"The more mature people know how to give up resistance! 』

Hemingway once said: "It is not noble to be superior to others, but to be superior to yourself in the past."

Every time a person experiences pain, he completes a transformation and meets a better self.

Most of life is accompanied by pain. We must learn to resist pressure and rise up to resist before we can keep moving forward!

But sometimes, learn to let go of resistance and accept pain, in order to really gain and grow!

The heroine of the TV series "Warm String" is warm. When she was a child, her father died in a plane crash and her sister committed suicide. She blamed herself for all the reasons and couldn't get rid of the pain, so she was seriously ill!

After her illness, in order not to let her family see her painful appearance, her subconscious chose to forget that painful memory, thinking that she could start a new life!

But the more so, she suffers from insomnia from time to time. As long as she mentions the past, she will be stimulated and have a splitting headache!

When the counselor treated her, she said, "Why do you want to recall these painful memories over and over again? Now that you think of these painful past events, you should face them and give up resistance, so that you can let yourself go. "

In a book, an effect called "white bear effect" is introduced:

In other words, the more you want something, the more frequently that idea appears in your cognition, and it will be unforgettable for a long time.

Just like some painful memories, the more you choose to escape, the more they will ruminate on you and eventually get you deeper and deeper!

Trouble, heartbreak and hardship in life are inevitable. If we confront each other, it will only make the pain more intense. It is these extra pains that ultimately constitute our pains.

Don't resist pain, and don't deny it!

We are miserable not only because of the immediate pain, but also because we hit our heads against the wall of reality-we are full of depression because we don't think it should be like this.

Some people deny the existence of pain from the beginning. They refuse to admit the reality, so they have to deceive themselves or escape from it. This may make us feel good in the short term, but it will lead us to live in unsafe, neurotic and depressed situations.

Letting go of the resistance to pain and accepting its existence means that even though we may not like what is happening now, we will admit that it has indeed happened and let go of our obsession that things are not what we want.

Let go of resistance and learn to accept the reality, so that you will not be in a state of high pressure and continue to torture yourself!

Let go of resistance and let you face the reality and pain, and your mind can be truly healed! Open up new routes!