Don't be kind to those who have hurt you. Do you agree with this sentence? Why?

I don't entirely agree with this statement, but it depends.

Take myself for example!

Among my brothers and sisters, one brother is not satisfied with my kindness to him and always speaks ill of me with other compatriots. I am very painful after listening to it. I already care about this brother, but I'm not satisfied? I really can't say anything. I was very sad during that time. But think of us as fellow suckers. Think of him as my big brother when I was a child. He used to take care of our little brother and sister, especially when my parents died young at school. It is this brother who is busy with my studies. I can't forget my roots. I don't care what's in front of me. Maybe my brother misunderstood me.

So I pretended not to know my brother's previous behavior. On the contrary, it is better for him. When he was in trouble, I was the first person to rush to help him. When you go back to your mother's house, go to his house first, buy him more gifts ... be more friendly to him. Slowly, my brother's attitude towards me changed, and now we get along well. My brother told me everything, let me give advice and take me as the backbone. This brother is more scheming and selfish. Other brothers and sisters are also dissatisfied with him, so I often advise them to unite. After all, not an outsider. It's okay for a family to suffer a little. It is important to be harmonious at home and not to be bullied by outsiders. Qi Xin asked Qi Xin to work together to carry forward the family spirit and not let outsiders laugh.

Back to the question, if kindness can change the person who hurts you, it is feasible. This is much better than turning against each other. Harmony and unity are the best spirit of our nation, and we will pass it on. So this question depends on the situation. When you are hurt, you should be calm. Impulse is the devil, what is the reason? Think more about each other's past benefits and consider the overall situation. Maybe everything will work out.

I wonder what the questioner is like. Since you have asked a question, you may be hesitant, so it depends. The way to heal wounds is tolerance, generosity and letting bygones be bygones ... Maybe your actions can influence each other, after all, many friends have many ways. Isn't it? Whether it is family or ordinary people.

The above is my answer, I wonder if it is in line with the questioner's situation. For reference only, I hope it helps.

It's time for resentment and resentment!

I don't agree. This is my answer. Why? When is the time for revenge? Tolerance is an attitude and wisdom. First, if you choose tolerance if you hurt you, the person who hurts you will feel guilty, if he is still a person with conscience. So he'll be grateful in the future and get over it slowly? Second, if a person who hurts you has no conscience, then you can stay away. The so-called gentleman stays away from the villain, which is the truth.

Agreeing to be kind to those who have hurt you is cruel to yourself.

I used a real event to explain why I agreed: in the summer vacation of 20 1 1, my sister passed the undergraduate college entrance examination that year, and prepared to put college wine at home, and the old people at home were very happy.

Unfortunately, just three days before the wine delivery, Liu Ye was killed by a motorcycle on his way to the fair, and the perpetrators escaped.

It took us three days to find his house because of a witness. When we went to his house, the man had escaped. We send two people to wait at his door every day. Maybe someone tipped him off and he never came back. Later, there was nothing we could do, so we asked people in his village to help us look at it. If he comes back, we will be informed immediately.

A week later, people in his village informed us that he was back and I could block him at home immediately. It was a middle-aged man of about 50 years old with a little disability in his right leg. His family has been begging us to forgive him, saying that they are not easy and life is particularly hard. Because their right foot was disabled, they didn't step on the brakes, which was not intentional. Ask if we can pay 2000 yuan? We were really speechless at that time. Why do you ride a motorcycle when you know your feet are inconvenient? If you don't ride a motorcycle, why do you ride so fast? Didn't look at the road again? )

"Well, there are four of you. I'll give you ten thousand dollars directly and kill all four of you. What do you think? " These are my cousin's exact words.

I really find this kind of person funny. You hit and run, and people are still gone. This is a living life, and you still have the face to let us solve it. Finally, we sent the man directly to the public security bureau, and the law decided how to deal with it.

There is really no need to be nice to people who have hurt you.

For the general injury in life, I will wave my hand in good faith and let it go. I won't miss it. I will never let go of those who deliberately slander my personality and destroy my humanity. This is my creed.

Basically agree. I can forgive you for an unintentional injury, but if you push your luck again, I will never show mercy.

First, persuading others to be generous is an accomplice.

From a bystander's point of view, you tell people to learn to be tolerant. Do you know the situation? Do you understand human suffering? Have you ever thought about it from someone else's point of view?

If not, please put away your "kind" face. Your suggestion is equivalent to hurting the victim again. It's like someone throwing a stone at you and another person advising you that it's not that person's fault, it's the stone's fault. Anyway, it's no big deal for you. Be tolerant and don't affect your feelings in the future.

He threw a stone at me, so I didn't stop him from throwing it again? Still considering connecting feelings?

Second, no mercy is not a matter of revenge.

Some people say that it is an attitude of revenge to be unkind to those who have hurt themselves. I don't think so.

Chipa said that in one of the closing debates, Xu talked about the topic of "forgiveness".

Ma Dong said: "As time goes by, we will eventually forgive those who have hurt me."

Cai Kangyong said, "That's not forgiveness, that's forgetting."

If you keep bumping into guns, I can only say that you asked for it.

Third, compassion has a bottom line.

Just as kindness needs a sharp edge, compassion needs a bottom line.

If the injury can disappear with my compassion, I will choose not to pursue it. If my tolerance and compassion become a weapon for you to do the same thing again, then I must take self-protection measures.

My unkindness is based on your bad kindness.

If you leave me alone, I won't hurt you. In "The Queen of the Palace", from kindness and innocence to blood on both hands, the Zhen Xuan faction fought back to protect themselves and never hurt anyone, which is their will to annoy the audience even if they killed many people.

I will treat you as you treat me. If you don't be kind to me first, I will return this unkindness to you.

There will be right and wrong in children's world, but there is no absolute right and wrong in adults' world.

Everything has a cause and effect. You think his behavior is wrong, but there must be sufficient reasons to make him feel right. And it may make sense!

Therefore, as other people except the parties, we have not experienced what you have experienced, do not understand the degree of harm caused by the incident, and even do not know why it started! What's your comment?

Therefore, no one can give you advice that suits your heart, because only you can deeply understand the degree of injury, or you are different from others, and only you know it. And this kind of injury can make you let go, or forgive each other, or even forget the past! Only you can give the answer.

Everyone is different, and everyone feels different about the same thing, so the conclusion is different! Others give only reference, the choice is yours!

That makes sense. The sage said so.

The Analects of Confucius asks: "Or:' How about good for evil?' Confucius said,' How can I repay you? Deal with complaints directly and repay kindness with kindness. "

How about treating people who have hurt you with a better moral attitude? Confucius said, if so, how can you repay those who are good to you and good to you? You should treat the wrong person honestly and objectively, and repay the good person with gratitude and action.

(Confucius statue)

Besides, I don't agree that complaining is good for Germany. He asked again, "Is good for bad?" You are kind to dissatisfied people, so how do you treat people who are kind to you?

The sages warned us that kindness is our precious feeling and should not be abused cheaply. To treat people who have hurt themselves unreasonably, we should face up to them, put facts and be reasonable.

Treat the person who has hurt you, you can be "tolerant" in your heart-don't take it to heart, don't forget, so as to cultivate your magnanimity, but treat this person, there is no need to forgive, just do what you should do.

How to repay evil with good, except emotional injury.

Tolerance is an attitude. I don't agree with the view that "vengeance will be mine". The brilliance of the sun and the moon is equal to everyone. Although I am not as great as them, I can still be tolerant in the face of previous injuries.