Would you choose to have children?

First, there is no backward concept of raising children and preventing old age in the previous generation, which also weakens the "great" mission of carrying on the family line. We began to reflect on the parent-child relationship in this society from our own feelings, thinking that giving birth to children is a matter that needs to be treated with caution, and we don't want children to grow up in the same environment as before.

Secondly, materially, we are faced with scary housing prices (especially school districts) and high parenting costs (compared with childhood). If you can't even provide a stable growth environment and force a child, then your life will be uncomfortable and it will be difficult for the child to grow up healthily (parents will impose expectations on the child).

Third, in terms of time, the development of the country has gradually slowed down from the rapid changes in the past. At this time, unlike our parents, opportunities are everywhere, and unlike our grandparents, everyone is full of feelings for home and country. We realize our smallness, accept our commonness, and think that we don't have to leave it to future generations. Having children has become a choice in life, not a necessity.

There are several reasons for this:

1 Now with the improvement of material living standards, young people are comparing themselves with others to buy houses and cars. I need a loan to buy a house and a car, so there is not much left after paying off the mortgage or car loan every month, Alexander, so many young people don't want to have children.

In some areas, the high bride price makes many young people afraid to get married. They think that after marriage, they have to pay off their debts and pay off their mortgage or car loan, so they don't have much money left in one month and dare not get married and have children, so their desire to have children is getting lower and lower.

There are also some post-90s people, many of whom are only children. After marriage, two young people have to support their parents or even five or six old people. The economic conditions are not very good, and those who want to support the elderly have to raise small ones. Therefore, there is no desire to have children. In real life, there are also many young people who do things against their parents' wishes regardless of their feelings! Let many adults down!

I've been thinking about this for a long time. I like children very much, but of course I will not rashly bring a child into this world. Just like I yearn for marriage, I never doubt the sanctity of marriage, but I am determined to enter marriage with my lover.

Let's talk about the fear of marriage first. I have seen too many unhappy marriages and found that this thing is nothing like what I imagined at first. My cousins are divorced, including cousins and children. This is something I dare not even think about. A relative one or two years older than me divorced. Besides them, I have met people younger than me, but divorced. My feeling at that time was: What?

A person with a mother's generation told me about the marriage of young people now. She said: It's like a child's play.

Maybe I think clearly and have always been rational, so I won't make such a decision easily. I also met some boys. Although I can understand the imperfection, I will definitely consider it comprehensively. For example, I will never marry a playboy. I will never choose an unrealistic and irresponsible person to marry. I am conservative and firmly support monogamy, so I will definitely not choose an open marriage. These are all things that I will consider after meeting all kinds of people. People are really different. I hope I will be lucky and meet people with the same outlook and the same pursuit.

If I can't find something satisfactory, I will definitely not get married. I would rather be an iron warrior than fall in love and kill each other under the bondage of marriage.

Children are the next question. When a girl becomes a mother, her mind will be bound by the role. I know this. I don't think I'm ready. I don't want to bring my child into this world, but I can't give him a better life because of the problems between my husband and me, and I can't hurt a child. Our generation is particularly keen to discuss the influence of family background. In fact, the problem of family of origin begins with the intimate relationship between husband and wife. Therefore, with these energies, I am willing to go to the theater, travel and earn more money.