Social Humor and Self-deprecating Eloquence Skills

Self-mockery is a humorous modesty. Give yourself a retreat, give yourself a little time to gain momentum, and give yourself a little tolerance and understanding, so that you can face everything you lose calmly and win a good mood for yourself. The following is what I collected for you. Welcome to learn from it.

Humor is the regulator of life. Life will become more interesting with humor. What people often see in humor is making fun of others as the raw material of humor. This can adjust the atmosphere if used well, and it will hurt people if used badly. There is also a very good way of humor, which will never hurt others, and that is "self-mockery". Self-mockery has incomparable advantages over other humorous ways, for example, it has a very good effect in relieving embarrassment and resolving contradictions.

Self-mockery is a rational philosophy and a clever way of doing things. A relaxed and humorous self-mockery has its own profound chewing and wise life perception, which is different from the "Ah Q spirit" of self-deception. Former US President Roosevelt was robbed in a house, and all his valuables were looted. When his friends found out, they all came to comfort him. Unexpectedly, Roosevelt humorously explained to them: "Dear friends, thank you for your comfort. I want to thank God, because: first, the thief stole my things and didn't hurt my life; Second, the thief only stole some of my things, not all of them; Third, the luckiest thing is that he is the thief, not me. " According to ordinary people's thinking, Roosevelt should condemn the thief's immoral behavior, but he knew that the theft had happened, and no matter how severely he condemned it, it would be of no help. He has a self-deprecating joy. It is because he realizes that things in life are not satisfactory, and he should have a sense of gratitude and satisfaction in the face of hardships in life.

Self-mockery is a kind of wisdom. Think about the unpleasant things, unpleasant situations and unwilling results that we have faced ourselves. If you can take it easy and learn to laugh at yourself, you will turn passivity into initiative and give the other person a sense of relaxation. After Reagan became president of the United States, he paid a state visit to Canada. At the beginning of the speech, Reagan's speech was constantly interrupted by anti-American people. Canadian Prime Minister pierre trudeau looked uncomfortable, but Reagan smiled and said to him, "This kind of thing happens from time to time in the United States. I think these people must have come to your country from America on purpose. They want me to feel at home. " This humorous self-mockery made Trudeau suddenly smile and freed Reagan from embarrassment.

Self-mockery is a kind of self-confidence. People who laugh at themselves never feel sorry for themselves. To dare to laugh at yourself is to dare to face up to your own shortcomings, deficiencies and failures. Behind self-mockery is a kind of personality power. Lincoln, the tenth president of the United States, once ridiculed himself as an "ugly man." Once Lincoln's political opponents said that he was a two-faced man. Lincoln replied, "Everyone in the world knows that I don't have two sides. If I had, I wouldn't have appeared in front of everyone with this respect. " Lincoln responded to the slander of his political opponents by making fun of his appearance, which made people feel that he was open-minded and human. From Lincoln's answer, we can see his freedom and confidence. Just think, although he is not handsome, is a person with beautiful heart and outstanding intelligence more credible and lovely than those who are beyond gold and jade? This self-confidence transcends inferiority and sublimates into an upward philosophy of life and an optimistic attitude towards life.

Self-mockery is a good medicine to adjust psychological balance. When people are wronged, they laugh at themselves to adjust their mentality, ease their dissatisfaction, add a protective film to their hearts, and let others have a new understanding of you. There is a unit in our city, and the top leader is in charge of all the affairs of the deputy, and the team members have opinions. Once, the organization department assessed the leading group and asked a deputy for advice. The representative said: "The biggest feature of our leading group is unity and mutual assistance, with the top leaders taking the lead and grasping all our work." Although it is an opinion, it is witty, funny and subtle.

In impromptu speech, if the speaker can laugh at himself and distort himself in a timely and appropriate way, it is a sign of wisdom and high education. The speaker can gain humor, "lubricate" the relationship between the speaker and the audience and increase the interest of the speech.

1930 On February 9, Cai Yuanpei's 70th birthday, people from all walks of life in Shanghai hosted a banquet to welcome him at the International Hotel. When thanking him, he said humorously and freely, "When you come to celebrate my birthday, you always ask me to work for another few years. Living to 70 years old, I feel that I have done something wrong in these 69 years. If I want to live a few more years, I just want to do something wrong for a few more years. " Hearing this, the guests burst into laughter, and the whole banquet was full of laughter.

Imagine if he put on a serious face and made a serious thank-you speech, he wouldn't have created such a relaxed and happy atmosphere. However, when using the "lubricant" of self-mockery, we should pay attention to the scenes and situations, and it is not appropriate to use this "liquid" that makes people laugh in serious occasions or sad atmosphere.

Bold self-mockery can not only show confidence, but also save face. Sometimes you will be embarrassed for your own reasons, such as appearance defects, your own shortcomings, mistakes in words and deeds and so on. Self-confident people can maintain their self-esteem, and people with low self-esteem often fall into embarrassment. For all kinds of shortcomings that affect the image, bold and clever self-mockery can show your self-confidence and uninhibited communication charm while getting rid of the predicament quickly.

