How should a gentleman refute the gossip of others?

People usually make irresponsible remarks in front of me, and I won't say anything without asking me. After asking me, I just objectively reflected what I saw (don't speak ill of others behind their backs, gossip will soon spread to the parties). To refute, in fact, it is generally ignored the gossip of others. There is no point in gossiping. I think the untrue aspects can be pointed out, and the rest should not be said.

In the face of gossip and misunderstanding, I can give you three suggestions:

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First,? Don't deny or fight back immediately, the more effective way is to accept and ridicule yourself.

You can punish yourself in a more exaggerated way, so that others will think that you have solved the embarrassment and even washed you white.

Take Xiaoke as an example. People generally don't take the initiative to mention her affair in front of her, but she can occasionally chat with her colleagues: "I am also distressed to hear that some people say that my beauty is better than other people's mistresses. Obviously, you can rely on beauty, but you can only work hard by talent, alas. "

Many people will naturally think of her excellent work ability, not just her beauty.

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Second, you should make a preliminary judgment. Does your misunderstanding affect your daily cooperation with your colleagues?

If there is, it should be pointed out directly, immediately dispel concerns and seriously correct them.

Xiaokang is a group purchase and faces many suppliers every day. There is an unwritten rule to buy this position, that is, there will be some gray income or expensive gifts. So, how does a well-off society generally do it?

He will take the initiative to mention it after each bidding demonstration or before starting cooperation, saying, "Hey, I know that everyone has some established habits, but my company and I don't want this. Just come in the right way, compare strength, and don't go through the back door. "

At this time, the other person's career has been pointed out by you, at least you can finish the work normally, and in the final result, you can also establish a positive image of yourself and the company to cover up the original misunderstanding.

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Third, in the face of gossip and misunderstanding, what we have to do is to take the initiative to avoid it every day and take precautions beforehand.

That is to say, take the initiative to do one more step and reduce the space for misunderstanding by others.

If some parts and occasions in your work are really easy to arouse others' association, you'd better take the initiative to do more to reduce the chance of such misunderstanding.

For example, in Xiaoke, being young and beautiful is a natural resource, but it can't be a drag on the workplace, which makes others think that women, especially beautiful women, are vases in the workplace, so that there will be peach scandals.

So what do you do every day?

For example, if you enter the office of a director, don't habitually close the door. Opening the door to talk about things will not affect the work of outsiders. Leave the door open consciously so that all passers-by can see it at a glance.

In this way, misunderstandings such as informing on you, giving gifts through the back door, and even having sex scandals can be properly avoided.

For another example, don't have too many personal relationships with male colleagues, or pay attention to your words and deeds in the workplace, and don't have any physical contact or "humor" when the other party makes frivolous remarks.