Why do people always want your life to be bad, especially their relatives? What kind of psychology is this?

Why do people always want your life to be bad, especially their relatives? What kind of psychology is this? If you ask me, is this a kind of? Angry people, laughing at people? Psychology.

In fact, the reason is very simple. What are the reasons for the comparison and even mutual contempt between these relatives? Foreign population? . I said this? Foreign population? Well, that's the family members who joined later, sister-in-law, brother-in-law, aunt, brother-in-law. Because in this big family, only one of them is husband and wife, and the others are their imaginary enemies. In other words, competitors. Don't think what I said is serious. If there is a problem with inheritance, these people will be the first to jump out.

So the influence of these people on their other half, or who is dominant between two people. It determines whether the family conflict is big or not! How can you say that? Do you think that if he (she) always says that relatives are not good, and if the other half is influenced by him (her), he (she) will gradually have this idea? Then you say, can there be no barriers between the feelings of such relatives?

Let's take brother and sister as examples. Between brother and sister, one will have a good life and the other will have a bad life. Then, for example, my sister's family is very difficult, and the old man will definitely do everything possible to help her family. Then at this time, if my brother is immune to my sister-in-law's influence, he will help my sister as a normal brother. But if the sister-in-law has a great influence on her brother, she first looks down on her sister, and then thinks that her sister knows nothing and everything is delicious. Plus seeing old people take care of them. This means contempt, jealousy and hatred. Do you think the relationship between the brother and sister can be normal?

So if we are on the inferior side, will we be run for a long time? Of course not. So if you ask, will there be family conflicts? Is it necessary to fight, split and die of old age? Of course it's not that serious. Let me give you an idea. what do you think?

For example, my sister-in-law always runs away from your job, and your income is too low. I can't save money at all. What are you waiting for if you are not poor? You can say that, sister-in-law. Why don't you help me find a job? I don't have any skills and I don't know anyone with skills. The most capable person I know is sister-in-law you. I'm also trying to change my job. When can you help me find a new job? This is tantamount to kicking a ball in front of her. When it comes to specific things, she won't dare to mention this topic easily, because she must do specific things for you then!

For example, if the elderly have real estate, you can say that legally speaking, the daughter has the right to inherit. Although China people pay attention to the family line rather than the family line. But if I want to divide it, the law supports it. The implication is that after a hundred years, my parents will see what I think. I want to share the property, but I don't want to, so there is no such thing. Now that you mention it, it is estimated that your sister-in-law will be much more honest, because she knows that if you are provoked again, she will bleed.

For example, although we don't make much money, our family can live in harmony. Whether it's your husband or your children. We are all on good terms. The more I go to my parents' house, the more I want them to look at happiness. Never quarrel at home, never show difficulties at home. What children have a bad school, a bad job and a bad target? Let's try not to say these things. What are they doing listening to gloating? The more they want to see our jokes, the more we want them to see our happiness.

To sum up: in the final analysis, you still have to live your own life.

If our own life is happy, no one can say anything. We are not afraid to walk between relatives. Everyone will have an opinion about their relatives, and we will also have a kind of psychology about the relatives who are not doing well, that is, looking at them and being glad that we are doing well. But the next attitude is the standard to evaluate a person's quality. Is to meet people who are not as good as themselves, encourage them more and try to help them. This is the proper relationship and attitude of relatives, right?