15 what the daughter-in-law wants to say to her mother-in-law, the first one: "Stop talking, it doesn't matter if you eat a little."

First, stop it. It's okay to eat a little.

Don't give candy and snacks until you finish them. Don't think it's okay to eat a little. In case of suffocation accident, who can give Hamlick first aid immediately? Or can you just watch your child's face turn purple, his brain lacks oxygen, or he vomits and diarrhea after eating badly? Is it all mother's fault?

Please give mom enough privacy and space.

Please don't break into the mother's room at will and take the children to coax. Please give privacy and respect even when your mother kisses or milks. Don't always watch, create invisible pressure, or always say that there is not enough milk, and children will not be full. As long as mom eats well, sleeps well and has enough milk, there is really no need to worry too much.

Third, there is a kind of cold that makes grandparents feel cold.

Just because you are afraid of the cold doesn't mean that children are also afraid of the cold. The child's temperature is already very high. As long as you wear it normally, adding clothes or coats too deliberately will only make your grandson sick again and again.

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Fourth, if you don't live in your own house, you can come in and out at will.

Regardless of status, knocking at the door is a sign of courtesy and respect for others. Today, even if a friend comes to live at home, the host has to knock at the door. This is a kind of respect between people, not to mention entering the room silently, which is very scary, and don't change the decoration of other people's rooms at will. This is very impolite behavior, regardless of seniority.

5. Both sons and daughters-in-law are human.

Not only your son but also his wife will not be tired. Don't look for a wife for everything. She is not a Filipino maid invited by your family. Don't miss a phone call or two, as if you have committed a heinous crime. "Your son has worked hard to raise this big boy, and it is not a big loss for you to use little." Otherwise, your daughter-in-law will serve you during the day and your son at night, and the iron will be broken.

Six, take care of the biggest, others please shut up.

How did you take care of the children before? Now please relax and stop [controlling] the people you take care of. You must take care of or educate your children. You can love your grandchildren, love your grandchildren and care about your grandchildren, but the principle is that "care" is the greatest. When a mother is disciplining or educating her children, no one should intervene, including the elders, let alone speak and explain anything from the standpoint of her grandson. You're not him, so don't.

Seven, what others say is right, and what the daughter-in-law says is fart.

Some mothers-in-law don't seem to care much about things, but they just object to their daughters-in-law. Although the face of the elders is important, if we can communicate with each other and exchange views, we will gain the respect of the younger generation more than oppressing others by seniority or even admitting our mistakes.

Eight, religious belief is not equal to superstition.

When a child is sick, he just goes to see a doctor. He does not blindly believe in folk remedies, nor is he afraid to drink water. Even some things, good or bad, are not as good as what a fortune teller said. It's really enough.

Nine, praise more and complain less

Don't go to your neighbor's house to dislike your daughter-in-law, making it look like your daughter-in-law is poor and rotten, and other people's daughter-in-law is good, boastful and sensible, so that you and your son will be more glorious and have more face? Don't let others see jokes, you are still smug. Talk about your family behind closed doors.

Ten, good or bad regardless of men and women.

Children are the crystallization of husband and wife's love. What is good is the man's inheritance, and what is not good is the woman's fault. Don't you think this kind of statement and idea is ridiculous and ignorant? It's really inappropriate to say it from an elder.

Eleven, every child is a treasure in the hearts of parents.

It is equally good to have boys and girls. What time is it now? It must be male or female, as long as it is not Lao Wang's next door, it is your son's. What if someone else has no children? People are more popular than others. What's the difference between such a small child? Children of the same age in other families, who are taller and talk more, must be presidents, great men and doctors in the future? A man knows his companion in a long journey and a little inn. The future is still very long. Don't be in a hurry, just look at the present.

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Twelve, don't always provoke couples and mislead children.

Don't always criticize your mother in front of your children, for example, your mother always beats you, your mother doesn't give you food, your mother always abuses you, or in private, she always stirs up feelings between her and her husband, telling her son big and small things, and everything is fine at home. Daughter-in-law is wrong, so she can't always say nothing in front of her, but she always complains, mending the knife and speaking ill of her son in private.

Thirteen, the child is sick and injured is a matter of course.

It is normal for children to get sick, and it is more common to be bitten by mosquitoes. Don't always blame mother. No mother in the world wants to see her child sick. People are worse than the sky. Many things have been prevented as much as possible, but who can guarantee that children will be safe and not sick all their lives?

14. Don't treat people with double standards.

It seems that the daughter-in-law has nothing to complain about, but as long as the son does it, it is great and good. It is normal and necessary for a daughter-in-law to spend money indiscriminately, and for a son to accompany his daughter to buy things. This is really unfair.

Fifteen, maiden, husband's family is home.

Don't always think that a daughter-in-law is her husband's family when she marries, and she should be completely separated from her family. It's like taking money back to honor your mother's family or going back to your mother's family is heinous. Think about it from another angle. If even blood is thicker than water, you can really put it down, and saying unfilial is unfilial. Don't you think this kind of daughter-in-law is tough enough and scary enough? You may be thrown out that day!

After reading so many stories, I found that I really can't finish writing the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and even it's too difficult to change a bad mother-in-law or elder, just like a scholar can't tell whether he is right or not when he sees a soldier. Unless the husband is willing to communicate and coordinate together, it is up to the daughter-in-law to let a traditional mother-in-law "accept one".

Therefore, I would like to remind women who haven't signed their consent to get married. Before getting married, they should "inquire" about what kind of future mother-in-law is, spend more time with her, whether it's dinner or daily visits and greetings, find out the temperament and personality of your future mother-in-law in advance from each other's conversations and get along with each other, and make plans and ways to get along with each other before marriage, so as not to regret getting married.

If you are a married mother and you really don't get along well with your mother-in-law, in fact, "separation" is a good choice. It's definitely better to take your grandson home on a weekend holiday than to live together every day and quarrel over trivial matters. To put it bluntly, "being a good wife for a day" is still very simple.

Finally, the "mother-in-law problem" will become a "marriage problem" if the husband ignores it. If it is not handled well, it will even turn into a "three-way melee." Both sides are favorite relatives and lovers. To be honest, Mr. Wang should "choose which side to take"

Just as a mother-in-law wants her daughter-in-law to leave her home and concentrate on her husband's family, if you want her husband to support you, the relationship between the three will only deteriorate, but it doesn't mean that all husbands should treat her coldly. The wife's complaints about her mother-in-law will be regarded as air and nonsense, which will turn into a husband-wife war in the long run. Finally, I hope everyone has a cognition:

When you are a mother-in-law, you should have the height and wisdom of your elders. Don't always stick to the rules, rely on the old and sell the old, and treat your daughter-in-law as your own daughter. I think all your actions and words will be different. Don't always think about your son being taken away, think about having a caring daughter.

When you are a daughter-in-law, you must have high emotional intelligence and keep a low profile as a junior. Don't always complain, or you can't accept the discipline and nagging of the older generation, or you don't talk about big and small issues and don't know how to respect your elders. It is good to have an old family, and sometimes it is good to be reminded. Don't always think about their bad, but look at their good.

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Being a husband is a bridge between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law For families with mother-in-law problems, please stop playing dumb. On the one hand, your mother loves you the most, on the other hand, your wife loves you the most. I think both of them are willing to take a step back for you and tolerate each other, as long as you can make both of them feel "respect and love" strongly, so as to take into account the identity of a dutiful son and a good husband.