Should children fight when they run away from home?

Should children fight when they run away from home?

Should children run away from home and fight? Many children left home without saying a word. We must ensure the safety of children. When you get home, you must understand why your child ran away from home and find out why. Should children run away from home and fight?

Should children call 1 when they run away from home? Don't call children under 3 years old.

The 3-year-old child is in the game stage and has a strong sense of autonomy. At the same time, their conscience and moral sense have also developed, while children before the age of 3 have not yet appeared or have just developed. Even if some children are too naughty, the time of corporal punishment can only be advanced to 1.5 years old, and infants under 1.5 years old must never be corporal punishment. At this stage, corporal punishment of children will affect their normal physiological and psychological reactions, leading to their unhealthy body and mind.

Play as little as possible after 6 years old, and children after 12 can't play.

Generally speaking, corporal punishment should be reduced as much as possible after children are 6 years old, and it should be completely stopped when they are 12 years old. After the age of 6, most children have entered school, and their sense of independence has developed well, and their self-esteem is getting stronger and stronger. At this time, corporal punishment is easy to hurt the child's self-esteem, make him lose the successful experience necessary for growth, affect the healthy development of personality, and form a negative and inferior personality; Moreover, corporal punishment was carried out during this period, and children can clearly remember the corporal punishment of their parents, which cast a shadow on their hearts.

After entering adolescence, children strongly feel that they are an independent and unique individual, and have strong requirements for knowing themselves, expressing themselves and publicizing themselves. If the child is physically punished at this time, he will feel that this is a serious violation of his personality and has a strong resistance. Some children may even have some revenge and resistance.

Special reminder: parents should pay attention to their children.

Although in some cases, you can hit your child, but it doesn't go to the other extreme: hit your child cruelly and maltreatly, or hit him unconsciously, no matter where you grab him, whether it's his head or his face.

1, be reasonable and tell your child what to do next time.

Parents should tell their children why they hit them when they hit them. Beating people can only prevent the wrong behavior from happening again, but it can't bring the right behavior by itself. Only by letting children understand their mistakes and the harm they have caused will they not make them again.

2. Don't beat children in front of outsiders.

Although children are small, they have their own face, especially in front of friends. He doesn't want to fall behind. Once others know that they have been beaten, older children may think it is a great shame like adults.

Should children run away from home? Why do some children run away from home as soon as they beat and scold? Parents should pay attention to these three points when disciplining their children.

There are actually two reasons for this: external and internal.

1, external cause: family environment

Every child is different, and so are every pair of parents. There are two kinds of parents, and it is easy for children to run away from home when they scold.

One is impatient parents, and even domestic violence. Husband and wife often quarrel. After quarreling, the wife runs back to her parents' house or runs away from home. Such a family environment is indifferent and unloving, and children will imitate this behavior intentionally or unintentionally, and may leave after scolding, trying to get rid of and escape.

There is also a kind of parents who love their children too much and satisfy their requirements without principles; Unbounded tolerance for children's mistakes.

Children who grow up in such a family can easily blackmail their parents by running away from home to achieve their own goals.

2. Internal cause: personality.

Some children have a big heart and strong ability to resist setbacks. Being beaten and scolded by their parents, they naturally won't take it to heart.

I remember when I was a child, after being beaten by my mother, when it was time to eat, as long as my mother said, "Don't come to dinner soon," I would end up with my rice bowl, and that kind of beating and cursing had long been forgotten.

Another kind of children, even blx with strong self-esteem, feel that their parents don't love them, and even think that they may not be their own. The more they think about it, the more angry they get, and they dare to run away from home with their schoolbags on their backs.

Such personality differences have natural parts, which are determined by genetic factors; Most of them are cultivated in the growing environment, so the above external and internal factors are often interdependent and have the same influence.

When educating children, it is definitely wrong to beat and scold at every turn.

Children who are often beaten and scolded will develop extreme personalities;

Either timid, afraid of making mistakes, but Nuo Nuo is the only one who dares to try, so it is difficult for such children to shine when they grow up; Either the heart is full of hatred, it is difficult to see the goodness and beauty in the world, and I like to solve problems in this rude way.

When such children grow up, their interpersonal relationships are tense and they may even commit crimes.

You can beat and scold blindly, which will spoil your child, especially when you make serious mistakes. Proper beating and cursing can make children feel awe and know that such things can't happen again.

Li Meijin, a professor of psychology, once expressed his views when he was on the guest show "The Round Table School":

In the process of human growth, he must form something, that is, in addition to love, there is respect and fear. We sometimes say that punishment is actually a kind of protection for a child who breaks the law, so that he can know that he is afraid and really regret it, and he will never dare again.

By the same token, it is impossible for children to beat and scold at all when they are growing up. However, beating and cursing is always a means, not an end. The real purpose is deterrence and education.

Should children be disciplined when they run away from home? What should be done to be more effective?

1, set the rules first and then beat and scold.

There is a saying "I'll tell you the truth first".

When educating children, it is very important to set rules and tell them clearly what not to do. If there is, it will be severely criticized or punished, so that children can understand their parents' bottom line and standards.

Once a mistake is beaten and scolded, the child's first reaction will be to benchmark and know that he has done something wrong, which leads to such a result. I will not easily have the extreme idea that "my parents don't love themselves", and naturally I will not do such a serious thing as running away from home.

2. Pay attention to the ways and means of snoring.

When you can't help disciplining children, you must tell the truth and focus on the problem.

In the process of beating and cursing, we should emphasize the seriousness of mistakes and the consequences of recidivism with our children, and don't turn over old scores and turn out the mistakes made by our children. Don't make personal attacks, saying "I raised you for nothing" and "You really let us down" is sad but meaningless. This will only push the child further.

You don't have to hit a child like that. Parents should learn that "high is not enough, low is not enough", that is, much cry and little rain, so that children know that hitting people is a means of parent education. Without constant pain and injury, children naturally won't hold grudges.

The famous host Tao talked about his father's practice, which is worth learning: toss and turn for a long time, plop, come here, but in fact he really hit you, but he didn't hit you.

Don't forget to accept and care after snoring.

Beating and cursing is not the purpose, the most important thing is the way to deal with it after beating and cursing.

After the child calms down a little, you can give the child a big hug first, admit that "no one is perfect" and accept the fact that the child has made a mistake. At the same time, give an opportunity to explain and then put forward suggestions for correction.

When the child has realized the mistake, stop where it should be, and close it when it is good. Don't chatter.

Finally, remember to tell your child firmly with a smile that your love for him will never change.

Generally speaking, educating children is a delicate job.

Patience is necessary. We should talk to children equally, give them opportunities to express themselves, and consider the problem from their perspective.

Let children feel respect and love, and give them enough sense of security and trust to raise a happy and sensible child.