpected result that is completely different from what you think. When a large section is paved first and the result finally appears, it has nothing to do with paving.

There is a joke that goes like this.

A man went to see a doctor. He said to the doctor, "Doctor, my wife cheated on me. Last month, when I came back from work, I suddenly saw a panting sound coming from the room. I walked in and saw my wife fooling around with her colleagues. I was so angry that I didn't know what to do, so I ran to the coffee shop downstairs and had a few cups of coffee to vent my anger. I am very upset. "

Doctor, listen carefully.

"I thought it was over. I didn't expect to see my wife and his colleagues happy in my room when I came back from work last week. I was so excited that I almost wanted to hit someone, but I finally held back and had to run downstairs to the coffee shop and drink coffee bitterly all night. I just want to cry. "

The doctor nodded.

"The most irritating thing is that I saw my wife again last night. She ... "

At this time, the doctor interrupted the man's speech: "I'm sorry, sir, I deeply sympathize with your experience, but I'm here in the digestive department, and your wife cheated." You should see a psychiatrist. "

"No, doctor, I just came to see you!" The man said firmly, "I just want to ask, will drinking so much coffee be bad for your stomach?"

There is another joke.

A girl asked a boy what he usually did.

The boy said, "I usually go to work, read books, watch movies, play games and do sports, so I miss you at other times."

The girl asked in surprise, "Really?"

The boy said, "Yes, but I usually have no other time!" " "

The biggest skill of this trick is that the first half is to divert others' thinking, set traps for others, create suspense, and shift their attention to the place you deliberately created, while the second half is to give them an unexpected answer. This incongruous contrast is naturally funny.

exaggerate purposely

Generally speaking, deliberately exaggerating some ordinary things will have a funny effect.

It is common for wives to cheat, but it is exaggerated to say that men wear green hats.

There is a best friend who has a good figure, but every time I see her, she always shouts at me that her breasts are not big enough. Once shopping, she said to herself in the mirror in the fitting room, "Look at my chest, it's so small!" " "

I said coldly, "Yes, just a steamed bun!" "

I said my best friend was angry and laughing.

It's a trivial matter, but it will make people laugh if it sounds like the end of the world.

6. Be good at association

When I say Lenovo, of course, it is not a brand, but something related to it.

Wu Zongxian's associative ability is second to none.

Brother Xian once asked a guest, "I heard that you tried to make seven people chase you at the same time!" "

The guest said, "Yes!"

Brother Xian said, "Do you know how I feel?"

The guest asked, "What?"

Brother Xian gave the answer: "This is the tragic story of Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs!"

Once at a party, a friend of mine lamented how popular he was in college and how many boys pursued him. Unexpectedly, when he left the society, fewer people pursued him.

My other girlfriend comforted me: "Maybe they think the stock market is not good and they have all withdrawn their funds!" "

This is Lenovo.

Through one thing, connect another similar or related thing to produce a humorous contrast, and you will get a joke. This requires that we have accumulated a wealth of knowledge, and only in this way can we think of things that others can't think of.

Conclusion Apart from these six tricks, is there no other way to make yourself interesting?

Of course not.

These six skills are just relatively easy to learn and apply. They can be learned and sold now, and can be applied to life immediately with a little practice. But that doesn't mean they are all interesting.

As the saying goes, the highest level of interest is to win without tricks.

Many interesting people, one sentence in Mandarin can make people laugh, which is an innate ability. This involves intonation, mood, expression, body language and so on.

These can't be done in a day or two. If you want to improve your interest, you still have to learn by yourself. After all, I just throw a brick to attract jade, and practice still lies in the individual.