What should parents do in the future when the only child family and daughter get married?

What should parents do in the future when the only child family and daughter get married?

I am born after 60, and the implementation of family planning in Northeast China is relatively in place. The proportion of only children in cities is around 99%. I only have an only child. She's not married, so I'm not worried about her.

With the development of society, people's concept of providing for the aged keeps pace with the times. In the past, the mode of "raising children to prevent old age" and raising daughters to support the elderly has long since become a thing of the past. Boys and girls are the same.

As an old man, although he has raised children, the concept of expecting children to provide for the elderly has long changed. At present, the pension for the elderly in the one-child family has the following ways:

First, the old people on both sides live together and are supported by each other.

Husband's comrades-in-arms bought his daughter a house of more than 400 square meters and prepared to support the elderly together.

Second, the daughter marries far away and provides for the aged in the same city.

The classmate's daughter works in Dalian, and the old couple also bought a house in their daughter's community, front and back buildings. My colleague, my husband's comrade-in-arms, and my daughter are in Changchun, Shenyang, Tianjin and Shenzhen. After the job is stable, she will buy a house for her daughter in advance.

My cousin's daughter is in Wuhan and bought a house for her mother. ...

Third, the daughter of the city should provide for the elderly.

One-child families in the same city, because we don't prefer boys to girls and don't want bride price, there are many people accompanying cars and houses. Children are better for their parents-in-law.

My colleague's daughter got married, and the two families went to their children's house for the New Year. One day at the weekend. She also often travels with her parents.

Under normal circumstances, the parents of the only child will not interfere in their children's lives. They can act on their own and don't like going to nursing homes.

Fourth, support the elderly and take care of each other.

I know a friend of an elderly group. He has four sisters and his wife has left. Last year, they traveled to Guizhou together. They often travel together at home and abroad. In order not to let my daughter celebrate the New Year, I have to worry about who will celebrate the New Year. They first went to Xiamen in June, but they couldn't rent a house in Weihai, so they rented it for half a year to spend the New Year there. You can't go to a nursing home

Fifth, home-based care for the elderly

Many families adopt the way of caring for the elderly at home. When the elderly don't want to cook, they will hire nannies, hourly workers and care workers.

No matter which way of providing for the aged, you must first have a large reserve. This is also the advantage of raising an only child. Because most of us have pensions and a small amount of reserves. Parents of both sides work together to create a happy family for their children. Pay for taking care of your grandson. Therefore, you can spend your old age safely without dragging your children down. ...

I only have one daughter, and now I'm married. My husband's home is in Dalian and we are in Qiqihar! Two children work in Dalian, my wife is retired, and I still have one year to retire! This also immediately involves the question of what to do in the future!

After communicating with our daughter and son-in-law, we also bought a house in Dalian, not far from our children! My daughter and son-in-law mean that I will live with them in Dalian after retirement! But to be honest, we don't want to live with children! A lot of inconvenience, so we bought a house! Although it's a little farther than a bowl of soup, it's good to walk for half an hour!

When we are in good health, we can help them take care of their children, get together for dinner every three days, and then go back to their home in the evening.

Especially now, with the growth of age, the health condition is getting worse and worse, so it is convenient to get close to children. If something happens, the children will take care of them nearby, lest they worry about having the strength to do it!

As for whether to hire a nanny or go to a nursing home if you really can't walk, let's talk about it later! They must work, live and raise children! It is really unrealistic for two children to take care of the elderly on both sides!

Everyone wants their children to be filial and stay with them! But the reality is really helpless in front of us! Step by step!

As the saying goes: when firecrackers sound, children are raised for nothing!

I think: parents of one-child families should not have too much hope for their children to provide for the elderly. The greater the hope, the greater the disappointment!

Cultivate children into adults and talents, and thank God that they are not old, Amitabha!

It is possible to provide for the aged: by falling down every day, by sinking into the ground, by leaning back against the mountain and drying up by the sea!

Instead of relying on the government and children, it is better to rely on your wife and the old couple! It is better to rely on yourself than to rely on others, and it is better to save yourself than to ask for help!

As the saying goes, a good son is not as good as a daughter-in-law and a good daughter is not as good as a son-in-law. Children who marry far away are not as good as their neighbors: distant relatives are not as good as their neighbors, and neighbors are not as good as their neighbors!

If the only child gets married and settles down in his hometown, works and lives, and has his own small family, parents should not expect them to die of old age, so wish them a happy life! I wish them a hundred years later, their children can honor their parents and give them a pension!

Parents of the only child should not give their property and money to their children prematurely. The old couple had better leave a way out for both sides. In case their children are unfilial and don't give up providing for the aged, they still have property and money in their hands. The old couple can also provide housing and money for the elderly.