If you are "not high in altitude", you might as well say that you are small in size, strong in strength and devoted to high technology; If you find a beautiful ugly one, it is better to say' I am ugly but I am gentle'; Even if you are like Liu, you might as well say that you bend your back and don't bow your head.

The wife of a short scholar laughed at her husband for being too short. The scholar smiled and said, "I think it's better to make it shorter. If I am not1.57m, can I still write now? " When these words were finished, the audience was amazed.

Herb Tru, an American, listed self-mockery as the highest realm of humor in his book Humorous Life. It would be even more wonderful if we could skillfully integrate our own embarrassment into the topic and lead to enlightening truth in combination with specific communication occasions and language environment.

Roy, a famous American movie star, has been active on the screen from 1920s to 1980s, but she gradually gained weight in her later years. Because she was too fat, her friends invited her to swim at the seaside many times, but she was embarrassed to go and tried to find various reasons to refuse.

At a news conference, an entertainment reporter just asked Roy this question: "Ms. Roy, are you afraid of losing face because you are too fat?"

Roy thought for a moment and happily replied, "I didn't go swimming because I was fat." I am afraid that our air force pilots will see me in the sky and think that they have discovered a new Cuba. "

Hearing this, the people present gave cheers and laughter, and could not help clapping their hands.

Roy made an unusual speech, which solved the embarrassment with self-deprecating tone and exaggeration. He was not led by the reporter, but also enlivened the atmosphere of the reception, leaving a good impression on everyone and showing his open-minded mind and humorous personality charm.

Humor has always been called the language art that only smart people can master, and self-mockery is also called the highest realm of humor. Those who can laugh at themselves must be the wise among the wise and the master among the masters. Self-mockery is a skill that people who lack self-confidence dare not use, because it requires you to scold yourself. In other words, we should "make fun" of our mistakes and shortcomings, skillfully extend our play, justify ourselves and get a smile. Without an open-minded, optimistic, detached and ridiculous mentality and mind, it is impossible.

In social situations, self-mockery is a rare panacea. When all else fails, you might as well make fun of yourself. At least it is safe to scold yourself, unless you criticize others, it is generally not annoying. The wise man's golden rule is: whatever you want to laugh at others, laugh at yourself first.

Legend has it that there was a stone bachelor in ancient times who accidentally fell to the ground riding a donkey, and most people would be at a loss. But Shi Bachelor stood up unhurriedly and said, "I am a Shi Bachelor, but if I were a tile, wouldn't I break into pieces?" A punch line made everyone present laugh, and naturally this stone avoided embarrassment in laughter.

By analogy, a fat man fell down and said, "If this body of meat is not supporting you, why don't you break the bone?" If you change to a thin man, you can say, "If it weren't for your light weight, this fall would be a meat pie!" "

Self-mockery can not only enliven the conversation atmosphere and eliminate tension; You can also ask for steps in embarrassment to save face; It can also narrow the distance with strangers in public and quickly gain the acceptance of others. Clever use of self-mockery to reverse the predicament is often faster and more effective than a lot of explanations and apologies. Hehe, in a smile, people can often put down their misunderstandings and write off their unhappiness.

At the beginning of a new semester in a university, freshmen are new here and competing for seats in the dormitory. Old seven was outspoken and argued with old eight for a long time. Seeing that Lao Ba, who was a few days younger than himself, finally came to the bottom, he said, "Well, you are the last one in our dormitory. Your surname is Wang, and I will call you' social king' from now on."

The speaker has no intention, but the listener has intention. It turns out that Lao Ba has a pimple on his face, commonly known as "youthful and beautiful pimple", and he often feels abhorrent. How can he not be angry at this time? Old seven saw that he was angered again and regretted it. On the surface, he is not in a hurry or angry. He looked in the mirror and said to himself, "curled up on his cheek, leaning between his ears and wings, his charm is a little bit." Alas, old eight, I am really' a wave of unrest, a wave of rise again'! "Old eight listened to, can't help heart. It turns out that Lao Qi also has freckles on his face.

Lao qi's self-correction technique is very clever. After unintentionally offending others, he immediately laughed at himself implicitly and cleverly pointed out that he was also freckled by Yu Guangzhong's poems. His words of "after a wave of unrest, another wave rises" are not only a self-mockery of the distribution shape of freckles on his face, but also an implicit remorse caused by his two outspoken remarks, thus winning a knowing smile from Lao Ba. This kind of self-mockery is to seek each other's understanding by poking fun at oneself, so it is also a quite flexible way to correct mistakes.

In life, it takes enough wisdom and courage to make proper use of self-mockery, not be afraid to talk about one's own shortcomings and deficiencies, and turn crisis into safety and defeat into victory. We might as well try to exercise, don't haggle over our shortcomings, face our shortcomings with a cheerful attitude, and joke about our shortcomings at the right time, which not only eliminates embarrassment for ourselves, but also wins the understanding and respect of others. This is really an excellent way of communication.