Why do you say that you are underestimating the leadership?

China people pay the most attention to "face" when dealing with interpersonal relationships. The leader's face is damaged, which will make him feel that you are hostile to him and that his authority is threatened and damaged. Therefore, subordinates must pay attention to saving face for leaders when making comments.

China people are the most face-saving. This preference originated from 5,-year-old culture and is deeply rooted in the network of ethical social interpersonal relationships. Almost no one can be spared.

A good face is actually to be harmonious and "harmony is the most important thing". Everyone has a clear sky on his head, and each of them is happy. This is a unique way for China people to deal with interpersonal relationships and cater to the whole society. China people's "face-saving" philosophy is revealed from the "meeting ceremony" in which Chinese people compete for money in restaurants to the wedding reception. Therefore, as far as the tradition of China is concerned, in public occasions, people pay more attention to face, not only to give others face, but also to win face themselves.

The other side of this "face" philosophy is that you will never tear your face first unless you have to. Even the opponent, whose heart is full of profound hatred and vicious schemes, still smiles on the surface. Once someone dares to call a spade a spade and lose face to others, it is already quite hostile in the eyes of China people, and even signals a challenge. Because logically, we can easily infer that the first thing is to tear the face, it must be out of necessity, or coercion, or resentment and have to send it.

The leader is also from China, and we are all from China. Even if this philosophy of "face" is wrong, in the cultural atmosphere and social environment of China, we will inevitably apply the unique thinking habits and patterns of China people and draw similar conclusions. Therefore, when you have different views on a decision made by the leader, you must put it forward in an appropriate way to save face for the leader.

first, we should take care of the dignity of leaders in public.

In the eyes of leaders, if their subordinates make themselves embarrassed and lose face in public, then the subordinates must be hostile or prejudiced against themselves, and may even make an organized and premeditated public attack. As a psychologist said, "People like people who like him, and people don't like people who don't like him." In this way, the result of not leaving face for the leader in public is that the leader will either give a tit-for-tat response and regain face by exercising authority, or he will hold a grudge and take revenge slowly by settling accounts after the autumn.

naturally, this kind of result is not what subordinates want to see when making criticisms and opinions, and it also goes against his original intention. He probably forgot that both the leader and himself are from China, and they all live in the same society full of human feelings and pay attention to interpersonal harmony.

leaders pay great attention to their face in public, especially when other leaders or many subordinates are present. This is not only because there is a cultural subconscious at work, but also because leaders need to maintain their authority from the perspective of exercising power. This need has become more intense and even indispensable because of public inspection.

if prestige is damaged, the effectiveness of the exercise of power will be lost. It affects the decision-making power and influence of leaders in future decision-making, implementation and supervision. Because people can't help asking, is everything he said right? Will it have the desired effect? ..... In this way, the subordinates will have more doubts in the implementation, which will inevitably reduce the effectiveness of leadership power. Because the more obedience, the better the effect of power will be. The exercise of power must be based on effective obedience; Without obedience, power will be empty.

Self-esteem is the most hurtful thing, because it touches people's most sensitive areas and dampens the belief that "people are what they are". Losing face in public shows that the leader is losing effective control over his subordinates, so people can't help but doubt his personal ability and even his personality. Therefore, no matter who is in this situation, the first reaction is definitely anger, rather than rationally analyzing the content of the opinion. Then, a series of actions since then must be very emotional. Even if he covers it up with dignity and propriety, emotional anger still exists, and this shadow will submerge your beautiful impression and make you suffer from trouble and regret in the future.

Therefore, when a leader is hurt by his subordinates in public and loses face, even if it is inconvenient to attack on the spot, he will be jealous and even retaliate in the future. Because if he doesn't do this, there may be others who will blame him in court and make him unable to step down. The truth of "kill one and do a hundred" and "kill the chicken to show the monkey" is precisely because of this!

