Is there any kind of mother-in-law who is so cruel because she is sure that you are too timid to divorce? What happened next?

The evil mother-in-law is a vegetable watcher.

Under normal circumstances, the first time she bullied you was "testing". The first time you resisted, she was afraid to do it again. But if it's the first time, she will see that you are a peacemaker and dare not divorce. Then, she will seize your rights and bully you even more.

These words are not my summary. But a woman's history of blood and tears. I have to admit that when a woman just married a man, she was very ignorant of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Most of them have a very good heart for their mother-in-law because they love this man. Sometimes, her mother-in-law bullies her, and she doesn't even think it's bullying. It took a long time to realize that I was bullied by my mother-in-law.

But once they understand, some women will completely become enemies with their mother-in-law. If her mother-in-law bullies her again, she can't bear it. Even if some mother-in-law and daughter-in-law make peace, those strong-willed daughters-in-law will not choose to forgive, and it is good to be far away from each other.

However, some women, after understanding their mother-in-law's bullying, will still choose to submit in order to take care of the overall situation and maintain the balance of marriage. However, such a "grievance" of taking the overall situation into account often leads to a better relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but instead drives herself to a dead end.

When she got married, her husband's family gave her three gold coins. But her mother-in-law insisted that they were not interested in it. She bought it and didn't want it. What she doesn't know is that her mother-in-law did it to test.

If she has a problem with this matter, her mother-in-law will give it to her. Because my mother-in-law did the same to her first daughter-in-law. But the first daughter-in-law is a local. Her daughter-in-law told her directly: "Who are you kidding? I come from this place. You told me that giving three gold is not popular. If you can't afford it, you can't afford it What happened to cheating? "

Then, the mother-in-law was timid and obediently bought three gold coins from her eldest daughter-in-law.

Of course, these things were not known until she got married. It is understandable that we didn't give gifts to the bride according to the custom in our hometown because of the poor conditions at home. However, cheating is too insincere.

She didn't get three gold medals when she got married, because she didn't get three gold medals. My mother-in-law adopted the principle of saving money for all her weddings, telling her that there can only be five people in their family at most, because there is no place to entertain guests at home. She said the hotel could be booked, but her mother-in-law said she couldn't book it now. They were all booked in advance.

Then, although she was sad, she believed it again. So, when she got married, only her parents and brother came. Plus her four people.

She was going to let her parents drive over, and then the man came to pick them up. However, her mother-in-law said, "Let your parents rent a car, and the family will drive your daughter's face."

So his parents and brother rented a car to attend her wedding.

On the man's side, there are no parents who receive her. Mother-in-law explained that with so many things to get married, she is already a member of her own family, so there is no need to say hello. Because of this, her parents didn't even have enough to eat at the man's house, and her parents' brother went back the next day. Her mother cried and asked her to go with her, thinking that her husband's family bullied foreigners.

However, she refused, insisting that this is the custom here.

After getting married, she and her husband worked outside. When she came home for the New Year, her mother-in-law called her and asked her to buy more things. There are old people and children at home. If she doesn't buy anything when she comes back from other places, she will be laughed at.

So she bought a few hundred dollars. And tell her mother-in-law, let her mother-in-law ventilate the house she hasn't lived in for half a year and bask in bask in the quilt.

But when she came back, her mother-in-law smiled. However, the house was not cleaned at all. When she went in, the house was full of bugs. So she washed herself until midnight before going to bed. Mother-in-law's explanation for this matter is: "I have forgotten this matter for a long time."

She accepted this "unkindness" from her mother-in-law again and again. And she didn't think it was a big disrespect at the time. Of course, these things in the eyes of others, she is a real fool, easy to bully.

She gave birth to two children and sat for two months, but her mother-in-law didn't care for a day. On the third day after she gave birth, her mother-in-law brought a bottle of medicine and said that she was taking medicine now and could not take care of her.

She believed it again.

Mother-in-law may have bullied her, so we should find some reasons before. In the end, I simply don't look for reasons, that is, I don't help you, that is, I don't care about you, and you will suffer. Anyway, you are 45 years old and have two children. You dare not divorce my son. Even if I divorce my son, I can't find anything better.

So, every year they work outside for a year and return to their husband's house. Mother-in-law can't cook, let alone help clean the room. When she says a word, her mother-in-law dares to say and scold. If her parents come, her mother-in-law won't even look. Anyway, I don't watch it. You don't even dare to get divorced.

During this period, the woman's family only came three times, but she was advised to divorce each time. But women think that mother-in-law is not good, as long as men can live.

What really broke her down was the man's attitude.

The two children moved back to their hometown when they were older. She has many conflicts with her mother-in-law, and men never participate. She has accumulated grievances for so many years and understands that her mother-in-law bullied her. The more she thought about it, the angrier she got, so she went back to her parents' house.

She wants to go back for a while, and the man will call her. However, men are suppressed by their mothers and are not allowed to make phone calls. The man said to her, "My mother won't let me go, and I dare not. Come back by yourself. "

If she doesn't go back, the man won't call. Finally, the man said to her, "I won't call you if you don't come back all your life." Son, my mother took it. Anyway, now that I have grown up, I can earn enough money for my mother to raise her children. "

An arrow pierced the heart.

The woman cried at home for several days, but the man didn't call her. Son, she can't call everywhere, either go back by herself or stay at her parents' house all the time. Anyway, her husband's family has made up their minds and will never bow to her.

She came over and asked me whether I should get a divorce or go back and continue.

I don't know why, but I feel very sad when she asks me this question. I remembered a mother-in-law who bullied her daughter-in-law in our village: "Divorce is divorce. We are not afraid of your divorce. The RV is ours, and the baby is ours. It's all the same with or without you. "

There is such an evil mother-in-law and such a husband who listens to his mother. When she goes back, she will only continue this wronged day. However, if you don't go back to divorce, you have to face the reality. 45 years old, with two children, it's really hard to marry. If you don't get married and raise your own children, you can't afford it at all. I have paid for that family for so many years, so I left, unwilling.

dilemma

Nothing is more conducive to her ending.

Because she should have stopped her mother-in-law from bullying her for the first time. Because it is not only her mother-in-law but also men who cheat her. Because there is no stop loss, you can't bear the consequences by investing more step by step.

I don't advise her to divorce, because her personality may not get better after divorce. She is the kind of woman who takes men and family as everything. But let me persuade her to go back, I think it is too difficult to go back, so I can only persuade her to follow her heart.

Probably, she will still go back, thinking that she has paid too much to get it back.

But I suggested to her: when you go back, you have a little sense of being the hostess. You are the hostess at home, so you should make your own decisions. Mother-in-law bullies you, disobeys you, and can resist without divorce. For men, don't be silly, love yourself more and think more for yourself.

Many people will say, what's the point of such a marriage?

There's no point.

But you should know that some women don't want to come out even if their marriage is miserable. Since she chose it herself, she must bear it herself. I only hope that more women will dare to resist when they are bullied for the first time.

Grandma, you give me respect and I'll give you respect.

You let me be bullied, I will never accept it.