What kind of harm does the frequent "hidden eccentricity" of parents do to children?

In a "wet family", it is easy to find that most brothers and sisters and other children always have a mature age. It seems that they have assumed the responsibility and obligation to educate and protect your brothers and sisters. "My brother is like my father, and my eldest sister is like my mother." They explained this sentence. The reason for this phenomenon is that in their education, older children are exempted from the education of their parents and other elders, and are forced to give up their naivety and innocence and gain age. "You are old, you are young", and the "hidden partiality" of parents will only hurt children. "When you are old, you must be a small one." The 7-year-old daughter didn't let your brother be scolded by her mother. Niu Niu is a seven-year-old girl. When she was four, my mother said to her brother. Since then, her main identity has changed from mother's daughter to my brother's sister. When mom and dad are busy, Niu Niu has been told that he is responsible for taking care of your brother. She had been training her mother at that time. She can help her brother change diapers and feed milk powder.

Now the girl is seven years old and her brother is three years old. Niu Niu has gone into hiding, thinking that my mother treats herself and your brother. Mom cooks chicken soup, the first bowl must be brothers, and the chicken legs and wings are also brothers. After you can't finish eating, the remaining chickens are girls themselves. Once, I took a chicken leg when I was eating a chicken leg. I hit her mother with chopsticks. I blamed her: "You are very old, do you want to know?" I still haven't chosen, you choose! "Chopsticks hurt the back of your hand. Niu Niu couldn't stop crying: "There are chicken legs and wings in the pot. Why do I have to hit them!" "! You are an eccentric brother! "Niu Niu didn't want to eat rice, so she ran back to her room. Wow, cry. While mother, father and mother were eating in the living room, instead of comforting her, they continued to eat on the table and said, "Let her cry. Both of them are big children, things they don't understand! " Is this really a girl? In fact, Niu Niu's parents are obviously eccentric, but they haven't realized that there is no need to use the moral joke of "controlling the small with the big" to make Niu Niu give up her own interests. This "invisible quirk" will only hurt children.

In a "wet family", many parents use "you are old enough, you should let your brothers and sisters know" to let your older children know about it and divide themselves and responsibilities. In order to be a good boy, a good sister of a brother and sister, a good brother, they gave their rights and humor to your brother and sister. Otherwise, he will become the "supercilious look" of his parents, and he doesn't know how to understand how to work hard and how to help his brothers and sisters share the pressure. Research shows that the color of a happy life comes from parents' "fear". Once developed, it is easy to be cautious and thoughtful, which is very important and I like it very much. Not respected by brothers and sisters. From the child's point of view, if a child teaches his brothers and sisters' children, it may make his sister intransigent and make her competition and sacrifice not respected by them.

Children who grow up in this environment will be deeply hurt in their self-esteem. I gave myself and sacrificed so much, but it became a problem in their eyes, cold. Educated children who don't take the initiative to fight for their own interests "let your brothers and sisters". When they face their own interests, their first reaction is not to take the initiative, but to see who else is fighting for it around you. If they do, they will usually consciously give up their own interests and are unwilling to compete with them. This kind of behavior will make children miss many opportunities. Level your child with a bowl of water. He was born in a "single-parent family" and was destined to have the love of his parents before giving it to other children. This kind of parent is a bowl of water in the child's bowl. You can't be partial, let alone ignore a child. Otherwise, regardless of eccentric children, it will lead to irreparable psychological damage. Children's Harmonious Family Environment As a "single-channel family", it is very important to create a harmonious family environment for children. Only in your heart can you have love and know how to respect and humble each other. They can get along and grow together.