In the Tang Dynasty, Wei Zhi was also a confidant of Emperor Taizong. He was always used by Emperor Taizong, but he tried to kill Wei Zhi because of his loss of face.

once in the court, Wei Zhi made a bold face in front of the courtiers and directly remonstrated something, which made Emperor Taizong blush and lose face. However, Emperor Taizong was still a clear and promising emperor. Considering that he once called his minister "Don't hesitate to say everything", it was not easy for him to be in court. But after the strike, he shouted angrily, "I will kill this hillbilly one day!" " When the eldest grandson asked him who he wanted to kill, Taizong said, "Wei Zhi often humiliated me in the imperial court." The queen was shocked when she heard this, because Emperor Taizong had killed people because she didn't listen to the minister's advice, and she knew Taizong's temper, so she used her quick wits to make Emperor Taizong suddenly wake up by congratulating him in court, thus avoiding his death. However, after Wei Zhi's death, Emperor Taizong still sent someone to tear down his grave tablet, which is probably why the anger in his heart has been smoldering for a long time.

just think, if Emperor Taizong was not so wise, he didn't have such a big mind and magnanimity; If the queen didn't come up with a good way to intercede for Wei Zhi; If Emperor Taizong didn't trust and understand Wei Zhi so much, I'm afraid Wei Zhi's head would have moved. The experience and lessons in this can't but be thought twice for subordinates and taken as a warning.

Therefore, when subordinates give advice to leaders on public occasions, they must pay attention to saving face for the leaders.

saving face first shows that you are kind to the leader, out of concern and love for the leader, and to help the leader do a good job. Only in this way will he be willing to analyze your opinion rationally.

saving face also shows that you respect the leader, and you still obey his authority. Your opinion does not mean that you are criticizing him, on the contrary, you are thinking about his work.

In fact, saving face means leaving enough room for yourself, and subordinates can use this room to have more in-depth exchanges and discussions with their leaders in private. At the same time, this room also shows that subordinates only exercise certain suggestions, while leaders still retain the authority of final decision, leaving room, which will also enable subordinates to advance and retreat freely. Once the opinions put forward are not exact and appropriate, there is still room for them to find face.

Of course, we say that we should pay attention to the leader's face when giving opinions in public, not to encourage subordinates to be "have it both ways" and "good guys". We are very much in favor of giving more valuable suggestions to the leaders, and at the same time we express our deep respect to those who are outspoken and dare to break the ice. Our focus is only on paying attention to the occasion and discretion, and paying attention to the ways and methods.

Historical experience has proved that if we only pay attention to the original intention and rationality of giving advice, but ignore its actual effect, such advice can only bring disaster to subordinates. We sincerely advise every subordinate to save face for the leader in public.

second, it is more acceptable to make suggestions by asking for advice.

Giving advice to the leader by asking for advice will make the leader feel respected and help you find a common ground acceptable to the leader. It will increase your mutual trust, which will help reduce friction and hostility and make your suggestion more acceptable.

When a subordinate puts forward a suggestion and tries to make the leader accept it, it depends not only on the rationality of the suggestion content itself, but also on the rationality of the suggestion content itself, and often depends on the way the subordinate puts forward the suggestion. Pay attention to the ways and methods of making suggestions, that is, always pay attention to the psychological feelings and change trajectory of leaders, that is, ask subordinates to obtain the psychological approval of leaders first when making suggestions.

many experiences show that it is easier for leaders to accept suggestions by asking for advice.

asking for advice is a low gesture. It shows that subordinates have carefully studied and scrutinized the leader's plan and plan before putting forward their opinions, and treat the leader's thoughts with a serious and scientific attitude. Therefore, the subordinate's suggestion should be based on respecting the leader's viewpoint, and it is likely to be a useful supplement to the leader's viewpoint. This impression will undoubtedly make the leader feel relaxed, thus reducing some hostility to your suggestion.

We all have this experience: when you are a senior high school student, you will meet junior middle school brothers and sisters asking you all kinds of questions, asking you to talk about your learning methods with admiration, and so on. At this time, no matter how unhappy and busy you are, you will answer every immature question with a little pride and get some psychological satisfaction from their eyes. If we can calm down and analyze this experience carefully, we will find that the sense of accomplishment is deeply rooted in the hearts of each of us. Others ask us for advice, which shows that we are superior in some aspects. If we are worshipped, it is probably a bit excessive, but it is true that we are at least valued and have a certain influence. The sense of pleasure and pride we feel when being consulted by others is often not consciously realized by ourselves, but it dominates our emotions and even our reason. Every healthy and sane human being will enjoy this feeling, even leaders are no exception.

the gesture of asking. It is not only formal, but also meaningful in content, so that you can personally listen to the leader's thoughts in this regard, which are often the emergence of his true will, but he did not explain it in public, and it is likely to be an important aspect that subordinates ignored when considering problems. In this way, before putting forward your own opinions, first consult the leaders' ideas, which can make you advance and retreat freely. Once you find that your ideas are not thorough and thoughtful, you still have a chance to stop immediately and improve your suggestions after you go back. If your suggestion only stems from the failure to understand the intention of the leader, then your suggestion is not only meaningless and worthless, but also exposes your own weakness, which is by no means a blessing to you.

asking the leader for advice is helpful to find out your similarities. This similarity includes both the consistency of the plan and your psychological mutual acceptance.

