It's better to do it than to say yes! Children ask, "Can I play with my mobile phone?" Parents please answer this question-

"Can I play with my mobile phone?"

When children ask this question,

How do parents and friends answer

A

"Then play for a while."

B

"Shall we go out to play?"

In the face of children's requests to play mobile phones,

different responses given by different parents

may have completely different effects on children's behavior habits

A

"Then play for a while."

Many parents don't have time to accompany their children because they need to work. Without their parents' company, mobile phones become their spiritual sustenance.

Electronic products such as mobile phones have radiation, and long-term use will do harm to human body, especially to eyes. Once children use mobile phones for more than one hour every day, the risk of myopia will increase. Not only that, if children get into the habit of playing mobile phones at home during holidays, it will be difficult to focus on their studies.

Therefore, in the face of a child's request to play with a mobile phone, if parents are soft-hearted and agree for a while without restraint, it will not only lead to myopia of the child, but also lead to a decline in the child's grades and affect the future.

B

"Shall we go out to play?"

Sometimes children want to play with their mobile phones because they feel lonely and bored, or watching people around them play will make them feel like following the trend. If at this time, someone proposes to accompany the child to play, the child will feel that he has received attention, and his attention will shift from "wanting to play with the mobile phone" to "having someone to accompany him".

Parents should respond in time, keep their children away from mobile phones and take them out for a walk, which can not only prevent their children from becoming addicted to playing mobile phones, but also broaden their horizons. Children who grow up in this environment will also broaden their horizons.

So what should parents do

to make their children use their mobile phones reasonably

In fact, it's not enough to just block them

It's the best policy to turn blocking into dredging

The following four measures, parents might as well try

1 to add "negative effects" to their mobile phones

What if the mobile phones are not so interesting? What if playing mobile phone becomes a kind of homework? When children psychologically think that "playing mobile phone = doing homework", naturally they will not find playing mobile phone interesting.

2 Use with children

Some studies have pointed out that when using electronic products, parents' high-quality companionship and communication, coupled with proper time management, can effectively avoid children's addiction to electronic products. Therefore, parents and friends can play their role in choosing games or programs with beautiful picture quality, healthy plot and life or scientific knowledge for their children. Watch and discuss with children and guide them to divergent thinking.

3 Three Chapters of Making an Agreement with Children

Practice has proved that the prior agreement is more effective and easier to implement than the punishment afterwards. Parents and friends can make three chapters of making an agreement with their children: you can play games, but you must agree on the time and rules. Once you violate it, you will be liable for breach of contract. After the agreement, parents need to do:

clearly point out the behavior that children need to improve

The goal should be specific, clear and easy to measure, such as "playing mobile phones for no more than one hour a day, and playing mobile phones must be done after finishing homework", and clearly explain what children can get by completing the agreement and what they will lose by not completing the agreement. In this process, you should say "yes" and say "no" less, for example, "If you complete the agreement, you can go to a movie".

The agreement should be written and posted in a conspicuous place at home

When the child has completed the agreement, even if it is a phased agreement, he should be encouraged in time; When the child fails to complete the agreement, the liability for breach of contract that needs to be borne must also be borne absolutely. If the liability for breach of contract is not pursued, the agreement will have no binding force at all.

Pay attention to the word "agreement"

In the process of reaching an agreement, we should try our best to absorb children's opinions, and never turn "agreement" into a unilateral "command" by parents. At any time, if family education wants to achieve real success, it must be based on unconditional love, respect and trust for children.

4 Enrich children's holiday life

Parents should spend as much time with their children as possible, reading, playing manual games or going out for sports together. On weekends, take children to the suburbs to get close to nature and replace electronic products with parent-child activities.

If it is not convenient to spend time with children, we can also prepare some toys for children to play in groups and encourage them to invite other children to play together, which can not only dilute children's dependence on electronic products, but also exercise their social skills and cultivate their sense of cooperation.

About the problem of cell phone addiction

A 12-year-old child has designed a plan to prevent cell phone addiction through mind mapping

Parents and friends can recommend it to the child

Work out a suitable plan with the child

In fact, in this semester that has ended, in order to actively promote the "double reduction" work and protect students' eyesight, To fully implement the spirit of the Notice of the General Office of the Ministry of Education on Strengthening the Management of Mobile Phones for Primary and Secondary School Students, many schools have carried out specific publicity and education and electronic product management work in light of the actual situation-

The dormitory of No.11 Middle School is equipped with a storage box and a charging box for mobile phones. At night, the storage box is full of all kinds of mobile phones, while the owners of mobile phones study quietly in the room.

In addition, the boarding teacher has formulated a system of "deducting points", and students will be punished with "deducting points" if they talk or play mobile phones during the evening self-study hours.

The primary school attached to Beijing Medical University

has formulated the "Instructions on the Management and Preservation of Students' Electronic Products in Campus", calling on students not to bring electronic products such as mobile phones, telephone watches and tablet computers into campus. If it is really necessary to bring electronic products such as mobile phones and telephone watches into campus, parents must agree and submit a written application to explain the situation and keep them in a unified way after entering the school. Strict implementation of electronic products such as students' mobile phones shall not be brought into the classroom.

in order to ensure the implementation of mobile phone management, the school has established a unified storage system for students' mobile phones on campus. In case of emergency, students and parents can get in touch through the class teacher or the school office phone. The two campuses of the school set up a "safe deposit box for electronic equipment", where students set their own passwords, store them when they enter the school, and unlock them when they leave school, so as to ensure that no teacher or student can touch or flip the electronic products while they are in school, thus protecting students' personal privacy.

publicize the dangers of students' excessive use of electronic products through campus radio and exhibition boards, and publicize the slogan prohibiting students from bringing mobile phones into school through electronic screens to create a good campus public opinion atmosphere.

The psychological teacher of the Northern New District Experimental School

led the students to analyze the psychological needs of relying on mobile phones, the functions, advantages and disadvantages of mobile phones, and the adverse consequences of relying on mobile phones. And sum up how to do a good job in mobile phone management-

relying on mobile phones to meet psychological needs

1. gaining a sense of accomplishment and value

2. gaining autonomy and control

3. maintaining interpersonal relationships

4. gaining psychological nutrition

5. gaining the courage to try and frustrate

6. channels to vent emotions

advantages and disadvantages of mobile phones. Promote social progress and development; Rich information, many access channels and wide coverage; Enriched entertainment and leisure life.

Disadvantages: The quality of information covered is mixed; Easy to make people dependent; Improper use will reduce the quality of study and life and be harmful to physical and mental health.

Adverse consequences of relying on mobile phones

1. Distraction

2. Impacting sleep, memory and concentration

3. Delaying learning progress and efficiency

4. Reducing the ability of real social interpersonal communication

5. Impacting emotional stability and bringing mental stress

6. Impacting physical health. Such as eyesight, spine, etc.

How to manage mobile phones

1. Control the time of using entertainment and leisure applications

2. Distinguish the information and channels that are suitable for you to obtain

3. Purify your network interpersonal communication space

4. Make rational use of mobile phone applications that improve learning efficiency

5. Improve self-control and restrain your behavior

6. Such as parents, teachers, Friends, etc.

7. Establish a self-monitoring mode

I hope that parents and friends can spend more time with their children this winter vacation

Help students become masters of mobile phones

Make rational use of the benefits brought by mobile phones

Establish a self-disciplined behavior mode

Don't wear glasses at the beginning of school

p.s. Finally, remind everyone

Tencent. The game announced the time limit for minors to play during the winter vacation and the Spring Festival holiday in 222

14 hours at most

Parents and children should make an appointment.