In other words: the house was transferred to the children, and the money department was given to the children. Even if children and women have filial piety to support their parents, what if their daughter-in-law and son-in-law are unfilial? What should you do if your son, daughter-in-law and son-in-law are ungrateful baiwenhang? How to support the elderly without a room ticket? Daydream: the government stipulates that only five-guarantee households without children can be adopted by the state free of charge!

It seems that sometimes, we try to make money and raise children. When you are old, you still can't raise children to prevent old age. The consequences of getting old are not as good as the five-guarantee households without children, alas! What a world this is!

To sum up, I have a hunch that if the adopted children can't support the elderly, who will spend money and try to have children in the future? Who is willing to give birth to the motherland with 5,000 years of civilization? If the number of heirs decreases year by year or in a cliff-like way, it will not be as simple as raising children to prevent old age and carry on the family line. Perhaps, it threatens national security, national population security, and the unguarded national territory! Personally, I think.

One-child family, the daughter is married, what should parents do in the future? You mentioned that this problem involves thousands of families. At present, there are many one-child families, and the state has also issued a series of corresponding policies to help the elderly in the one-child families provide for the elderly.

Judging from the actual pension market of the elderly, it mainly depends on individuals to accumulate their own pensions and go to nursing homes for the elderly. The state provides minimum security for urban and rural residents who have no jobs or social security. Basically, you don't need much money from your children to support the elderly, and you don't have to worry too much.

First, it is mainly that individuals accumulate old-age care; In the future, the pension for the elderly will mainly rely on everyone to accumulate for the future pension from middle age. Usually, you can't spend all your money. Your rich children are still around you and proud of you. Really, when you have no money, your children will stay away from you. Now, people's pension owners rely on their own pensions and the money they usually accumulate to support the elderly, and they basically don't ask their children for money. At this time, is your child also at a critical time? How about training children to find a wife in the college entrance examination? This is the most difficult period in their lives.

The second is to support the elderly in nursing homes; For a family without a son, it is impossible for a daughter to come back to accompany you all the time after marriage. Generally, when you are about 70 years old, you go to a nursing home, where you can play cards, play chess and chat. Many old people talk about the past and what happened in the world together without much trouble, which reduces their worries. They are in a good mood and are not worried about food. They often exercise and live a long and healthy life.

Thirdly, the state grants 300 500 yuan/month old-age subsidies to urban and rural residents who have no jobs or social security, thus reducing the financial burden of the elderly and the burden of the daughters of the only-child families. For the old people who have jobs, wages and pensions, their wages and pensions can basically meet the needs of pensions. They don't need much money from their children, so they need their children to visit their parents more, so they can be satisfied.

In short, the one-child family, the daughter went out, and the old couple were a little lonely. Daughters and sons-in-law should take more time to go home to visit their parents and help the elderly bring some delicious food. They can't go home empty-handed They can't just talk about key issues. They should take action to care about the food, clothing, housing and transportation of the elderly and not let them be lonely. They should play with the old people regularly and meet the outside world, so that the old people can be happy. If their children can do this, the old people will be satisfied.

It's not just about the only daughter.

Due to the restriction of the one-child family planning policy in previous years, there are many one-child families, and both daughters and sons will face great pressure in the future. According to the existing laws and regulations, it is their unshirkable responsibility and obligation to support their parents, whether they are daughters or sons. Even if a daughter gets married, it doesn't mean that she divorced her parents, and the responsibility and obligation of support will not disappear because her daughter gets married. There is no problem in this regard. The problem is that both sons and daughters will face great pressure to support four old people. If the elderly have pension or endowment insurance, then there is no problem. If the elderly have neither pension nor pension insurance, and their children have no ideal job and rich income, then the difficulty of providing for the elderly can be imagined.

How to solve this problem? Individuals alone do have difficulties; It is unrealistic to rely entirely on the state. In my opinion, it is necessary for individuals and countries to work together. On the one hand, as an old man, we should have foresight and self-reliance and make preparations for our retirement as soon as possible. You can't pin your hopes for old-age care on your children or the country too early, and muddle along. When you are young and strong, you should work hard and earn more money. In addition to paying the old-age insurance money in full and on time, we will accumulate some old-age funds. As children, we should try our best to be filial to our parents. When the elderly can't support themselves due to physical reasons, they should have a sense of urgency, make plans early, buy old-age insurance for them in time, provide necessary support and help, and relieve the pressure of old-age care as soon as possible, so as not to be overwhelmed and get into trouble after Cui Zi. As a country, we should pay attention to the problem of providing for the aged in the one-child family, give some support and help, and give appropriate subsidies for the aged. Because these old people actively responded to the government's call to share their worries for the country, they consciously chose the one-child policy and took the initiative to take birth control measures. They are exemplary practitioners of the basic national policy. When they have difficulties in their later years, the government should help them, so don't chill their hearts. Only in this way can we win the trust of the people and ensure the smooth implementation of the party's line, principles and policies.