Many researchers have found that "identification" is an effective way for people to understand each other and persuade others. If you try to change someone's personal hobbies or ideas, the more you equate yourself with him, the more convincing you will be. Therefore, an excellent salesman always makes his tone, volume and rhythm commensurate with his customers. As psychologist Haas said: "A brewery owner can tell you why one beer is better than the other, but your friends, whether knowledgeable or not, may have a greater influence on which beer you choose." And influence is the premise of persuasion.

Experienced persuaders often need to know something about each other in advance, and are good at using this known situation as a "base" and "foothold". Then, in contact with each other, first seek common ground. With the increase of things in common, the two sides will become more familiar and feel psychologically close, thus eliminating doubts and wariness and making it easier for the other party to believe and accept your opinions and suggestions.

Before making suggestions, subordinates should consult their own leaders, that is, to find the similarities in conversation and establish a mutually compatible psychological foundation. If you are making supplementary suggestions, you should first clearly affirm the general framework of the leadership, put forward your amendments, and make some minor or partial changes and supplements to make the leadership's plan or viewpoint more perfect, convincing and effective.

what if you raise an objection? Some people will say, where can we find the same point? In fact, * * * similarity is not limited to the content of the scheme itself, but also lies in cultivating the psychological feelings of * * * and making the other party willing to accept you. Moreover, it can be said that the more you are prepared to object, the more likely you are to incur hostility, so the more you need to find similarities to alleviate this hostility and gain the psychological identity of the other party. At this point, although you may not agree with your boss's point of view, you must show respect and show your rational thinking about it. You should put yourself in the position of the leader to consider the problem, and based on sufficient factual materials and accurate theoretical analysis, talk about your own views in consultation and analyze them in listening. As long as you are well-founded, the leader will give up his position and listen carefully to your suggestions and opinions. In this case, the leader is easily persuaded to adopt your opinions and suggestions.

consulting will enhance the trust of leaders in their subordinates. When you communicate with each other in a sincere manner, the leader will gradually rule out the speculation that you are deliberately picking "thorns" and that you don't respect the leader, and gradually understand your motives and begin to restore trust in you.

Social psychologists believe that trust is the "filter" of interpersonal communication. Only when the other party trusts you will you understand your good motives. Otherwise, if the other party doesn't trust you, even if your motives for making suggestions are good, it will become something else through the filtering effect of "distrust". This kind of thing is often distorted and skeptical, which makes it impossible for him to analyze your opinions and suggestions rationally, and every word you say will be linked with your "bad" motives.

Li Da, a great representative of China's * * * production party, is also a close friend and fellow countryman of Mao Zedong. Once, he had a heated debate with Mao Zedong for a slogan at the entrance of Hubei Echeng County Committee: "How bold people are, how productive the land is", but his opening remarks were made by consulting.

Li Da asked Mao Zedong, "Run Zhi, how bold people are and how productive the land is?"

Mao Zedong said, "This slogan is as dual as everything else. One sex is not easy to understand, and the other sex is to give play to people's subjective initiative. "

Li Da asked closely, "Your time is limited, and mine is limited. You said this slogan has duality, but you actually affirmed this slogan, didn't you?"

Mao Zedong asks, "Surely? What about negation? "

Li da said angrily, "affirmation means that people's subjective initiative is infinite. The exertion of people's subjective initiative is inseparable from certain conditions. Although I have never been a soldier or a Long March, I believe that a person can "take one as ten" if he wants to work hard. But and while one man guards it, ten thousand cannot force it, it is necessary to have terrain conditions. People's subjective initiative is not infinite. People nowadays are too courageous. Runzhi, you are not too timid now. Don't add fuel to the fire, otherwise it will be a disaster. "

Then, Li Da went on to say, "Your brain.