The self-report of a "single mother"

"Love comes quickly and spreads quickly."

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I am a single mother with a three-year-old son who has been divorced for three years.

When I got married, I was 3 1 year old, and my ex-husband was 33 years old.

My ex-husband and I got married after knowing each other for five months, belonging to the flash marriage family.

Before him, I also talked about a lot of love, but every time it comes to marriage, it always ends for various inexplicable reasons.

So when I met my ex-husband, I didn't want to talk about every relationship for a long time like before, but it didn't end well in the end.

However, what I didn't expect was that I avoided the previous pit and chose the worst relationship "marriage".

My family is in a village in the city, and I am the only child in my family. In the current parlance, I am the kind of "tearing down the second generation".

The ex-husband comes from the countryside, and his family is average, but he works hard. In those years, he bought a three-bedroom house and a car worth hundreds of thousands by his own efforts, and he was still managing in the company.

We met on a blind date.

My ex-boyfriend and I just broke up. I am three years older than him. We had already met our parents, and he suddenly broke up and said, "Forget it. After all, I am several years older than him. After thinking about it, he still feels that he has a heart. " So we broke up before marriage.

Because of this trouble, I secretly decided not to find someone younger than myself, even for one day.

When I met my ex-husband, I was in a bad state that day and didn't want to talk about unnecessary love, so I kept perfunctory.

I chatted with him one by one and asked him how old he was. After hearing that he was older than me, I agreed to his idea of a second date.

After getting along, my impression of him gradually improved.

So, soon we will live together.

Four months later, I was pregnant.

Thinking about each other feels good, having children, we discuss getting married.

Actually, getting married is also very simple. As long as you decide, book a hotel and invite a wedding company, basically the overall situation has been decided, and the rest is the bride price.

We agreed that in order to have face in front of neighbors and relatives, my ex-husband gave my family a bride price of 654.38+0.3 million and returned it to him after marriage.

However, I never thought that my marriage was finally ruined by the bride price.

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After I got married, I thought about getting married, and I forgot about the bride price.

Actually, I'm too embarrassed to ask my parents about the bride price.

In this way, my ex-husband was very kind to me at first.

However, after that, it got worse and worse. He was always angry with me.

When I was five months pregnant and just married for four months, he said to me, "He found that he just likes me, not loves me."

After that, he stopped losing his temper with me for no reason, but it was the beginning of "cold violence"

Sometimes, if we are all at home on weekends, he can not say a word to me for a day. Even if I deliberately find a lot of words to tell him, he just sends them away most of the time, never saying a word more than 10.

Even though he is getting colder and colder to me, I still think with luck: "After all, I am pregnant with his child. When the child is born in the future, it will be just the three of us. Maybe he will be fine."

However, I forgot "Never expect a person who has changed his mind to change his mind".

What if I have a child?

After giving birth, my mother took care of me.

One day, my mother didn't like my ex-husband's attitude towards me. They quarreled and made a big noise.

So, my mother said to take me home for confinement.

I didn't want my mother to be at my ex-husband's house, take care of me and the children, and suffer from cowardice, so I promised to go home with my mother.

Time flies, and I will be out of the month in another month.

I don't think staying at my parents' house is a long-term solution.

So, I told my parents what I thought, packed my things and prepared to go back to my ex-husband's house.

On that day, I was holding my baby, and my mother helped me with my big bags and small bags. When I returned to my ex-husband's house, I found that the lock on the door could not be opened.

Later, I learned that after I went back to my mother's house, my ex-husband changed the lock of the house.

I think I will never forget the mess of that day.

And I have to admit the fact that my ex-husband kicked me out of the house the next month, and this marriage basically came to an end.

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Later, our divorce procedure went smoothly.

Because, at that time, I just wanted to have nothing to do with such a person, so I promised anything he said.

It was only a year before we got married.

To tell the truth, when I first got divorced, I wanted him dead. After a long time, "hatred" gradually became very weak.

Once, I asked him, "Why did you do that to me? What is the main reason? "

I thought he would say something like "He has no feelings for me". Unexpectedly, he said, "Because 1.3 million bride price money."

At that moment, I felt ironic, and even thought my marriage was a joke.

However, what happened was my own real experience, even if it was a joke, it was also a joke of one person.

Sometimes I often think: If only time could come again. ....