As long as the above three parties shoulder their respective responsibilities and work together, the problem of providing for the elderly with only children will be properly solved and their old age will be guaranteed. Don't worry about this, I believe that the country must have the means and ability to solve this problem. May all the old people have a sense of security and happiness in their old age!

The daughter of the one-child family got married. Economically speaking, providing for the aged is not a problem. Most of the two old people have pensions. The focus of the problem is that the daughter is married and no one takes care of the two old people. This situation is divided into several aspects. First, the same one-child family, the man also has the same problem. If the man is also an only-child family, he still faces the problem of providing for the aged. Some people will suggest that the man can live with his wife and parents. Similarly, a woman can live with her husband and parents. This phenomenon is quite common. No matter which parent you live with, you can't abandon the care of the other parent. A couple have to take care of four old people, but they can't take care of them anyway.

Second, reality. In fact, in reality, whether it is a one-child family or a multi-child family, few children live with their parents, unless there are some filial children or neets. Two generations live together, and because of their different living habits and ways of doing things, conflicts will inevitably arise after a long time.

Based on the above situation, it is unrealistic to rely on children to take care of the elderly. How to solve the problem of parents' support for the elderly in the one-child family?

The key problem is to save some pension money in hand, and the problem of pension can be solved with money. One, go to a nursing home. At present, nursing homes have no welfare attributes, and most of them are social nursing homes. Although the state supports land and taxes, the investment in nursing homes and the salaries of employees must be supported by people who enter nursing homes. So now nursing homes are charged. If you have money, want to live a collective life in a nursing home, want someone to take care of you, and think that in case of an accident, a nursing home is a better choice.

Second, hire a nanny. This is also a way of providing for the aged. Ask the nanny to do housework and take care of yourself. However, the nanny fee is relatively expensive, and the third-and fourth-tier cities generally cost 4,000 yuan a month.

About, if you are a retired employee, your one-month pension will be given to the nanny. It would be nice if both old people were alive. One person's pension is used to pay the nanny's salary, and the other person's pension is zero. If you are alone, unless you still have money in your hand. Therefore, if you have money, you will not panic when you are old.

Third, if you don't have the heart to use the abacus of money, you can only live for the elderly alone, day by day. If you are ill, you have to arrange for your children to take care of you. If you are not sick, you are lucky. Enjoy your old age.

When the national policy was implemented, their parents both stepped into the ranks of the elderly and were fine in the same city. If both husband and wife come from two cities, their parents' pension problems really make them want to cry. Let me give you an example:

Ms Huang, from Huangshan, Anhui, was admitted to Zhejiang University with excellent results fifteen years ago. After graduation, she worked, got married, got married and had children in Hangzhou, and a foreigner was completely integrated into Hangzhou.

In recent years, her parents' pension problems have made her want to cry. She is an only child with working-class parents. Their retirement wages add up to 8000 yuan. Her parents, who are nearly 80 years old, are increasingly unable to take care of themselves.

She tried many methods, but all to no avail. 1. Hire a nanny: In Anhui, the salary of a live-in nanny is nearly 5,000 yuan, and parents have almost no savings, so they are rejected. 2. Hire hourly workers: They can only solve the problem of three meals a day. 3. Go to the nursing home: The nursing home costs 2,000 yuan per person, and the price is reasonable. There are doctors, chaperones and canteens, and all aspects can meet the requirements. Now relatives must be on call within 24 hours, which is stuck. 4. Take your parents to Hangzhou: Private nursing homes are expensive and unbearable. It's no use calling the hotline for help from the municipal government. She really wants to cry.

We understand Ms. Huang's pain. She has her own job, children and family in Hangzhou, and she has to pay back a mortgage of nearly 4,000 yuan every month. She is indispensable at home and abroad. If she goes back to take care of her parents, her husband's salary will certainly be difficult to cope with all this.

She is depressed, she is helpless, and she doesn't know how to solve her parents' pension problem. Thanks for your support. What do you think after reading this topic? You are welcome to express your views in the comments section. [Rose] [Rose] [Rose] [Rose] [Rose] [Rose] [Rose] [Rose]

After retirement, if conditions permit, the old couple can go to the city where their daughter lives and buy a house closer to their aunt's house, which is convenient for them to take care of each other. When nothing happens, the old man can help with the children, and if the old man is sick and has difficulties, his daughter can also take care of him.

The only daughter and the only boy are only children! The only child is male and female. Daughter is better, and it is better to raise' old'. Now, as you can see, those who gave birth to their only daughter live very well in their later years. Times have changed, boys and girls are all the same, and they are all inheritors. Girls are all married and married. And some boys are worried that they can't get home. Enlarge your heart, have a good daughter and be healthy. This is the real blessing of people.

Nowadays, all sons are old-fashioned. How many sons have you met who support the elderly?

If you don't have the money to give your son a bride price, marry or buy a house, do you want to wait for your son to support the elderly? Dream On!